20 year old son - how do you mkae them respect their home environment?

Answer 1

tell them this isnt there house its yours, either get right or get out

Answer 2

As stated above....this should've started and been monitored long ago. Daily interactions help to monitor the situation. Good luck.

Here is an exert from a parenting website. Link below:

Here are seven basic rules of respect:

1. Honor the individual worth and dignity of others.

2. Treat others with courtesy and civility.

3. Honor reasonable social standards of propriety and decency and personal beliefs, customs and traditions that are important to others.

4. Treat others the way you want to be treated.

5. Accept and tolerate individual differences and judge others on the content of their character and their abilities rather than religion, race, ethnicity or ideology.

6. Honor the right of adults and the desire of maturing children to control and direct their own lives.

7. Avoid using physical force or intimidation, and refrain from improper threats of force.

Answer 3

Stop coddling him. I'm sure he wants to be treated as an adult and he should be acting like it. If he can't respect your home and your rules (let's face it, he's still living under your roof and therefore should have respect for his family), give him a time line to find another place. Be firm but tell him bluntly that while you're happy to have him in your home, he needs to respect you, the family and the home environment. If he can't, he can find somewhere else that would better suite his level of respect. Good luck!

Answer 4

At 19, I was told to respect my parents and their rules or leave the house. I choose to leave, and it actually made me grow up very quickly. If you're only having minor problems, I would suggest letting them go, but if it's a consistent issue, you may need to give him an ultimatum. Just make sure that you're willing to stick with it--don't tell him you'll kick him out, then change your mind at the last minute. Even if he says he has nowhere to go, I'm sure he has a friend who will let him crash on his couch. Some people need to learn lessons the hard way.

Answer 5

If it is your home environment he is dis-respecting, then kick him to the curb. He will appreciate your home environment a lot more in two months.

Let Hillary Clinton's "Village" take care of him.

If he is single and living on his own, 20 years old is a little old to be controlling his life still. I say let him live his life.

Answer 6

Deny him further access to this home environment until he does promise to respect it. Bounce him down the garden path a few times on his ear, and then tell him there's plenty more where that came from.

Answer 7

You are the parent here. Step up and be one. It's your house! If he's 20 years old he's old enough to be on his own or respet your rules under your roof. If he can't respect you, kick him out. Let him find out what it's like to live on his own. Maybe he needs to grow up a little.

Answer 8

If you don´t teach your sons some respect by age 14, it´s already too late.

Answer 9

sit down calmly and have a nice family meeting with him, Tell him to respect you and your house and rules that you live by, Does he have a job? Tell him if he does not want to obey by your wishes and rules of the house then tell him in a nice way to get his own place

Answer 10

As long as you not controlling and interfering in his life, read him the riot act. Take his rent money and lay out the terms and conditions of living in the real world. Give him regular chores i.e. washing up/taking out rubbish. If it don't get done don't do it yourself. Don't do his: washing,ironing, picking up. The answer lies in your hands!

Answer 11

i have 2 sons one is 18 other is nearly 24, just don't stress over it the more you stress and kick off the less likely they are to abide by your wishes, i just say your bedroom is a tip would you please sort it, and they do!! i find if i nag at them they don't do it, but i'me a fairly laid back person anyway, just chill and see what happens, good luck