well ive been with my girlffriend for a year now. wer both 15. her parents talk about me that am rich just cuz i have a driver, they dont even know that i come from a good backround. i asked to meet them a couple of times, they keep on denying though. they realy dont wanna understand the fact that ther daughter has grown up, and its her age. now her mom is kinda worried that shell have sex at an early age or drop out from school, or even get married. i dont blame her for worrying about her daughter, but maybe if she meets me and know who i am, i can probably show them that i'm gd enough. her mom had the same problem wen she was her age, but that was liek in the 70s. what her mom doesnt understand is that wer not in the 70s no more, everyteenager now a days doesnt wanna get married before 25, every1 wants to finish school. if i can just get a chance to explain this to them it would b great. the dad was a real lokoer at our age and was alwayse playin girls, he thinks am the same as him.
2006-09-10 09:14:19 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They're worried about their daughter. It's not you. They probably think that possibly your appearence or the thought of hearing you is not to it's highest level. You have to show them that you are a good person and win their RESPECT. They want a guy that's best suited for their daughter and if you have those qualities that parents admire, then you will like you. You have to show them that you respect them and you care about their daughter. Maybe prove to them and yourself that you are top-qualitiy boyfriend material.
2006-09-10 09:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe it's because you're both 15, and the fact that you're barely out of puberty, and the fact that it's their daughter--they have every right to be concerned.
You shouldn't have a very serious relationship at such a young age.
There's not much that you're going to be able to do to change their minds. Just be kind to your woman and treat her right, but don't do anything you wouldn't do if they were sitting in the same room with you. And just as you say they're stereotyping, so are you. Not everyone wants to finish school, and not everyone wants to wait until they're 25 to get married. You have to understand where they're coming from and respect it if you ever want their respect.
2006-09-10 09:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to take it personal. A daddy is almost never going to like a guy his baby is dating. Hard truth. My dad didn't like the rebels, the straight A students, none of them were good enough for his little girl. And, at 15, parents naturally do not want their kids tied down to one guy. Yes, it can lead to things. They want their kids out there experimenting, dating having fun. I wish I had done more of that. Fathers always automatically assume that boys are gonna think the exact what they they did. The worse her father was as a teenager the more he's gonna worry. He will compare you to himself.
When I was 14 I hooked with a guy and we were together until I was 16, and I ended up loosing my virginity to him. When you are with someone for a long time, you begin to grow more comfortable with certain things. And things happen, whether you plan them or not. If you really like her, stick around, and her parents will eventually open up to liking you. Don't do anything sneaky. Some advice too, the more time you are willing to spend with them will show that you are not trying to hide anything. Get her to invite you to family functions, dinners, and so on. Plan activities for her and her parents to join you, as often as you can. I know you like alone time. But... time with her is time with her right? If you include her parents you can still have a good time, they will get to know you, they will begin to feel comfortable with you. The more time you spend with them the more likely they are to drop some worries. And, for your sake, as a high schooler, try to avoid times when you are alone. Make sure you're with friends, or at least parents in the next room, go to the movies, so on. You can still have private time, without the temptations of other things. If you two want a real shot at a relationship then you will wait to take it to that level. Sex changes everything and ruins things. You are not mature enough to handle the emotions involved with it, no matter how mature you think you are. And I am speaking from experience I'm only 22 not really old. 16 wasn't too long ago for me, and I still remember my first time. The guy and I still talk all the time, and we talk about the mistakes we made, and if we had waited maybe we'd still be together. Just be smart about it. And good luck with her parents.
2006-09-10 09:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they continue to refuse to meet you in person, maybe you could write them a letter letting them know how you feel about their daughter and your intentions. I think her parents are a little on the over-protective side. But you really can't blame them it is their daughter. If you really care for this girl, I feel this is your best bet. Just be as mature sounding as you do in the question you asked. Any help with the letter and it's contents, let me know, i'd be glad to help. You sound like an upstanding young man.
Remember this: no parent wants to see their children make the same mistakes as they did.
Best of Luck to you two!
2006-09-10 09:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This method works for almost anyone. Fiest off, there are some people you will NEVER get along with, but there are ways to make htem be civil to you:
Do waht ever you can to be OVER NICE to them. You will notice that my being extra-chatty and just relly, relly nice to somebody, nicer than you would normally be to someone, they can not help but be nice back, even if it's just smiling slightly!
Easy! To test this, imagine someone really doesn't like you, and you pass each other in the street, walking. Imagine that you stop them and start talking, all the while smiling. They can not be nastly back!
2006-09-10 09:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by MrRSMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you make sure you do not screw up. Meaning No Baby's, make sure you both graduate, and get married before you start a family. It seams that her mom just wants the best for her daughter, and at that age does not want her daughter to be all about a boy. But if you rally have feelings for her then don't let things get to you. Be smart. Have a child hood before you have a family life.
2006-09-10 09:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No parents like the idea that their little girl is dating. Its a father/daughter thing mostly. The thing is just to remember that you arent going out with the parents...you are going out with your girl. When you two start growing up and maturing more, you will know more on how to deal with this. But until you do...just be careful and do the best you can. Its just a parent thing. My dad never liked anyone I dated, until I became 27. You two are young and have more growing to do. Just be safe and continue being a good guy. Be patient with yourself and her parents. They will come around if you continue behaving. Good luck.
2006-09-10 09:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by peachturnover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well seems like there isn't much hope for you then... If they are denying a chance to meet you than they obviously don't respect you at all. One comment to your question- not everyone wants to finish school, and lots of people do get married early. The mother and father must realize, however, that their daughter is growing up, and at least you want to meet them and have their approval.
2006-09-10 09:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Taryn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Omar, you just gotta hang in there. And don't get her pregnant or anything like that. At 15 you guys think that you are all grown up, but for us parents who grew up in the 70's you guys are like babies!! Its very weird for us to think about our kids being big enough for bf/gf.
Keep trying. Maybe even have them over for dinner if you family is open to that. If there are big social differences, IE your family being very wealthy and hers poor - that could be an even bigger struggle. But, just be strong and hang in there. You are a fine young man and eventually it will pay off.
2006-09-14 09:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just literally go into their house and say that it would mean a lot to your daughter as well as me if we could sit down and talk or have dinner or something. Don't bring up your upbringing or why you have a driver. Just explain to her parents the reasons why your adequate enough to date her daughter. Never say you are better than their daughter
2006-09-10 09:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by ATR068 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋