Should I tell someone, keep it a secret, or what? I really care about her and I don't like the fact that she's hurting herself. Help please?
2006-09-10 10:52:50 · 14 answers · asked by woot 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
OMG you guys are so nice i didnt know people would respond that quick. THANK YOU. and whoever told me to buy band aids that wasnt very funny........
2006-09-10 11:06:54 · update #1
try to convince her to go to counseling. be a good friend and tell her you'd go with her if she wants you 2. if that doesn't work than you should consider talking to ur or her mom. if that's a possibility. Good Luck
2006-09-10 10:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Here2Help 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Telling her parents is a real no no. You need to find out more details because her parents could be the problem...you need to find out a lot more information about why she is cutting herself. Self mutilation is a strong indicator that she has or is suffering some kind of abuse. She has opened up about her cutting herself, the next step is she will tell you why she is doing it. Find that out first. Once you find out the reason, then you will know what do do and if you dont, then post another question on here when you find out what her emotional problems are and you will get the advice on what you will need to do. Be the good friend you obviously are and get this girls trust, dont tell anyone just yet, find out the cause, then you will be in a better position to really help your friend. Do it quickly though, because this girl is going to need professional help. And you may just have to take matters into your own hands by involving a professional whether she wants to or not.
2006-09-10 18:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't really do a lot, all you can do is be there for her, let her know that you'll support her and support her as much as you can. My little brother is a repeated self harmer and it becomes an addiction after a while. Its painful to see my little brother hurting himself, just as it hurts you to see her friend hurt herself but its mainly a result of psychological problems, issues in her mind and life that she cant deal with, just make sure that you can listen when she needs to talk and be there when she needs a shoulder to lean on. The only way to help her is to be what you are, her friend. Good luck, I hope everything works out for the better just as it is for my brother :-)
2006-09-10 18:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by LilMissLunatic [YummyMummy] 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cutting isn't just a random thing that people do -- it's a sign of a deeper psychological problem. Your friend needs psychiatric help, and if she's under age 18, she can't refuse it. (I assume it's a "she," since most cutters are female.)
As far as whom to tell, I'd recommend a school nurse, guidance counsellor, or church youth leader/pastor. Before telling someone else, though, you might consider talking to her yourself. Explain that you love and care about her, and want her to get help from a doctor to get better. Of course, if you go that route you should be prepared for her to get very angry and possibly end your friendship (remember, she has a psychological problem...)
Good luck.
2006-09-10 18:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Eric 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her what you can do for her. She obviously wants some form of support, so ask what that is.
Be there to talk to her, and listen to her, and most importantly, don't judge or laugh at her. Whatever her reasons are, find out and see if there is anything that you can do to lessen her emotional load.
Good luck.
Recommend that your friend seeks counselling, or at least sees her doctor about this.
2006-09-10 18:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her then you need to tell someone. She may end up one day seriously hurting or killing herself. Just know if you decide to tell she will be angry and may not want to talk to you again. But that's OK she is your friend and it is your responsibility to help her. Better off to have her mad then dead!
2006-09-10 18:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by niaflower 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Self-harm is usually an indicator that there is some serious issues going on in the cutter's life. She needs to seek counselling. If she will not go, tell her to talk with a trusted adult. Offer to be with her for support.
2006-09-10 18:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to her and if she seems like she doesnt want to stop or like its the only short term solution to her problems then you really need to go to someone and try to get her help, because she can be preparing herself for suicide. last resort do whatever you can to get her some help, because i had a friend who killed herself her junior year of high school it was obvious that she was preparing for it but noone did anything now shes dead.
2006-09-10 18:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by nikki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend and encourage her to get help. If she won't, this is worth a trip to the hospital. A friend of mine was talking about committing suicide and said he tried. Because he said he wanted help, I didn't take him to the hospital. He followed through and got the help he needed.
2006-09-10 18:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont tell on her. you need her trust if u want to help. yet dont just sit there. helpo her find other ways to deal with her emotions. maybe try hurting or cutting a stuffed animal or a doll wen she is angry. it sounds wierd but it works.
2006-09-10 18:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋