So, I am 25 have a 3 yr old son, we moved to a new area with my mom.This is our last chance- if this doesn't work out we will be homeless. I spend hours looking for a job so we can get a place and not have to depend on my mom.My mom is a meth addict and will lash out at me and my son, from time to time, well this last was real bad and she told us we have to leave tomorrow. I have three options: Give my son to his deadbeat dad(literally) and girlfriend till I get on my feet, beg my mom to stay ( the enviroment is so crazy) , or live in a shelter/ street with my son? I would rather die than have to sleep on the streets with him.My hometown-Friends and family, babydad-8hrs away. We are stuck, with no help, and I do't know which way would be most beneficial. All my options suck. Where would you go?? All my family back home, are either in similar situation, or already helping someone else out. . .
2006-09-10 09:39:40 · 12 answers · asked by DatGurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We moved to Southern California-- ad i have a Medical Assistant Certificates. But my mom wont watch him during interviews and I don't know any one out here. I found a church ad we are going to their service tonite-- The Homeless Shelter line I called-- said they are not in a good area-- the lady on the phone said-- as a single women with a child-- she wouldnt go there. I am just in a bad place in my life-- and like quick sand-- I can't get out or stop it-- I know i have to stay strong-- but I am ready to give up. . .
2006-09-10 09:54:51 · update #1
Signed up for Public Assistance back home-- So it is still active there-- 8 hrs away-- and they said they are transfering my case-- but still no benefits this month. .
2006-09-10 09:57:14 · update #2
Even though the situation at your mom's place is not perfect, at the moment it would be best to stay there. Going on the streets should not be an option, when you have a place to stay.
Start looking for a job, find a local church, or other organization that might help you with daycare while you are at work. When you have some money saved up (it might take you 3-5 months), then move out.
Do not move out until you have some $$$. I wish you the best. Take care of yourself and your son.
2006-09-10 09:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Просто Я 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear what bad luck you're having.
Sounds like the shelter is your only option.
But before you give up your son, try this.
Go to a church and ask the priest/pastor or whoever, if you can borrow money to get back home. You family is your family and should take you back in without thought.
From there, you can keep looking for a job locally and a family member can watch your son while you work. Make it a 'tit-for-tat' deal. You'll work and help support the household while one of them watches your son for you.
And be sure to send the church back the borrowed money as soon as you can. Even if you have to make it in payment style, it'll show the preacher/pastor that you're not a lost cause. It'll also make you feel better knowing that you're not a lost cause and that there is really hope, luck and trust in world.
2006-09-10 09:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey, no one has to be in a bad situation. If you find that you and your son are without a place to live, go immediately to a shelter. Get online now and start looking for places that will accept you and your child. When you call, explain your situation thoroughly and completely and let them know that you WILL work and you do need help, you have no where else to go. A shelter cannot turn you away. While you are there, utilize the child care that they have and go find a job. If you're not doing something right, they have career classes where they teach you interview skills and dressing for success. They even have housing assistance to get you and your child on your feet. Don't be afraid. Do what you have to do for you and your son even if it means struggling and then put his deadbeat father on child support. You can do it but you have to be determined to help yourself. Your mother needs help that you can't give her and that is not your problem. When you are more stable and on your feet, then try to help her but until then, you have a life in your hands and that is most important.
2006-09-10 09:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where you live? What government social services have you exhausted in order to get help? Do you belong to a church? You need to find a larger pool of resource-fast. Your family is clearly not enough. I cannot help you directly. You might also try the boys town hot line. They're used to dealing with emergency situations such as yours. Just get on a pay phone and dial zero and ask for the boys town hotline.
2006-09-10 09:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't you go and get public assistance? check with the local job and family services?? I don't know where you are so it is hard for me to know what is available there. Maybe be a live in nanny? Check on craigslist for a room mate and get a job as fast as you can. I hope you are not on drugs to because then you will never have money and you want to be a better mommy to your son than your mom is to you. If you want to e-mail me your location you can and I will see if I can find any programs in your area.
2006-09-10 09:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by deadheadartist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get to Kansas City Missouri I can give you a place to stay and help you find a job without any problems. I am a single parent with three children and I have a huge house and I am a property manager so as soon as you get a job I can get you into one of my properties and know tons of agencies, etc that can help you. I have resources out the wazoo! I can't afford to get you here but I promise this is no joke email me and I will get you my number and I will do everything I can to help. cptv8ing@yahoo.com.
2006-09-10 11:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by cptv8ing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the commerce of you town and see if they have shelters. Some places have apartments you can stay in for free for a month and they will help you find a job.
2006-09-10 09:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have a sister or other family? if not, try a shelter. while youre in the shelter, look for a job. you might could get a GED online or something to help get a better job
2006-09-10 09:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by .::country gurl in a 4X4::. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a shelter...That way they will be able to provide a roof over your head while you get your affairs straightened out. Good luck to you.
2006-09-10 09:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what city you are in. It would help to know so people can make specific suggestions.
2006-09-10 09:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋