I like this girl at work and have had a crush on her for the past few months. She made a few positive moves towards me at first but I wasn't too sure then. Now, it's the other way around. I try to flirt with her a bit but she doesn't always reciprocate. She also wears a ring on her right finger but I am not aware of any boyfriend. It's probably a chastity/abstinence thing (which is fine with me).
The thing is that I am Muslim and she is Christian. To complicate things, I am Asian and she is White. So as much as I like her, it's going to be hard making it work out in the long run. Our families may not accept each other, etc. and I don't want to break any hearts unnecessarily.
Ideally, I would like to ask her out but I am inhibited by my beliefs. Plus, I don't even know if she still likes me. I really long to see her but have to tell myself to stop.
What should I do? Should I ask her out? Or forget her? If yes, then how, because I see her almost everyday? It's not easy.
2006-09-10 08:24:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should take things very slow until you a) decide if you are willing to take the risk or b) you are sure that she likes you too. Try to cultivate a friendship, outside the work environment. Maybe then you can gently prod her for her belief on the race, religion issue. You also have time to get to know her better and she you. Maybe you can organise a group outing with a few more coworkers so that she will not feel pressured. Then take baby steps from there.
The thing is in the end you will have to decide if she is work the risk or the work that might be involved in making it work in the long run.
Good Luck.
2006-09-10 08:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should ask her out no matter what people think.c if she has a boyfriend or not.mayb even a husband.but ask anyway.say she needs a man in her life and to give u a chance to see if u r the one.the muslim and christian the thing is not a bigge just try first.its like a black dating a white or white dating black.its not racism.its love and life.but don't sleep with her until marriage unless u really go with ur religion with no marriage.
2006-09-10 08:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by ღ♥MadamA.A.♥ღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see too many potential problems here. First, why is she wearing a ring? Maybe because she's MARRIED?!?!? She was just being freindly with you, not meaningful flirting.
My advice is to back off of the situation. Be freinds but nothing more.
2006-09-10 08:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on!! Ask her out to a nice Restaurant! If she accepts, yopu got it made. Do not come on too fast! if she refuse, let a few days go by, then ask her again! If she still refused, ask her=
A boy friend? she be honest with you. religion here, I do not think it matter!
2006-09-10 08:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look everyone is gonna tell you how you should make a move or back off or w.e they wanna tell you.
Follow this piece of advise.
Show your best character. Talk to her. And tell her that you like her.
If it works, it was meant to be. If it doesn't, move on man, life isn't worth waiting for one person.
2006-09-10 08:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by R man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put religion aside, if u really like her you would ask her out.
2006-09-10 08:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make a move, take a chance, and live to learn. xoxo
2006-09-10 08:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a move or give it up.
2006-09-10 08:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by ssgtusmc3013 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't mater what color she is.its just if you love her!make your move!
2006-09-10 08:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by mandy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋