i love my boyfriend a lot however he told me he doesnt love me. when were together though i feel like he does from the way he looks at me and acts around me. he said he only wants something casual. would you stay with someone you thought you loved even if it wasnt returned. im scared of getting hurt.
2006-09-10 08:49:04 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only you can decide.
What do you want from the relationship?
If you are satisfied with casual sex, no commitment and the possibility you will be left as soon as he finds someone that he prefers to you then stick with it.
If you are hoping to spend the rest of your life with this person and have a family then I would suggest that you are going to be seriously disappointed and you are probably better off getting out of the relationship sooner rather than later.
In my opinion, looking at the numerous similar questions you have asked, you need to let go. You have said in another question that your b/f is moving away soon to attend university. So now seems an ideal time to begin to look elsewhere for someone that can love you.
2006-09-10 09:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by John H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day, he is being honest with you by telling you that he doesn't love you and only wants something casual. Even though you love him, you know that there is no future with him.
Basically, if he means what he says, then you can either have the heartache of splitting up with him now, or later. Which would mean you got over it and moved on more quickly?
You could stay with him for months or even years, never quite being happy and always feeling a bit hurt because deep down you know it's not a "real" relationship for him, then split up with him and have the heartache of getting over it.
Or you could leave him now, have the heartache of getting over him a lot sooner, but be free of him and the relationship a lot sooner too, and then move on and give yourself the chance to meet someone who will care about you as much as you care about him.
It's your decision, and nobody can tell you what to do, but I will say this based on my own experiences: One thing I really wish I'd learnt sooner was when to leave and spare myself the ongoing pain of something that just wasn't right, because in the long run you hurt for less time.
2006-09-10 16:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just a one way street by the sound of it. You are giving all the loving and he is doing all the taking. If you stay in a relationship like that then you will get hurt in the long term. He will eventually leave for someone else if he isn't already sleeping with someone behind your back. Take the initiative now and dump before you really get hurt. I know its hard to do but it will the best thing to do rather than carry on and ignore whats going for the sake of a dead relationship. Good luck.
2006-09-10 16:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer to your question No I would not stay with someone who did not feel the same way about me as it will end in tears and the longer it goes on the more involved you get and the more hurt you get.
My advise is this you are a special person in your own right and deserve someone who will give you all the love you have to give back. Let go completly no text,no phone calls and no seeing and try and rebuild your life for you yourself you are a person a human being and deserve a lot more. His LOSS your GAIN. Once you are able to do this someone else will come along.
2006-09-10 16:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi no i wouldnt stay with someone who didnt love me back,as i would just be being used when someone out there could be so much better and treat me with more respect and love me back. You are better off without him i know it may be hard at first as you do love him but time heals everything, so they say.
If you havent been going out long and you have fell in love already then he might just need some time to fall in love with you. Especially if you have been dating for a few months, but if you are talking years then its time to kick him to the curb and get a real gentleman. You dont need guys like him messing you around in your life.
Your hurting yourself right now just staying with him knowing he doesnt love you. Finish your relationship before it gets worse and starts taking you for a mug.
2006-09-10 16:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is something casual somthing wrong with you? I dont know about all your situation, but if you think he like you more than he says, give it time and just be there for him. Being best friends is important before you get more serious. You both need to be able communicate freely on any subject. In time he may be able to tell you he loves you. There might be more to the reason he doesnt want something more serious at this time.
2006-09-10 15:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by kevin T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he does care a lot, and he doesn't want anything serious for now but it will be only sane to listen to what he told you. if he doesn't love you there is no point for you to stay aroudn waiting for something. However, if you do stay where you are now, despite the fact that you are with someone who doesn't return your feelings the only sensible way to do it is to remember that it's only you, it's not for long, until all you have for him is gone. But beware of the danger of getting carried away: you get even closer emotionally, it will hurt like hell.
2006-09-10 17:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope I wouldnt. No matter what you think he feels, if he cant admit it then hes not worth having. you get one shot at life and it seriously isnt worth wasting it on someone that doesnt love you back. Casual often can be defined as convenient - what bloke wouldnt like a girl on tap - all the benefits of a relationship WITHOUT the commitment - stuff that - youd deserve better for yourself. Sure it wil be hard leaving him, but youshould be with someone that loves you, that isnt just using you.
2006-09-11 04:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no id get out and maybe find someone that could return my love . He's being honest with you and unless you want something casual you'll only end up getting hurt
2006-09-10 16:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by danni.k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I fell in love with someone knowing they didn't love me, I would put up with them not loving me, even though I knew it would end in heartache. When you love someone that doesn't love you it's hard to give them up because you live in the hope that they will fall in love with you. Unfortunately, they don't usually, and you do get hurt, but hopefully you can look back and think, well I enjoyed my time with them and I learned something. I learned to spend my time with people that want me not someone that doesn't care.
2006-09-10 15:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋