she has no respect for her little sisters. she is over controlling ,and she has so much anger in her .I try to give her alot of time to get her life back to normal because her father died last year.and she was put throught alot, but i really dont know how to handle her. I feel that she needs counceling but she also likes to lie alot and she seems to have jellousy issues with her little sister but her anger makes her hit,punch,kick, and other things but she keeps on going but im afraid that the way she is going she is going to end up like her father in the end and that scares the hell out of me and i feel like im doing everything for her but but its no use she does these things over and over again she also has a step brother but she seems to be jellous of him to ,but please if anyone knows an answers please let me know because i need all the help i can get.(web sights,phone #s) anything at all thank you so very much
2006-09-10 08:42:12 · 14 answers · asked by melissa d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
even tho her dad died dosnt giv her any excuess at all to be hiting things EVER. she needs to go to counceling to help relaser her anger and jellousness. my sister actualy acts the same way alot of the time. and after she went to counceling it helped her alot. its not a bad thing to go to counceling and if she countinues acting like that , you should put ur foot down and tell her to stop. she dosnt need to act like that no excuesses after a whole year.
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2006-09-10 08:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by hunter w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only 8, and that is such a sweet age where everything should be cotton candy and pink bubblegum for a kid, but she has gone through alot so... now it's your turn to take over. Start by taking her out with you by yourself for an ice-cream and a long stroll in the park. Talk to her as best as you can and tell her how much she's hurting you and everyone else around her. Tell her that is not normal and that you are willing to go get help along with her. Take your time and talk to her counselors at school or even a social worker. Do it ASAP, before it really gets out of hand.
2006-09-10 15:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyinred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 years old is still very, very young. she doesn't know how to handle her grief. Anger is a part of grief, especially anger at the person who died(for going off & leaving them). This happens even with grown ups. Guilt is another part of grief & children often think that it is somehow their fault that a loved one died. Your daughter needs grief counseling NOW. Her Dr. can probably point you in the right direction. If money is a problem your state will have counseling available on a sliding scale program. You might be able to get this information from the school counselor but whatever it takes, please get this help for her. You will be very glad you did.
2006-09-10 15:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by mazell41 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You brought her to earth. You are responsible to look after her feelings at the cost of your sacrifice. That is why you are called a mother. You didn't care for her feelings and didn't respect her rights on your heart. Now, how could you ever blame such an innocent poor little child for being not able to share her mother. If the child of 8 years age is not liking her step father that means there is something wrong in that person who was supposed to be fatherly to her.
Your Child is victim of injustice. So, please, be decent to her and let her feel your affection and love for her rather than boasting about it in crowd and pointing her as a problem child.
2006-09-10 16:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by krishnendu c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit her down and have her vent her feelings, fears and whatever to you. At that point and time; don't judge or scold or whatnot, just listen and comfort her. Then explain to her that you don't expect her step-father to take the place of her father but he is trying real hard for her to be accustomed to him. Then you need to agree to set aside some time for just both of you every day.
If she doesn't improve even a bit after two weeks or so, counselling is your best bet.
There are some great resources on google as well.
2006-09-10 15:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are taught respect by example , at a young age. Children need correction and discipline. You have to be stern and constant, let her know who is boss. Sit her down and explain there is not a competition or favortism going on between siblings. If there is not? She does not need counceling she need direction,and love from her mother!
2006-09-10 17:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your family Dr. and school counselor as she needs some help with controlling her anger and why!!
2006-09-10 15:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go to a therapist by herself and then go with her. And maybe take the rest of your family once after she's had time with the therapist.
2006-09-10 15:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Kiddo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how she fells because I lost my mother when I was two but if she gives her stepfather a changes she might get to like him and if not tell your mother.
2006-09-10 15:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by pandas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would give her a room with a punching bag in it. JK. Do you disipline her right? Have you seen a therapist?
2006-09-10 15:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by nicole30822 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋