and recently she's been either throwing something on the flr in front of her or demand someone to pick something up for her even if it is in front of her. my family thinks i am not doing my job as a mother b/c of tantrums.....what should i do?
2006-09-10 09:38:41 · 15 answers · asked by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
by the way....i dont give in- i make her keep demanding until she does it herself or gives up altogether
2006-09-10 09:39:53 · update #1
that is the best approach is to not give in. she will learn my kids did the same thing it has nothing to do with your parenting, kids test you to see how much they can get away with and once they learn that it doesnt work they usially back off of the behavior all together. best of luck
2006-09-10 09:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by tiffany a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen... truly listen to this and your life will be so much better. Be stern. I know that you feel bad being "mean" to him but you can't let a 2 year old child have any idea in the world that you are there puppet. Whatever you say to your child make sure you come through. There is nothing else worse than empty threats. If you say I am going to put you in your room if you do _____ again, you best do exactly that if they do. Use tones which are a lot more easy for children to understand necessarily then words. Don't yell but speak strongly while making eye contact. They will do what you want them to do once they realize that Mommy isn't going to give into me anymore. These are the years that they develop there personality and if they walk all over you now they will walk all over you years from now and honestly they aren't going to remember you being "mean" to them at this age. Think about it... what do you remember from when you were 2? Good luck and please try this. It will be hard at first because they are used to getting there own way or you being soft but he will soon forget that Mommy and start to respect this one.
2006-09-12 14:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Just Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you are the mommy and do not have to do what she says. This is a tuff one but, you have to make sure that she knows you are the boss, not her. Also if any tantrums might turn into this, try putting her in time out before it comes to her yelling at you. This will stop the bad behavior quick. Just make sure that you are strict for a while.
3=three minutes in time out
4=four minutes in time out
and so on
2006-09-10 16:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work at a daycare and there is a little girl there that does this i just ingore her, then she starts to grab at my leg and run into me and back up and does it again until i have no more patients so i then pick her up and set her in time out everytime she tried to get back up i would just sit her back down, until it got to the point i had to phyiscally hold her there while she was screaming and everyone starring, but i never had to do it again. Then when she stopped i spoke to her in a gentle voice telling her i was not going to deal with this i wasnt her house keeper i was her teacher. I only had to do it a couple more times until she completely shopped doing this.
This is a horrible stage kids go through lucky for you though you only have to deal with your child i have a class full of them.
My advice stay strong like you are doing.
When she says she isnt picking it up just nag back and tell her to and ingore most kids get annoyed with nagging and do it, some you have to actually sit in time out.
Just make her listen now or when she gets older she wont listen to you at all.
2006-09-10 17:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family needs to realize that she IS three and sometimes they throw tantrums. Your doing a great job not giving in. Dont let their comments discourage you.
2006-09-10 17:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing a great job. The best thing with a toddler is consistancy. She will learn just takes time. you must make sure everyone follows your lead otherwise the cycle of you give will not end or will at least take a lot longer to brake
2006-09-10 16:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by tjjkara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably one of the best mothers out there!!! Don't listen to your family members. They don't see you all the time, who cares what they think? Don't give in, you are doing an excellent job!! (sometimes the "terrible twos" don't come until they're three)
2006-09-10 16:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a "time out center". When she throws a tantrum for a stupid reason, put her in time out. Be consistant with it. If she throws a tantrum...TIME OUT! 5 minutes at the most. If this doesn't help, ask your pediatrician.
2006-09-10 16:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like a typical toddler to me - they all have tantrums and i think what you are doing is right, by not giving-in your showing who is boss - these early years are the ones which set them up for life, it is essential that they know they are not going to get what they want by stamping their feet. no one likes a brat, brats develop into troublesome teenagers. keep strong, you will be thanked one day.
2006-09-10 16:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your doing fine, but what also might work, is to take her aside and let her know that her behavior in innapropriate. If she continues, take her to a time out spot and let her stay there for an appropriate amount of time.
2006-09-10 16:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by di12381 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋