My boyfriend is dependent on me most of the time. I love him a lot, and want to see him grow and start setting long-term goals for the future. Not just for us.. but 4 himself. Any advice?
2006-09-10 10:10:45 · 9 answers · asked by sparkley_ca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to talk to him and let him know how you feel that its time that he sets goals for himself as well good luck !!
2006-09-10 10:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, after lots of struggles w/different guys and their maturity...I can tell you there's not much you can do in terms of that. Men mature at different speeds than women,so unless your bf is approaching 50,I'd say give him time. As far as making him more independent...well don't let him depend on you. I've had this problem,as I'm sure most women do, men tend to lean on us. Show him you are your own person,and tell him about your long term goals. If you want him around for the long term,express to him you want a guy who's independent,strong and motivated. Good luck!
2006-09-10 10:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by *Juicy Princess* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going througn a similar problem with my boyfriend,you could try the tough love thing but he has to want to change too. Don't make things so easy for him,you don't want to be his co-dependant. Tell him that things will have to be done differently for now on and start laying out with him what you want to see changed. And if he doesn't want to help make things better that he should consider if he want to be in a relationship with you or not.
2006-09-10 10:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to locate independence!! those ones are those that are gonna have worry transforming into up and accepting responsiblitys! the parents are those that are placing there son up for faliure!!
2016-09-30 13:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by cosco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol boys mature thats a first he will be independent but mature no way I didnt lol
2006-09-10 10:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by jbmasterdragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help him--it is up to him to be more independent.
2006-09-10 10:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him be single and grow as an individual. then if he truly loves you and needs you in his life, he'll come back to you!
2006-09-10 10:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't try to change him. You either deal with it or leave him.
2006-09-10 10:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by vlg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make him do anything that he doesn't want to do
2006-09-10 10:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋