I have been told by the last 3 men I have dated that they needed to feel like I needed them more than I do and that I intimidate them with my outspoken nature and intelligence. Why would that be considered a bad thing? I like to have fun and I am very loving as well. Serious answers only please.
2006-09-10 09:27:59 · 11 answers · asked by PlainLana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not a bad thing... but I guess the men u date would like to feel dominant. Like u need them. U know, open doors, pay for ur meal, maybe even order for u...kind of stuff. There are women out there who want to be taken care of too, and there are men out there who are secure enough to let a woman be her own...and relize that when she needs him, she'll let him know. See, when u get involved, u hope there's leverage...something that'll keep u with the person. For men, it's knowing that no other man will take care of their woman as well as they are. But if ur independant, he can't count on that fact with u...so he has to think of something else...and since most men are physical(money,sex, etc), they probably don't think they can provide what u might need(emotional support, a smart guy to talk to) etc.
2006-09-10 09:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are pretty much the same in the states as they are in Canada, Lana. I find an intelligent, successful, engaging female as a good prospect for a partner...in bed, in life, in business...everywhere. I have been made to feel, more than once, that I could be traded in on a whim. This is when I was "with" someone who was better off financially than I was. A lot of women who have means and power come off as cocky and spiteful due to their past experiences. If you're really serious about trying to attract someone, you might want to be mindful of these perceptions. Stay in touch with your female side as you maintain your identity and strength.
2006-09-10 16:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am told the same thing, that I am intimidating. Thank god I found a man who is comfortable being who he is, that he doesn't need me to be a needy, clingy girlie girl.
I actually had to look the word up when I first heard it and it means to "instill fear". Now why being a strong individual with a mind of her own would be someone to fear is beyond me so I am going to keep track of the replys you get so perhaps it can shed some light on my situation as well. So glad you asked it ! : ) *high five*
2006-09-10 16:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thank you! somebody who understand that you can be self suffiencent, but also desire affection. Men have told me I'm a bit*ch or why I am I so rude. Those guys are the ones that are insecure about themselves. They need a poor, hopeless girl to call on them for everything. Don't worry about though, when you find a MAN that will accept for how you are and is comfortable with his own self, you'll be fine.
2006-09-10 16:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you seem intelligent. Off the bat, the scares the crap out of me. Guys know that girls are smarter (I know this is falacious reasoning, but just hold on) but they don't like to feel stupid. Now, don't be confused. It's not bad to be smart, but you may not have a lot of things in common with most guys. They will find it hard to get close to you, and your definition of fun may be different from theirs.
2006-09-10 16:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by MM&FF 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women are looked at differently than men are. He stands his ground, she doing the same is a bi*tch.
The guys you met felt inferior to you and that is a hard one to swallow. You need to meet someone with enough self confidence to match your own.
Men are taught to, and feel they have, to be the anchor point in a relationship. If you take that upon yourself you are essentially emasculating them.
I have never had the good fortune to meet someone like you sound.
Being above average is a lonely fate, but you are who you are (unless you opt for a frontal lobotomy). ;-)
That's life.
2006-09-10 16:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are maybe jealous because they think you are smarter then them,men like to feel needed just like we do,why don't you just let them do somethings for you like change the oil,cut the grass,fix something around the house.also don't try to know everything and let them have some control in the bedroom,not 100% but at least 50%
2006-09-10 16:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It simply means that you're on top of them. Try finding a guy who is atleast as intelligent as you.
2006-09-10 16:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by ETHAN'S ROSE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women that are outspoken often come across to guys as being bitchy.
2006-09-10 16:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
since most men, and I stress most, don't have to many brains, they tend to be more comfortable with the bimbo types
2006-09-10 16:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋