OK, at school, there is a girl that I really like, not only here looks, but her feelings, ect.
Now, I am very shy, and I know I could never in a million years, 'ask someone out', just to make that clear.
As I said, I really like, love her- I would do anything for her, and if anything happened to here, I word defend here as much as I possibly could. I think, I am very sure that she relly like me.
She is much like me- very shy.
What do I do to show here that I like her? Please help!
2006-09-10 09:25:57 · 27 answers · asked by MrRSMan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. I know her very well- in the same class, but we don't talk much atall
2006-09-10 09:59:26 · update #1
Just tell her that you love her really so much! Don't be shy! She really loves you too! Try it! Time is running out!
2006-09-10 09:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by -lhan- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pay attention to her. Show interest in what she has to say. Eye contact is important. Here is a good trick, works especially well with a girl you don't know or just met, when talking to (or in) a group make more frequent eye contact with the girl you are interested in. Talking about something humorous is your best bet. Throw a smile in here and there. It is subtle but it does a couple things, shows confidence and gives attention. This will make it easier on you to because even though you are basically talking to her it doesn't feel as direct. I know this seems almost like doing nothing but believe me, girls are VERY intuitive and, yes, she will pick up on it. Pick up lines are crap and bulldozing you way into a conversation is about 50/40 chance maybe less. I know what you are thinking, where's the other 10%...no one knows.
Also, and this is very important, don't don't don't, over do it. You sound like you are pretty over the top for this one. If you puppy dog her you are doomed. Subtlety and self confidence are your keys. And when its time, if she seems to enjoy hanging out or being around you don't be too shy to move forward. The bottom line is, when its time, you have to squash your fear and give it a shot or someone else will.
2006-09-10 17:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by JDOGG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you have feelings for someone you hardly know?
And how are you ever going to get anything in life that you want if you have no ambition to go for it. If you want to lead a happy and satisfying life don't let opportunities slip by, you will hate yourself.
It would be better that you get rejected by her then to always wonder if she would have been with you if you just asked.
Just come right and tell her how you feel and would like to know if she feels the same way or just casually ask her to hang out - movies or dinner.
2006-09-10 16:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a nice guy.
It stinks that you are so shy. I am not shy at all so I'm having a bit of trouble trying to tell you what to do.
I think you must think if you want to be together someday you have to make a move.
Talk to her or smile at her. Just simple little things. You really need to be able to hug her before you go out, or else it would be one of those weird going out things where you never even talk to each other.
Everyone has an outgoing side. You just need to show it.
Best of luck!
2006-09-10 16:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok,first,I will say that I am NOT an expert of any kind in relationshipology.Now,that being said,There's an old saying that 'nice guys finish last'.I do NOT believe that.But I do believe that shy guys finish last.I used to be shy,just like you,so I know where you're coming from.Then I realized that it wasn't getting me anywhere,so I made a point to be more outgoing.I didn't change who I was,I just started talking to people more.The simple fact is that she will not know that you like her unless you tell her.I know,it is very difficult to do,but which is worse,working yourself up to go and talk to her,or waiting too long and seeing her go out with someone else?I wouldn't suggest you mention the word 'love' to her just now.Just go up to her sometime when she's not talking with a crowd of her friends and tell her something like,you think she's really nice,or really cool and you would like go hang out with her sometime,or you think it would be nice to go see a movie or something like that.I wish you success.
I hope this helps.Oh,yeah,one more thing.Believe in yourself.
2006-09-10 16:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by brainchild0069 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are hundreds of people out there like you that are too shy to ask someone out, and end up losing that person. If you ask her out 1. you will face your fear of asking someone out 2. will probably end up having the gf of your dreams 3. you be proud of yourself
You can become her friend first...and you can tell when a girl likes you back. Listen to her, watch her body language and dont be afraid of rejection. whats the worst that can happen? The suspense of it all is a worse feeling. :) so stop waiting, take action! good luck!
2006-09-10 16:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buying flowers is a gift with no need explanation. get her best friend to get her locker number or have the office call her down to get them. make them bright and happy flowers with a little note asking her out...i wish a guy i liked would do that to me i mean how could i resist. and if you like her enough you wouldnt care what anybody would think, because you want to express yourself. but hey you said you would do anything for her, try not being shy for her! It could lead to a happy loving relationship. give hugs too!
2006-09-10 16:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by buying her small gifts, within your budget, to show her you definite interest. Take some time to search for a card to tell her exactly what you would love to say, or if you have lime wire, and a burnable CD ROM, then find the song to minister to her. Music is a ministry in itself.
2006-09-10 16:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by kialavalamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said you're shy, but break out of your comfort zone and ask her out already. There is nothing to worry about if you think she likes you as well. Much love!
2006-09-10 16:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jesuslovesyou! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a million years..i may never be able 2 ask her out....but...i can defend her...take a stand for her....fight for her...go dat xtra step for her...BUT...i can not ask her out...
do u want 2 wait till da day some1 comes n asks her out...n u'l be left wid a regret in u...dat u were never able 2 tell her how much u love her...n wud do netin 2 have her...my friend...
Love is 2 open ur heart out 2 her..xpress ur love 2 her...if u really do...love knocks our door once...n if u really want it...u wud not in a bazillion cases wud let her go...
dont let ur feelings inside...dont waste time...thinking of da outcome..cos if u ask her out through some1 else..she will probably think u dont have da guts 2 face her...& most importantly...girls like guys who r bold n have da courage 2 xpress their feelings...
wat u decide is up2 u....whether u be bold n win her...or wait for a miracle 2 happen n she wud ask u out...( do u think it wud EVER happen ?? u kno it wont )
take a deep thought n take ur decision
2006-09-10 16:37:36 · answer #10 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋