My husband will not listen to what I have to say about the Lord. And he refuses to go to church with me. I do not want to force my religion on him but I just wish he would let God into his life. I don't want him to go to hell. How can I get him to listen? He always says he doesn't want to hear me preach to him. But it's not like I am forcing it. I just tell him things like Jesus died for our sins and he wants us to be happy and we need to thank him. But he just brushes it off and says "whatever". What do you think about it?
2006-09-10 08:38:39 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ok... I got some decent answers but just to everyone else know I asked for help on how I can help him see the truth. I didnt want to be told that I should leave him alone. It is my duty as a Christian to spread the truth!
2006-09-10 11:11:24 · update #1
If he's asked you NOT to "just tell him things" like Jesus died for him and that he'd be happiers in heaven with god if only he repented his evil ways, etc etc etc, then you ARE preaching to him and you ARE forcing it. I doubt having 20-30 people tell you this is going to get the point through, but... you asked so I'm telling.
You cannot and should not harrass the lord into his heart. If you ever DO badger him enough so that he breaks down and goes to church and goes through all the motions, you won't've achieved anything... he'll most likely be bitter and resentful and reject the whole thing all the while going along with it to keep you off his back.
Just..... do your thing. Be an example of why he should convert. If he SEES that your faith is right and that it makes sense, he'll come over to your side. And if he doesn't... at least you lived your life the way you saw fit and so did he. You CAN'T make your personal reality his and vice versa. You'll have to agree to disagree CIVILY if neither of you changes.
2006-09-10 08:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
St Francis said,"Preach the Gospel, use words if you need to."
At the moment your example is the best way to preach to your husband. A Christ filled life will speak louder than words.
Keep praying, never give up, and be ready for the day when he asks you to explain your beliefs - so make sure that you will be ready with the answer.
2006-09-10 08:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by hippoterry2005 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. My ex used to tell me that I was always trying to prove that God agreed with me! I would tell him that God didn't agree with me on anything, but that I agreed with God. We went round and round, but he never listened to anything I had to say.
Read I Corinthians 7:14 "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean, but now are they holy." Also continue down the passage for a few verses.
Rather than try to convert him, let your life be an example to him. Let him see Christ through you and your actions. If he still chooses not to believe it will be his doing, not yours. Each of us is responsible for our own belief. And if he does it just to shut you up, then it isn't genuine and is of no use to him anyhow.
2006-09-10 08:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT HAS CHANGED ABOUT YOU HUSBAND SINCE YOU CHANGED?
You loved him and was pleased to dwell with him, he is God's Child also. Jesus has it covered as he tells in his word.
MARRIAGE
The man[or pair], will leave father and mother and cleave to each other as one flesh,
There’s not to be abuse, misuse and trouble, both works toward bliss and happiness,
The family needs a decent environment as clean and education in God’s word at best,
There must be a budget and strict care of it to have the good name no one is careless.
Matt.6:9-13[care for debts]; Matt.19:4-9[one flesh]; #1. Good common sense.
Decent employment must be a goal that is accomplished for every plan to be a success,
The present day location and time,surroundings as country, city, state for a safety list,
Make sure all things are in order and functions and goals for each day will pass the test,
Be sure to remember to devote the time needed to your helpmate first, to all others next.
Gen.2:20[help meet or help mate]; # 2. Fruits of Gods spirit or conduct becoming man.
If as for a believer or a non believer and your pleased to dwell together in marriage bliss,
The non believer is sanctified by the believer as God has taken care to assure you this,
The power of each other over the other and for most the woman is subjected to the man,
Her respect for him as is Sarah called Abraham Lord, most are sure to be holding hands.
1Cor.7:2-10[marry]; 1Cor.2:12-14[believer sanctifies both]; 1Cor.7:32 [unmarried];
1Cor.2:11,15[To part, do not wed]; 1Cor.7:33[Married]; 1Cor.7:39 [Spouse deceased];
Do not compete, be an individual, respect and allow others to be different, enjoy variety,
Sodom and Gomorrah’s sin was you have got to be like me, you must give me total victory,
We all know the LORD did not agree, but rather see all have good godly trust and morality,
Just be a human being and be all you can be, have respect
trespassing on God's territory.
2006-09-10 08:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by jeni 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps when he sees the calmness and peace God brings into your life he will begin to ask questions. That is what happened to my husband. One day when he was stressing about money , he looked at me and said how do you do it? When I asked him what he meant, he said why are you not worried about this? I simply said I have faith in god that my needs will be met and I do not worry because I give my cares to God who can do all things. He thought about it awhile and sure enough the money issue got settled and shortly after that he began attending bible study with me and got saved.
2006-09-10 09:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
one of the wisest things we must remember as christians is that
satan does not want anyone to be saved. so he is working against your husband being saved.
the thing you need to do is continue to serve God and go to church - letting your husband see(actions speak louder than words.)for himself that the life you have in God is real.
no amount of telling him of God will do it right now. you see
he doesnt want to hear it.........so quit telling him and just live it
in front of him........it will take time but your patience and trust in God will pay off in the long run.
WARNING: the more you keep telling him about it and the more he doesnt want to hear about it the more it will push him away.
so live as a good witness of christ.
2006-09-10 08:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one wants to feel pressure to do something. You preaching at him will only push him away from what you want him to do. Keep going to church and eventually he may decide to attend from time to time. Don't ask him to go to church with you if right now he is not interested. Start out by going out as a couple with people from your church to just hang out. Get him gradually involved in the church culture and eventually you'll have him wanting to go to church. He will not get out of this what he need unless he wants to be there.
2006-09-10 08:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by BURGIN24 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't pressure him. If Christianity is the better way, he'll see that, by how you are at peace when he'd be tearing his hair out, and by how you can somehow survive while giving generously to others, and on and on. Trust that you have a few years. He'll be more receptive as time goes on, after he sees you walking in Christ.
2006-09-10 08:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im sord of in the same situation. My husband wont let Jesus in either. You just have to be a light to him, dont talk to him about it anymore just let him watch you and pray for him. Place it in the Lord's hands and he will take care of it. Its hard not to interfere but God will call him one day you just have to be patient and wait for God's time.
2006-09-10 08:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is not a unique one, but here is the best advise I can give you:
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, IF ANY OF THEM DO NOT BELIEVE THE WORD, THEY MAY BE WON OVER WITHOUT WORDS BY THE BEHAVIOR OF THEIR WIVES, 2when they see the PURITY AND REVERENCE OF YOUR LIVES. 3YOUR BEAUTY SHOULD NOT COME FROM OUTWARD ADORNMENT, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 1pet. 3:1-3
pray a great deal for your husband. pray privately, fast for him (See Isa. 58 for how to fast and the power that fasting has.) the first six verses tells how not to fast. the rest of the chapter tells the proper motivation for fasting, and how you can expect healing to QUICKLEY come.
hope this helps
2006-09-10 08:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by setfreejn836 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋