I have £5000 to spend on holidays... I was going to go on holiday with my son to Mauritiusbor Tobago in October for 10 days , then take my friend to either Seville, Sardinia, Granda or Florence for one week in November leaving about £2500.
But... I feel guilty and am not sure if I shoud pay to send my mum and brother to St Lucia. My mum is always falling out with me for nothing [ e.g I went to pick her up from work about three weeks ago and was slightly late because of traffic, she walked off and has not spoken to me since.. my brother followed her lead and also stopped talking to me despite the fact I did nothing to him.. this seriously is whats happens with my mother] and this happens frequently. My birthday was yesterday and they did not even buy me a card....
Anyway I don't know whether to book the two holidays above and forget my family and then just book one for myself and be left feeling guilty or book one for them knowing they will fall out with me again eventually..
2006-09-10 04:49:17 · 27 answers · asked by afrogirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your Mum falls out with you about something as trivial as that then I wouldn't go spending big money on her or your brother. Can't you comprimise and book them a long weekend somewhere? Then you won't have spend mega money if they fall out with you again but you won't feel guilty because you'll have done something nice for them.
2006-09-10 04:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't pay for them to go on holiday sounds like you are a very generous person but you are trying to get them to like you again listen what you did wasn't a reason to fall out they are your family and you were doing your mum a favour and to not bother about your birthday I'm sure that hurt ,get away with your son and friend and try to forget how silly your mum and brother are next time they need help they will probably come running its up to you what you do next but i wouldn't lose sleep over it just enjoy yourself instead of worrying about Ur silly mum.
2006-09-10 11:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a similar problem with my mum in my teens. We didn't speak for a couple of years.
When we did eventually make-up it was Ok.
Years down the line I won some money and took my parents on holiday with me and my husband. We did have a row anddidn't speak for a couple of days (on a cruise!) but then made up again.
I find forgiveness a hard task but worth it.
You may feel guilty if you WANT to but I'd bugger off on holiday regardless.
2006-09-10 11:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly with familys what ever you do is going to be wrong.
They as a group can twist any action into a personal jibe somehow.
of course I am only speaking of my experience which sadly sounds like yours. Nothing you do will be right.
Hard but confronting them to find out the root cause of the not speaking might be a plan... a letter sometimes can break the ice.
2006-09-10 12:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by JuJu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the Beatles song "Can't Buy Me Love"? Well, it is true for every sitiation. You sound like a co-dependent person. Why in the world would you even consider it?? Allow everyone to be responsible for their own behavior, sweetie. Why do you have to pay for a friend?? Let the friend pay his/her own way. Enjoy your holiday with your son and save the rest of the money for something in the future......perhaps to go to a counselor to help you with your co-dependency.
2006-09-10 12:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your mum and brother still aint talkin to you dont book their holiday. You go and have a good time away with your son and your friend.
If your mum and your brother want to be stubborn....you be stubborn too.
They dont deserve a holiday from you.
They wont appreciate or thank you for it.
But the thing is... if you dont book their holiday, they will cuss you and chat about you.
Could you handle that?
2006-09-10 12:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by LMC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say; stop thinking about other people - this is your money you don't owe your mum or brother anything.
Treat yourself to a fantastic holiday, you deserve it and shouldn't feel guilty about it.
Would they treat you to a holiday? It doesn't sound like it.
2006-09-10 11:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its your money take your son on holiday and really if your mother and brother wants to act like children then treat them like children.You are a father and your first responsibility should be towards your son. I would buy my mother a box of chocolates with a note says "sorry for whatever i have done again"
2006-09-10 11:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by cheryl l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They don't deserve anything after they way they have treated you. Treat yourself, your son and your friend. If you have anything left, you could buy them a one-way ticket to Southend!
Have a great time and don't give these selfish people a second thought. Do they feel guilty over their behaviour? NO.
2006-09-10 16:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you're off on holiday to have a great time, and they would both be too if only they treated you better. Go and enjoy yourself and don't worry about them. Leave them at home wishing they had been more compassionate to you.
2006-09-10 13:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋