ok this is gonna be a lonnnng qu, get ready!!
I went out with a guy for 2 weeks,i met him a the beginning of uni and we liked eachother since then, but never got it together because we're both pretty shy. Once we did, he found out he'd failed uni, and so he had to move to Leeds for jobs etc.
He's coming to visit everyone at uni, and there's a rumour (no idea if it's true) that he wants to stay in my room in halls while he's there.
I also met another guy from Leeds, via msn, spoken etc to him for almost 3 years now, we got on great, we did kiss, but he's never said he actually fancies me. He's extremely shy, and never had a gf. He wants to come visit me at uni too.
I don't know whether I should wait around for the 2 nd guy and see what happens, or see if something could happen again with the 1st.....help?!?!!
oh and another ex is visiting his mate there too and is being creepily flirty as he's just dumped his most recent gf, but i want nothing to do with him...but he hates the 1st
2006-09-10 09:38:31 · 26 answers · asked by northukstudent 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there was only one rumour....that the 1st guy wanted to stay with me while he visits
NB: single beds at uni! cozy! ha
2006-09-10 09:42:52 · update #1
i definitely don't want to do something with all of them...i have higher standards
the 2nd guy is older and probably more mature
2006-09-10 09:43:42 · update #2
Tony S - i've not slept with ANY of them, so don't judge me you moron
2006-09-10 21:35:10 · update #3
Try not to worry about it all - just relax and go with the flow. There's no point in worrying about something until it happens - if something happens with the 1st guy when he comes to stay then reassess the situation then.
Good luck with all of it!
2006-09-10 09:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The second guy has actually told you he wants to visit you, the first guy is just hearsay & he can't expect you to wait around for him until he decides he wants to see you. And don't even think about the guy that's on the rebound, that's definitely a no no.
I think you need to tell the first 2 guys about each other & find out their intentions, then you need to tell the third guy to piss off & leave you alone, after all, he is your ex for a reason, don't forget that.
2006-09-10 09:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by stumpymosha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go out with guy one, but don't let him stay in your room, say you feel you dn't know him well enough for that yet, which is probally true. just treat each day as it comes.
Same with guy two, who if he has stayed in contact with you for three years probally fancies you. If you really care about him and he is that shy, you will have to 'bite the bullet' and ask him how
he see's you. try to work out aftr these dates which is the best option. soundslike you don't owe either a full time commitment at this stage. probally best if you forget about the ex or just keep him as a friend if possible.
2006-09-10 09:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dark Mark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can try to draw the second guy out a little. He seems like the kind of guy who may need you to make the first (and possibly the second) move.
2006-09-10 09:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with how you feel. You need to decide who you care for the most. None of this necessarily means you have to have sex with any of them unless you want to,but if you have to ask people then you probably shouldn't.
2006-09-10 09:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by vlg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to choose which of those guys that is the best for you. You alone know which one of them you will want to have in a relationship.
You a lone know their pros and cons. Use your head and not your heart in making the best decision for you.
2006-09-10 09:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Premio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush it. If you feel rushed, then trust me it's not for you. "Be anxious for nothing but the things of GOD!" A man will always respect everything that he has to work hard for, and that's in every aspect of life: His home, his finances, his degree, his car, and definitely his wife. Trust me if you make him want you more and more each day, by beautifying yourself, and taking pride in yourself, he will appreciate you more when he finally gets you.
2006-09-10 09:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by kialavalamp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl the first thing that i thinky ou need to dob is look in the mirror and see whats there that you like the most what person help the quality strive then you have to follow your heart
2006-09-10 09:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it may sound wrong but when all come into town set different dates and go out spend the whole day with them and find out which one you really have strong feelings for ur heart cant be in love or in like with all of them when you find the one you want to be with you'll know for sure...just trust your judgement
2006-09-10 09:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by whitetigereyes8485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thanx for the 2 points lolol
2006-09-10 09:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by ★HigHTƹcH★ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋