I'm about to have sex for the first time and am wondering, I'm a girl by the way, what's the best way to go about it. Should I have it be slow and soft, or would that just make the pain last longer, or would it be better to have him enter me fully at once. I know it doesn't always hurt having sex, but I'm prepared for the pain, and I want to give my guy the best time even if it hurts me a bit, so I'm prepared to rough it some too. Actually, even though I've never had sex, I always imagined I'd like it rough and hard. I've been saving myself for him and he can only take it once, so I want to give him the most pleasurable experience imaginable. And what exactly does that moment of penetration feel like? I think that's one of the great mind boggling questions for us virgins.
2006-09-10 04:59:21 · 8 answers · asked by williamselli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 21 and about to be married, so no underaged, underprepared hormone ridden teenager here, lol.
2006-09-10 05:05:15 · update #1
Wow didn't know there were still virgins left in the world. All you can do is just go with the flow. The pain doesn't last that long, it's just the initial penetration and then you're home free. Just tell the guy that it's your first time so he doesn't hurt you. You may not even enjoy your first time. You don't know how you should feel and you have nothing to compare it to so just relax your mind first and let your body guide you. By the way, how old are you honey?
2006-09-10 05:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are married or over the age of 18.I can not tell you how to live your life but you should be aware of the consequences that may occur.Just because you are a virgin doesn't mean you can contract a V.D or get pregnant.What a set to wreck a mood when you have a screaming child wanting your attention or finding out you have a disease
If you are planning this and it seems you have your little heart set on this..Make sure you both use protection.However,I would let your body relax and take it slow.It may hurt a bit and you may or may not bleed but just take precautions.
2006-09-10 12:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by wsm0628 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you can lose your virginity and not have sex the same day, well sort of let me explain. with my first partner when we decided we were ready i though of a way that would help with pain and not make a mess, since some girls can bleed a lot (and boy did she) any ways the first time he penetrates you he can just enter you once. at that point he'll break the "hymen" i believe that the breaking of the Hymen is the major part of the pain, but also the fact that while a woman is bleeding and you're having intercourse the blood might make it uncomfortable. ever had blood in you eyes? point being blood makes a bad lubricant. and drys rough. but hey you can go ahead like everyone else did. but this way next time you guys do it. no blood. no hymen to break. and you can have it rough and hard like you always dreamed of.
P.s. don't forget birth control. no excuses.
2006-09-10 12:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Orselo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You cannot have an answer for what you are asking, sweetie. If you are a virgin, I would not worry about "pleasing a man" since you do not have any expoerience. If this guy is sensitve to your virginity then he will instinctively know to be gentle. Just don't expect much on the first time or you will be sadly disappointed. A satisfying sex life with someone takes time to know each other both in the physical and emotional sense.
2006-09-10 12:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if you two have made out or 'messed around' before, then you could try doing some of those things before and during sex (if possible). If your boyfriend truly loves you, then he will be gentle with you. Communication is important, and if he is hurting you do not be afraid to tell him so. You could also ask him what is pleasing to him and then do so if you wish.
2006-09-10 12:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by astraea82 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should go slow and get used to having a penis inside u. its also best if u get on top. u can control how it goes in. how deep and how fast u sit on it. use lots of lube the first couple of times. have lots of foreplay. if it dont feel good the more u do it...something is wrong.
2006-09-10 12:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mediwizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is your first time, take it slow! If you have him just ram it in there, it is going to hurt like hell.
2006-09-10 12:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awesomeness. Just let your man feel you up while making out.
2006-09-10 12:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋