My baby is 15 months old,and he wakes up every morning around 7-8 o'clock,and I am soooo tired. I go to bed late, because he goes to sleep sometimes at 9,but mostly later,and no matter what he will wake up early.
And I feel quilty because in the mornings I try my best to keep him a little more in the bed,but he is ready to go and play. I just feel bad because I'm so tired. When I was working I came home sometimes before 11, and he was awake most of the time, so I played with him,feed him, put him in the bed. And I was tired the next morning. Now I don't work just go to school, and I'm mad at myself that I'm still tired. I don't even have time for my husband :( After he goes to sleep and it's all quiet, I like to stay up a little to do my things,like watch tv . That's the only time when I can have some time for myself.
Moms do you feel this way?Am I bad?
2006-09-10 06:25:47 · 23 answers · asked by hedychambers 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-09-10 06:33:39 · update #1
Thanks for the answers...
My husband is helping alot, he is the best father. But most of the time he is not at home, he is a full time nursing student, and he is working on the weekends; so when he gets home he has a lot of studying, and he is tired also.I don't have a babysitter,my family is far away, I'm from Europe, and so everybody I know is back home :(
I don't want to leave my baby with anybody, but my husband, because I worry about my little boy.
Like now, he is taking a nap,my husband is at work, so in a minute I start cooking, do my homework (it's not too much ), than my little star wakes up, and that's it, play time :)
Oppps, I hear him, he is awake :)
2006-09-10 06:48:21 · update #2
it doesn't make you a bad mom!!! I know exactly how you feel! I have 3 kids and I am a student at a college... I don't have much time for my husband either. I will end up staying up late to do housework, or homework... Sometimes may baby will wake up early and I will try to get him back to sleep a little bit more so I can get in a few more winks too!!! As long as you take care of his needs your fine... try to take a nap with him during a time you don't have class ect. Just don't let your baby run around the house while your sleeping... that is neglect and child indangerment... if you have to let him/her lay with you maybe turn on the tv in your room so he/she will be intertaned while you get a little more sleep but then you are still aware of where and what they are doing. Good luck, stay in school, and don't give up!
2006-09-10 06:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by M~Lyna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U are not a bad mother at all, its a normal thing to be tired with a young child. I sometimes do the same thing if I worked late etc. My son is 1 and he wakes up about 7-8 also. If I am really tired I will usually make him some breakfast and feed him so he is nice and full and change his diaper then I put some cartoons on and some toys in his crib and that gives me an extra 1-2 hours of sleep *he usually falls back asleep watching cartoons*. Also u can try to put some dark shades in your room so the sun will not wake him up so early. Good Luck!
2006-09-10 06:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are totally a normal mom of a toddler! When he wakes up early, have him a few quiet toys to play with in his crib. Sometimes, that can buy you an hour of extra sleep. Try moving his bedtime back about 30 minutes, and make it consistent. For instance, this week, put him in bed at 9:30 and leave him there. Once he's used to that (probably about a week) make it 9. Keep going until he's consistently going to bed at a time that is acceptable to you. My 31 month old goes to bed at 7:30, and wakes up at 6. That fits perfectly with our family. The other kids are in bed by 9, and hubby and I have an hour together before we go to bed. Then, we all get up at 6. I usually try to get up about 5 so I have a "quiet hour" to myself.
It will get better!
2006-09-10 06:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by shojo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a great mom just feeling like you can do better-That's part of being a mother-always that nagging guilt that we can be doing something better. As long as he's content in the crib or maybe in bed with you then you shouldn't feel guilty. Can you keep him up a little later in the evening maybe and just cut down on the tv? maybe he'll start sleeping a little later then. Above all just love the little guy-that's what matters most- just take the time you do have with him and make it all quality time. Good luck!!
2006-09-10 06:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 1st answer is dumb. I understand.
My Baby will be 11 months n 2 days.
When she wakes up like at 8 i just turn the t.v. on and she'll watch it for a few mintues and play then go back to sleep. Thats her schedule. Im still tired when she wakes up so i try to keep her in the bed too. No your not bad your just have a busy schedule. When he takes naps take one with him. That works for me but no your not bad.
2006-09-10 06:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Nellz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! You have a new baby, you are still adjusting to it. My mom always used to say she didn't sleep until I was 3 years old. You just need to make some time for yourself during the day and take a nap. Maybe you should look into getting a mother's helper for a few hours a day so you can get a break.
2006-09-10 06:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a terrible mom. We all go through it -- that's the joys of parenting.
It's not terrible to have your child stay in bed a little longer, though to be honest, I do often pull my daughter in bed with me. That little extra time in the mornings has since become our cuddle time. Though it's often only half an hour of laying there and snuggling with her, it's often just enough time to let me wake up enough so that I don't feel so terribly groggy.
Take a break every now and again. Instead of staying up every night to have time for yourself, go to bed early with your husband -- that in itself is taking some time for yourself... the chance to rest. The next night you won't be as tired. It's the only real compromise that I've managed to come up with.
2006-09-10 06:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Kristain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to work midnights then go pick up my daughter she would be wide awake and ready to play but I would be dog tired .So this is what I did I would take her in my room with me along with some toys , sippy cup , cartoons and so on . I wold lay down and sleep while she played , watched tv , etc . And I kept my door locked so she couldn't leave my room . I would only do this if you are not a heavy sleeper . Because you will still need to be aware of what is going on .
2006-09-10 06:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not bad. A 15 months old really keps you busy! My daughter is now 5 yrs but I felt the same way some mornings when she was small. Besides....half an hour extra is not a big deal. He can come to your bed and cuddle a bit.... instead of getting up immediately.
2006-09-10 06:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by Blue Blue Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look its normal to be exausted with a new baby and its normal to want an hour or so to relax ,i dont know your husband but most guys just need a little lovin 2 or 3 times a week and they are ok, so take care of baby give hubby 20 minitus and then curl up in front of the tv................also something u can try is to explain to hubby that if he helped some with baby you would have more energy at bed time!!!!!
2006-09-10 06:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by JBD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋