I really want to move but...?

Question

I really want to move back to my hometown, and I'm still young so Icant move on my own- my parents dont want to move at the moment but I can't stand this place anymore, it's killing me!! I tried to convince my parents every day,,, please give me advice on how I could deal with living her or how to convince my parents more. By the way, I think that moving would be good for my whole family but they are too lazy.

I made another question with more details , and I got to add to this one too- I have somebody down there I could live with like my oldest brother but my parents dont want me to leave, I'm almost 13, and please dont say , I'm just a kid and I don't have a say in anything , I really believe in this strongly and I just need a way to make my parents see this.

Answer 1

How old are you? When did you move? Why do you think that it would be such a good idea to move back? Why did your parents move in the first place?

It sounds like you're not very close to living on your own, in which case I would suggest giving it a rest. I imagine that your parents moved for what they considered to be a good reason--better jobs, near family, etc. You may not agree with it, but sometimes being part of a family just sucks.

Why are you so upset? Do you miss your old friends? Are you now living in the middle of nowhere with nothing to do? Try to find a way to make your time in this new town a positive experience. If you miss your old friends, call them. (Ask your parents about getting a cell phone with a plan that your friends also have, or see if you can get a phone plan at home with lots of long distance) If you don't see much to do in your area, talk to people and get an idea of what they do for fun. Get active and involved and keep yourself busy--try church or school groups.

Basically, you need to make your time in your new town as positive as possible, because your parents are not likely to move back to your hometown.

Answer 2

I wouldnt call your parents "lazy". Let me tell you what is involved in moving. Your parents mus first have a job in the locations you want to move to. Second, you must have the money to move to a new place and money to hook up utilities and money to have for down payment on house or rent deposit. Also moving expenses are very expenisive and the further distance you move the more costly it is... i think you need to see it from your parents point of view what is all involved in moving. Also it sounds like you are not trying to give it a chance where you are now. No one said it was easy to move away, and start new, i myself are still adjusting but you have to let go of some of the past litttle by little to make room for new friends, and changes. I am sure you miss your freinds and all that you are use to but, you can still visit your hometown. You must give it some time to adjust and with a postiive attitude. you will make new freinds and you have to think that your parents might have a hard time too with you not being happy and they might be still adjusting too. It is not easy but i does get easier. I just moved from Arizona to Iowa and i hate snow and winters as I am not use to them. But, you know, wherever I am I know I can make fun out of it and when I am 18-- I can move anywhere I want to. but for now, I want to be happy with my family and know I have GOD too. Dont try to convince your parents, just try to help eachother adjust and all will be fine. you will see. :) maybe write down what it is you cannot stand about the place you live and why you think it is killing you and wrtie down things you would change living there. You have to have an attitude adjustiment for it to work though. I hope that helps.

Answer 3

I have a great deal of sympathy for your predicament. But not much understanding of it as new places have always had something to offer in which to get interested. Even finding new friends (or not friends) has always been interesting. How much emotional energy are you spending fretting and stewing about getting "home" compared to settling in with what appears to be inevitable? I doubt there is anything we're going to say here that will convince your parents to move back.

Answer 4

Give your parents some time to consider what you want. It's a big expence to mve, and maybe your parents are happy where they are. As for you, just try ot enjoy where you live now as much as you can. One of my friends move to an entirely different state, and he didn't want to. He got to really love where he moved to, and then his family came back her, and he was sad about it! Think positively, and give your parents some time.
Have you tried staying with a friend in your old neighborhood? That might work!

Answer 5

more than likely you are going to have to tough it out.ask yourself this. Did your family move for chances of better employment and better schools for you .give it a chance it hard to make new friends right off the bat it takes time to find some one you can trust like the friends back home

Answer 6

You just need to learn to live with where you are. I've found that it's not so important in life where you live, but who you surround yourself with, and your attitude. Spend your time and energy making new friends and finding things that you like about where you are. Stop trying to change your parents' minds and change your attitude instead. Trust me, you'll be much happier.

Answer 7

Maybe you could try concentrating on making your life better where you are now. Remember - the grass only "looks" greener on the other side of the fence.

Answer 8

dont u have guy friends????
they can help you
best friends boyfriends can help also/ its not just about ur family try to move in w/ one of ur friends and see how u like it back home

Answer 9

NO AGE GIVEN. IF YOUR A MINOR YOU DON'T HAVE MUCH SAY IN WHERE YOUR FOLKS LIVE. IF YOUR OUT OF SCHOOL YOU CAN GO BACK WHERE EVER YOU WANT.

Answer 10

uhhh
ust work out talk alot
dont b so shy