I introduced my wife to sex toys 6 months ago and now she is totally addicted to them to the point that she totally ignors me in bed. She won't let me use them on her as she says she can do it better herself. How can I compete with a 14 inch dildo that vibrates and I won't even mention what the other 2 things are.I asked her to come to counseling with me but she says she would just be to ashamed to talk about it with a stranger. I have only had sex once in 3 months and she just laid there and asked me to hurry up and then went right to her toys.The money she is spendind on batteries is also putting a financial strain on us.
Am I the only one with this problem ???? What can I do.
2006-09-10 05:19:38 · 37 answers · asked by irishlad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It will pass, why not use rechargeble batteries in the time being?
2006-09-10 05:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by ??Dani??? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 04:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down and tell your wife that your using the toys together or the toy's got to go. Ask her to tell you what she likes about the using the toy's and teach you to do it better. (Part of being a couple is learning what make your spouse feel good)To bad she's only getting just a little fun out of them. The best fun come when you us them together. Tell her there are so many thing you can be doing to her while shes using the toy in one area of her body. Even though the toy's will get old to her one day , but why wait til one day. Put on a XXX DVD that relates to a couple getting pleasure from a toy so your wife can see she can have more fun with you and the toys at the same time.
2006-09-10 15:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by scorpionstinger1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy stock in Energizer!!!
There are many sex classes you could look into taking to improve your performance and come up with a few new tricks to help you compete or perhaps it's time to think outside of the box (or bedroom if you prefer). Toys are quick and faithful. They succeed every time, but they can't grab her above the nape of her neck twisting their fingers in her hair to tug just ever so then whisper what only you may know that will embarrass her and excite her at the same time!!
Put some effort in it would you!!!
2006-09-12 00:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my........boy you've got a problem there! Tell her that if she doesn't get rid of the toys you will go separate ways. Explain to her that toys are supposed to spice up and not to take over the marriage. Ask her what would she do if you were glued to the tv watching porn, or dating online. And yes you do need counseling, and it really seems she's addicted to those things, which is bizarre. Good luck!
2006-09-10 05:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Karen ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your serious there are a couple things wrong here. 1 a toy will never replace a physical person that can have a connection with you. and 2 why not buy rechargable batteries. but heres the real deal if she honestly cannot get off when you do it that means that you dont know how HER body really works but she is a complete idiot to not tell you how to work things.
If you dont tell me what you want guess what i get what I want.
but honestly i would start looking for a exit strategy and leave her to her toys. i would start sleeping on the couch and talking to lawyers if you have to.
2006-09-10 05:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she refuses to go to a sex therapist with you, then you will probably end up having to leave her, unless you are content to masturbate yourself and settle for intercourse once or twice a year. Getting rid of the toys won't solve the problem. She will buy new ones. You might be wise to invest in something that plugs into the wall instead of requiring batteries.
2006-09-10 05:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's look at it this way -- your wife has made a major breakthrough in her sexuality. This is to be applauded! She's discovering her body in new ways, I think this is great.
That YOU introduced her is in your favor and be glad it's toys and not another man or the football team.
Next time you sleep with her ... own her. Encourage her. Insist she get off. Slap that big butt and howl at the moon. Buck up, buddy, and be a stud. She's begging you to. Be reasonable at the kitchen table, be a pig in the bedroom!
2006-09-10 05:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the batteries are a financial strain then you probably can't afford counseling. Try throwing the toys out and remember you have one thing the toys don't-a heart, so open up to your wife and tell her she can't be so focused on her own needs.
2006-09-10 05:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Beccawho 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u may not be the only one, but i would like to make it clear, first of all why u introduced her to sex toys ? (she could have found on on her own of course).
Secondly, I think the basic problem is her fantacies about sex. U have to sit and talk to her, and make her fantacies into reality. In short, satisfy her the way she wants. or. go for professional counselling.!!
2006-09-10 05:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by friendsseason9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need help. I got a twelve incher and i don't care what the dildo is, it works. Now listen ladd, I don't extend my self much, but i will do her in for ya, then gradually work her down to three inches. If you can' t master her after that, then drink some Jameson, it will cure the blue balls my ladd. Hell, it gave me my balls!!!
2006-09-12 14:12:02 · answer #11 · answered by OU812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋