How do i convince my ex that our 18 mo does not need a paci?

Question

I have an 18 month old who is not yet talking. I have been working with her when I have her but feel like i take 1 step forward and 2 back. With me she never uses the paci. I occupy her other wise. My ex thinks she needs it and keeps it in her mouth all the time. she makes a noise and in goes the paci. He says he'll stop when she is ready. How do I convince him that she is ready now?

Answer 1

Just tell him that when the child needs braces to correct the severe overbite, you're not paying a dime. Pacifiers are not good for babies after they get the first tooth.

Answer 2

You know that anything you say is going to create a defensive reaction. It is best to get professional assistance. A pediatrician that you take the child too. If she is not talking it would be wise to talk to the doctor and see if it is a physical issue or emotional. If it's neither, then I would seek a recommendation from your baby doctor, naturally, with the presence of you ex at all times. This is something that both of you should partake of, never behind eachothers back...that's a diffient NO! NO! The child is what is important not your feelings about eachother.
Hope that helps.
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Answer 3

I have a 7 month old son who is very demanding and i take care of him 24-7 expect sundays and i hardly ever give him the paci expect outside but his daddy will shove it in there every chance he gets and it pisses me off cuz i have to listen to his crankiness 6 days a week, his daddy can handle it one day a week without sticking the paci in his mouth. We fight constanly over this. I think he is finally getting it as he said, he is sick of me yelling at him. Tell him no more!!!!!!!!!! you are with the 3 year old more than he is and it just keeps getting setback everytime he puts it in the 3 yr olds mouth. Tell him , my niece is 4 and she still has not stopped. they will only stop when you take it away and get real serious espically at that age

Answer 4

My son wouldn't take the pacifier unless I held it in place so I decided to not give it to him and thankfully didn't have an issue with it-one less habit to break.

There are times when she might need it and it wound hurt to let her have it. I don't agree with your ex to be shoving it into her mouth all the time. She will not give it up when she is ready. I would beg to differ that most babies get use to it and don't want to give it up.

My son started sucking his two fingers and when he was three I took him to the dentist. The hygeniest said that at three he still needed the sucking but she could see that it was beginning to push his teeth out. She told me by the time he was 4 I had to start breaking him of the habit. I could see that his teeth were being pushed out. Six months later when we went back to have his teeth cleaned the difference was unbelieveable. His teeth had gone back. It wasn't easy convincing him to give up the sucking but I kept telling him he couldn't because it would be bad for his teeth. It was a lot of hard work but finally we did give up the sucking and every once and a while he would do and I alerted the day care people and anyone else that was taking care of him that if they saw him sucking they had to mention it.

I am not sure about pacifiers if it reshapes their mouth in any way but probably it is not a big issue at this point. Unfortunately if your ex puts it in her mouth all the time at the least little sound it could carry over to when you are taking care of her which could be disastrous. I would contact her doctor and ask about the pros and cons. Also why not talk to a pediatric dentist or your dentist. You don't have to take her in and I definitely would start taking her to the dentist every six months once she turns 3.

As long as this issue isn't interfering with your care of her--I would probably just wait and see what happens. Gather your information first, keep track of how much she wants the pacifier when she is with you. I think if you approach it from this aspect your ex might be more receptive to what the problem is. I think some men in general find it hard to take care of a baby at this age. They are not use to multi tasking as we woman are.

It would be nice if they would just give it up but 99% of the time it doesn't work that way. The longer she becomes dependent on it the harder it will be to give it up. My son still has a blankie and even took it to school in kindergarten and just about everywhere. My mother was horrified. Every now and then he needs and will curl up with it. He doesn't take it much of anywhere now but I couldn't and definitely wouldn't think of throwing it away.

Its security for them and we need to provide that but at the same time try and balance between actually needing it. Write down your observations--don't be confrontational about it, and if it looks like she is beginning to become too dependent on it-then I think you need to let him know the information you have collected and ask him for his help in solving this problem.

Answer 5

If she doesn't fuss for a pacie and never uses it with you get rid of all the pacies.

Answer 6

hide the paci from him...she obviously does not need it like he does

Answer 7

your wrong on this one...if she wants a paci, let her be

Answer 8

Tell him you discussed it with the pediatrician, and they recommend not to use it for dental reasons. Maybe he will listen if the doctor said so?

Answer 9

Every time HE starts making too much noise, stick one in HIS mouth. He''ll get the idea.

Answer 10

take a rolled up newpaper and smack your ex on the nose and say "NO."