I always feel unworthy an inferior to other people and I can't seem to make any friends.
2006-09-10 10:10:44 · 12 answers · asked by curious1 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, for starters, you've got to have faith and believe in yourself. You've got to like yourself before you can like others, and love yourself before you love others. It doesn't mean to be narcisstic. But I've heard Dr. Phil say it in his TV show, his TV special, interviews, and has mentioned it in his book, Love Smart, too. It'll help you get confidence and self-esteem back and gain friends and influence others. Be yourself too!
2006-09-10 10:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop living and believing on your feelings---feelings are fickle! They come and go, up and down. Find out the truth about yourself by reading the book of Ephesians in the Bible's New Testament. Personalize it by replacing the pronouns with your own name. Ask Jesus to set you free through the renewing of your mind by reading what He has to say about you and your worth! I think you are a valuable human being created in the image of God and would be even if you were the last person on earth. It's because of Whose you are!
2006-09-10 12:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loads of people have the same problems that you do buddy. I guess that one of the things you could do is visualise. Think about the person that you would like to be, in your mind. Think about how that person walks, how that person talks, how that person acts.
The people who we all associate with confidence are the ones that seem to have that sense of calm about them. They are never rushed. They talk calmly, and slowly, in a quiet voice. They walk slowly, with big strides, taking in their surroundings. I know it will take time, and effort, but I promise that if you make a big effort to be the person that you want to be, and accept that there will be mistakes along the way, you will eventually be a more confident person. Good luck, take care.
2006-09-10 10:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some affordable counselling sessions. They seem to help a lot. If you are a student, your school/college should have some free counselling services. Take advantage of them.
Try to volunteer few hours a week for a sense of worth and deep-gratification.
Workout regularly and eat healthy. Be simple but look pretty...that should help a lot.
Good luck..
2006-09-10 11:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Isha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all the same. So give up on the inferior thing. If you are trustable, you are worthy to be someones friend. Go where the people are.. the store, library, the mall... in school? do activities that you like... there's more people there.
2006-09-10 10:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Boliver Bumgut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The LORD has made great changes in my life. He's there waiting for you if you don't know Him. Also, I listen to Charles Stanley (he's a preacher) and he gave a wonderful sermon one day (actually, he always brings a powerful message from God's Word), just about what you're speaking of. He said to change the tape recorder/player in your mind. All the ugly, hateful things anyone has ever said to us is being replayed in our minds over and over. Record new thoughts. Christ can renew your mind. He did mine. God bless and I'll be praying for you.
2006-09-10 10:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by Saved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has his up and down days. There is no reason for anyone to feel inferior. Every person has his own personality and talents. You know your talents which are your stong points.
I suggest you read some articles on selfesteem.
http://www.bestselfesteem.com
2006-09-10 10:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Darek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. Takes me years just to make 1 friend. Actually, now that I think about it I only have 1 friend now lol. Just be yourself thats the only advice I can give you. "and if you think your too weird or just too crazy to be yourself, like me, then be even crazier than you normally would be for your first impression." then finally when you tone it down to your average crazy self you really dont seem that crazy anymore
2006-09-10 10:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by conap31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by not asking anyone else to answer that very question for you.
Confidence is born and bred from within. You have got to learn and realize all on your own what you are worth and decide to whom you are worth it.
"You teach people how to treat you." Lou Tice
2006-09-10 10:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once like you, I prayed to Jesus that he would banish Satan from my soul and I accepted Jesus into me. Trust me you will feel much better. The Truth will set you free!
2006-09-10 10:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋