In the past year i got shot down, spiritualy bludgeoned , the crap blow clear outta me , my heart torn in a violent manner into pieces and yes even my view of life shaken to a fair degree and all of this twice(last part happened only once though...thank god...somewhat).Now i pause and look back at probably one of the most catastrophic years in my life... and i cannot help but wonder how this world actually functions... i mean i am honest, i try to do good by other, hell i even keep some of the old knight traditions alive like giving my coat to a girl who is cold and then proceeding in freezing my tail off in the winter(hit the freaking low negative 20s last winter too) or holding the door for girls and what has happened in return?i have been insulted in every way imaginable and then some and some other things i rather not remind :(...seems like i am a joke compaired to the playas of this day and age...like...like their way of fu*k first and care later is the best... Feedback anyone?
2006-09-10 08:25:59 · 34 answers · asked by Lone Silver Wolf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Princess is too tired to read so much...
2006-09-10 08:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that everything will come full circle when it's suppose to. Quit trying so hard and relax. Your question was not that long so pay no mind to the negative results that some are writing. Now shake off the bad vibes and be positive, there will be more bumps along the way so hang on. Life, unfair at times, is not so bad. The little, silly things that you're upset by now will mean very little in five more years. Focus on the big picture of life. You are not the only one who's had a bad time of it. Pick yourself up and go on...
2006-09-10 08:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by b's wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, we have all "been there/done that" so don't think that you are anything special. You need to look at how you choose your freinds and how you choose your relationships. SInce you cannot control others, you may want to take a look at changing the criteria you have for relationships and those of the people you connsider your friends. I did this years ago, and just eliminated people in my life why who I do not respect and cause me grief. I have a small group of friends who were my freinds since I was a little girl. My choice of men I date is very strict and that is why I really don't date now. I am not going to put up with bullshit....plain and simple. I know what I want my life to be like and the kinds of people I want in it. I spend a lot of time alone but my life is peaceful.......I have a wonderful warm and cozy home, 3 kids all grown up and college educated, 2 granddaughters and one on the way, good paying job, I travel severl times a year to visit my family and I have made a conscious decision to have my life the way I want it. Sure, no one has everything but I just want things and people in my life who are meaningfuland who contribute to my goal. We all have choices to make.....I have chosen not to be a victim but to learn from the past experiences and move on. I have also forgiven others and myself.......very important.....and I never look back with the coulda, woulda, shoulda........"Life is a box of chocolates......you never know what you are going to get"....Forrest Gump.
2006-09-10 08:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness...I am so sorry that life hasn't been good the past year. I have asked myself this question my whole life. Why is it that us women (well a majority of us) are attracted to the jerks and idiots of the male species? I have yet to find that answer. We always talk about how we want a gentleman, someone who is always there for us, loving, caring, but then we get pulled to the first jerk that has a few sweet nothings to wisper in our ears. Please don't give up on the charm and turn into one of those players. The right girl will show herself to you just be patient. I know it will happen for you. We do need more knight in shining armor types. I know that this didn't help much. sorry. But keep your head up the right girl is out there somewhere.
2006-09-10 08:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by goober 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. It women like that that give women a bad name. But you cannot give up. To find a diamond you must find coals first. Don't let some bad experiences turn your life up upside down. This world is crazy place...full of goods and evils...you must keep your faith in God and stay positive. I know it seems almost impossible...but you can do it. You can make it through this. Take a day and go to a spa, get a massage, go to the park and relax. Watch some TV, and kick back. It sounds like you need it. Keep praying and relax, you will find some one you deserve one day soon. Until then remeber, God loves you, and he will always be there for you.
2006-09-10 08:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Angel of Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it up, doing good and not expecting anything in return is such an exceptional characteristic that is hard to find nowadays. You're rare, you dont want to be the regular guys do you?
Iam always a firm believer of Karma, it'll all come back you, be patient, the sun will be shining on you sooner that you know it.
Think positive! Ever think about how healthy you are? You have your limbs with you, things like that.
Dont worry, you'll find a person who deserves you.
2006-09-10 08:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Keepingmycool 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely as I have gone through exactly the same thing myself. Word for word.
My advice to you would be to cease and desist. Continue to perform the normal courtesies without engaging in mental/emotional attachments. Do the polite and moral thing but keep your heart out of it- remain uninvolved emotionally until someone else decides to make that commitment.
I myself have resolved never to do it again. It would appear to me that you are at heart a romantic and are searching for some deep, meaningful relationship that in reality probably doesn't exist. True romance died with Shakespeare.
Just remember that ever divorced sucker in the world thought he was in love.
I'm not suggesting that you wallow in self-pity or become bitter and angry.
Just be realistic. Ask yourself how many people you know that have actually been together for any length of time and truly have a storybook romance. Given what I've seen, it's pretty rare.
Wait for it and it will come to you- don't be another one of those people who waste that fantastic amount of time and energy trying to find it just to be disappointed in the end. It's not worth the pain and it's not worth the effort.
There's no reason to make yourself unhappy trying to find happiness.
2006-09-10 09:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head up. The girls for you are few and far between but she is out there. Don't settle for someone that doesn't respect you....girls get way too carried away with being a girl, if that makes any sense. I would never allow a guy to give me his coat in 20 degree weather. It would be my fault if I didn't dress appropriate; why should you suffer. Take care of yourself.
2006-09-10 08:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by xalsk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O h gosh I know what you are going through. I mean now a days their only a few good guys and girls left. So many people have been hurt or feel like someone is out to get them. Just focus on other things like going back to school or doing something you lve and when you least expect it is when you will find the right person.
2006-09-10 08:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dude, you are absolutely right, Girls say they love the gentleman way but i found out that's not true. Women want that type of guy when they are ready to settle down. Most of the women I know don't give a crap how you treat them they just want to go out and have a good time because they know that's exactly what you want. Hell the other night I picked up 3 women who all wanted me, They were mad at first ( at each other) But once the night progressed we all had a wonderful time lol ;) (if you know what i mean) Girls will probably read my answer and say I'm a jerk and that you are perfect the way you are! But honestly my friend until you are ready to settle down, you must get the party started! REALLY ;)
2006-09-10 08:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Alucard 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You sound like you have some good values. bad things happen to good people.I have not idea why you have had such a difficult time. I think that there is always someone worse off. Perhpas a few counceling sessions maybe in order for you with a profesional.If money is a problem the CRISIS line in your area should be able to tell you where they ahve a sliding scale fee.
2006-09-10 08:34:09 · answer #11 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋