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Just found out that me and my wife are having a girl, and, amongst all the proper sensible questions we have, we keep coming back to how we should describe a girl's 'private area'. My wife called hers her 'fairy' when she was younger, which is bloody ridiculous. I am an only child, so no sisters to ask. Also, all the girls I have been out with have called theirs things that I don't really want my child knowing....

2006-09-10 09:22:19 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

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That's so cute, saying "bits". Generally, this kind of thing is family oriented or regional, so it could be called anything. Just what would you call your penis? A penis? Right. It doesnt need a special name, it's just a body part, and just because its GENITALIA, there isnt a need to be nervous. The answer-er above me is right - calling it what it is educates and creates a safe environment. You wouldn't give her a funny name for her arms or legs would you? Of course not. I don't think you should worry about the "concern" of people wondering what you should call it, because when she's two, and she's pointing at it, saying "Mama, Daddy, what's this?" You're going to have to say SOMETHING. Just tell her the truth. Now when she asks what it's for, hit the deck. :D

2006-09-10 09:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Flamingpoptart 2 · 4 0

Well, why would you not want your child knowing good Anglo-Saxon words as opposed to pansy made up Victorian terms? (I think I agree, though, that some words have become dirty through misuse!)

I think that 'fairy' sounds like a euphemism for 'fanny', which is not a bad word - a lot better than 'labia' (which is what the most obvious part is.) 'Front bottom' is worse, if anything, than 'fairy'.

You will, no doubt, be getting into the ante-natal routine and possibly getting to know parents in your area. You will want to use a word which won't cause your daughter embarrasment when she goes to school (in 5 or so years time). Do a little research locally and see what other parents terms are. Your doctor or midwife could be an invaluable source of privy information, too!

2006-09-10 09:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0 0

How about the proper name for a girl's "private area" - A VAGINA.
Let's teach our children the correct names for our body parts. Isn't that the mature thing to do? I think it sounds more ridiculous to call our private parts anything different than what they are called.

2006-09-10 10:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Absolutely do not listen to those 'rational' voices that insist you use the 'proper' words (vulva or vagina, for example). These, though anatomically correct, are sexually-charged words. This is not appropriate for a girl-child. Use whatever 'nonsense-word' is most comfortable to you. Make one up . . . 'Tu-tu', or something like that. When the child is older, it is easy enough to explain that there is now a different way of describing her anatomy. She will even feel she is growing up when you do that.

2006-09-10 13:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Barks-at-Parrots 4 · 0 0

My mom, sister, and I all called it various things... the poopoo and the peepee, front and back butt, private parts/ privates, girlie hole, etc...The older we got, the more gender specific our language got. For ex., both boys and girls have a poopoo and a peepee, but girls have a vagina and boys have a penis. Untill the end of potty training (or until a sibling of the opposite sex appears), the first should suffice. Make the name coincide with the part's function, is all.

2006-09-10 11:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0 0

I have had boys and girls, we always called the girls one a lily and the boys a willy. We all know you'll have to teach her the 'correct' name one day but when kids are little there is no harm in using a fun name for it - you only have to see how many people answering this to realise how many remember a silly name for it! so lighten up all !!! they can call it what they like, theres nothing wrong in that

2006-09-10 09:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by b7jac 2 · 0 0

In our humble Scottish household it was a "wee peach". However in asking this question you have probably tempted fate and will now have a boy. In which case may I suggest 'chipolata'. Your wifes suggestion makes for confusion the day you declare you are going to wash the dishes with your fairy. Congratulations anyway! Great question.x

2006-09-10 09:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by Alice S 2 · 2 0

I think the people who find you asking this "concerning" to be very immature...as a parent you will find a time when you have to refer to their "bits", it's all part of it- there's nothing pervy about it- so grow up.

Vagina just sounds so medical, and insenstive, and fanny is a bit horrible, I think "bits" or "girly bits" is pretty much the best- but your daughter may develop her own word for it as she grows up. Boys are so much easier with "willy". I grew up reffering to it as minnie, so if you like that- you can have that term. Fairy is quite sweet- and so was flower...

2006-09-10 09:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Personal Angel 3 · 1 0

Hey calm down!...don't get paranoid about it. Iv'e got 2 girls and a son, we started off telling them the wrong things only to regret it later.
Just use their proper names but make it fun and above all keep it simple!

They learn a lot quicker than you think, if you start calling their "bits" the wrong things, they will find out from their friends and then who will look the fool? They will...and blame you for lying!

2006-09-10 09:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 2 0

I have 4 girls and have always from day 1 referred to their bits as a flower ... Fairy sounds nice too lol

2006-09-10 10:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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