I've been dating a guy for a little over a month and he told me need needs space. He says he is not intersted in dating anyone else. He says he needs to focus on going back to school and working overtime at his job to get more money. He says he is spending too much time with me and not handling his buisness. I feel like he is trying to control the relationship by telling me when he can see me. We only see eachother about 2-3 times a week as it is and I am the one who asks him to come see me.
I've never had anyone tell me that they need space so how do I give him space? He is sending mixed signals so I'm not sure how to react to this new person. Do I not return his calls, act like I'm busy when he calls, make up excuses to get off the phone, tell him he can't come over my house, act like he is no longer important? Would doing any of this make a guy realize what he has or would doing any of this only drive a guy away? Give me examples of how I can give him space.
2006-09-10 06:10:37 · 6 answers · asked by chocolatebabycakes 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They need their space because sometimes a woman or girl closes in on him like a phobia or a choking kind of thing......, but isn't. They need other things differently than we do and like to spend some guy time with guys.., hunting, fishing, studying, working on his career. It doesn't mean he don't love you though. We females can drive a man away by being to possessive. Even if we aren't. If that makes any sense....LOL So just be yourself and when he calls or sees you don't be crying saying bad things about him like he doesn't love, etc. That can drive them away too. Be interested in his things. Don't be selfish. Maybe he will realize how much he loves you. You might be surprised. You may be the one who will end up finding yourself doing things you like to do...,Understand? Just remember this isn't the only fish in the ocean. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-10 06:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm female but I can answer just as well as a guy can.
it seems to me like you're being too forward and he wants to the one to make the moves. And, he's already told you he needs to focus on school, on work and make money and he' spending too much time with you. What part of that don't you understand?
It also sounds like he doesn't want to settle down, or be tied down at the moment as there are more important things to him in life right now.
If he calls then chat with him...if he wants to take you out for dinner or something then that's ok too...but not full day ventures, overnighters, or hours and hours on the phone, and not often.
If he's going to school then once a month or every other month to get together is fine.
2006-09-10 13:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it means your pestering him ..so back off .. give him space .. go find something to do .. let the man do his studies and work his job .. and then when he's with he'll be with you .. or do you want him to fail school and loose his job .. try being supportive and not what about ME ME ME..
2006-09-10 13:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants space after a little over a month, than you're best off leaving him and finding someone else. Sorry.
2006-09-10 13:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by pieninja 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think people lie like a rug when they say this,let him go, find someone else to be with,it's his loss not yours.
2006-09-10 13:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space by your side.
2006-09-10 13:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋