My ex broke it off after 1 year together about 2 months ago...a while after that she says we need to take things slow and see what happens and that she just wants to focus on graduating next June from school and spend time with mom and dad...she said we can be friends, be there for one another and date ...Well everything was going fine...I never brought up the past or how i love her or that I wanted her back...I was just enjoying spending time with her and having fun...nothing else mattered.
Well a few days ago she says that she feels like she is still committed to me and that we are not together...and she feels that we don't have to see one another every day or even talk every day...Well since then, she called me on Friday wanting to go to lunch, she called me that night telling me she got back from fishing with her parents, yesterday she wanted to take the dog for a walk, and today she called me saying she called since she didn't call me last night
I thought she wanted space...
2006-09-10 05:06:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm thinking that if she doesn't know what she wants, you're not going to be able to figure it out either.
2006-09-10 05:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rjmail 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She clearly cares for you, but it is also pretty clear you are the fill in guy until she finds what she is really looking for. This does not mean that you are not good enough, only that she is looking for something different. You do not have to take her calls. Give her the space she needs and find someone who loves you the way you deserve to be loved. Preferably someone with a little more maturity and a little less manipulation.
2006-09-10 12:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah do your see the trend the less you give the more they want! Dog! your young and this is probably a blessing. She gave you the green light to move on so, start moving away slowly...Let her calls go to voicemail occasionally and don't always be there waiting "for the call" so to speak. Start fishing a different pond for someone new that has a different propective on life. It keeps things fresh for you and mostly for you and her! Sweet!
2006-09-10 12:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Johnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you to be her "boy toy" when she is bored and wants something to do. She is expecting you to sit by the phone and wait until she "summonds" you. You have to decide if this is the kind of relationship you want. The question is "What do you want and what are you willing to settle for?" She is giving you crumbs and you want the banquet. The bottom line is, either you accept this relationship according to her rules and deal with it..........or, move on and do pursue your life in another direction. Don't even thinkof changing her, pal.......this is the way it is! She is basically not into you!
2006-09-10 12:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly how you feel. She obviously does not know what she wants. So put it out there and tell her you are not up for games. If she gets mad and says leave her alone then do just that and move on and find someone to make you happy. Find someone who wants a real relationship if that is what you want because she is clueless so it sounds.
2006-09-10 12:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So...what's your question???? If you want us to interpret her actions for you, good luck. You need to talk to her about her inconsistencies. Tell her you're really confused and be straight with her about your feelings and wants, find out what hers are too, so that you both know where you stand. Communication, open and honest, is the key.
2006-09-10 12:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sue B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey to say that her education is very importaint,so please make sure you support her in every way,i don't feel she has dumped you ok so please get hat out of your head.all i wish is you still care about her as much as you love her.that is the best move she has made to study and live with her mum and dad,she should be able to make time for you and i see she does think of you.and call you when she thinks of you.so she is not straying on you from what you have just said here i feel she does'nt want to fail in her exam's and she is just using her brain's and good luck to the 2 of you and you please be strong for her sake,you will not loose her if you love and adore here.good luck,all the love in the world to the two of you.
2006-09-10 12:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by mariolla oneill 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what I call "stringing you along". She wants you, but only when it is convenient for her. Dump her and move along. There are LOTS of better fish in the sea. (sorry about the cliche, but it's true)
(Can't you folks at least skim the answers that are already posted?)
2006-09-10 12:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this "girlfriend" of yours has major issues. She needs to realize what she has, before she wakes up one day and realizes that the good thing is not there no more!!!! And then who would be the FOOL then?????
2006-09-10 13:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Quinton T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with elpeesee
She is looking for something else, but doesnt want to sit around lonely and bored until that something else comes along, so she is using you for comfort, attention, someone to talk to, until she finds another man.
Don't let her toy with you.
2006-09-10 12:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by smith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds really confused! you shouldnt have to stand there while she makes up her mind.. just tell her youre a little puzzled bc that conversation doesnt quite correspond with the present.. hopefully she will clue you into her thoughts.
2006-09-10 12:10:06 · answer #11 · answered by mervelash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋