Okay, I went out with this guy for a year and a half, he cheated on me and I forgave him, I believe people can change. I recently found out from more then one person that he was in a hotel room with one of my enemies. I hate him for doing this but he is my heart. I broke up with him and havent talked to him for about three days. He called my house last night and friday night, I didnt answer. A part of me really wants to be done and that is what Im trying to prove to him, but a part of me wants to hear what he has to say. He was my best friend, and it is really hard not to talk to him. Then again, I dont want to give in because I dont think he will ever change. Can anyone give me advice, and guys what do you think he is thinking. Please no rude comments!!!
2006-09-10 04:26:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Baby, don't be a fool!! If he really loved you, he would not be cheating on you, dump him!!
2006-09-10 04:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stay strong. You did what was best for yourself by dumping him, now stick by that healthy decision! Who wants to be in a relationship where you are always wondering if he is faithful or not - it is horribly stressful, and a self esteem killer (ie, why isn't he happy with just me?) This guy has crossed the line. You can't believe what he says, since he's cheated before. I dont really think you even need to talk to him - whatever he has to say doesn't change the fact that he was in that hotel room. If he were really into proving himself to you, he would not have put himself in that situation to begin with - and you know he was there because you have multiple people telling you. Don't let him lie and worm his way back into manipulating you - stay strong! Don't talk to him! You will be ok, and you will find someone else! Good luck.
2006-09-10 11:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is nuts.. if he keeps cheating on you there is no reason to stay with him honey! Have self respect! I feel bad for you because I know what you are going through as I have been there...a few times. If he doesn't respect you enough to be faithful to you and only you there is no reason to give him the time of day.
I know you want to talk to him, but you need to keep from doing that...thats how he wins you back, by sweet talking you. You shouldn't listen to what he has to say or even give him the chance to make it up to you. It will just turn into a cycle of cheating and you will end up getting hurt all the time. Don't talk to him honey... it's not worth hurting your heart again. Let it heal! Find someone who won't cheat on you and has way more respect for you than he did! There is someone out there who will never do that to you.
2006-09-10 11:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing the male mentality, once a cheater, always a cheater, and that applies for 95% of the time. He will say he's sorry and all that jazz, but he will stray again - always just a question of time. My wife and I have been married for 28 years and we've seen the same situation, time and again, with our friends, and every time the guy cheated again. Cut your losses, ditch him, and be sure - the right man is out there, waiting for you to come into his life.
2006-09-10 11:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Scabius Fretful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to what he has to say if you want to. But, in the end.... you do need to move on. Stay strong and dont give in to him and take him back because he has a history of cheating and obviously will keep doing it and keep breaking your heart. Leave him, heal, and find someone that will love you and not cheat on you!! Good luck
2006-09-10 11:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
girl move on its not worth putting yourself through.you wont ever be able to trust him again anyway and will be wondering what he is doing whenever you are not with him. trust me i know from expierence it may hurt to think of not being with him especially if you love him but girlfriend it hurts alot more to stay with them.me and my ex were together a year and he cheated on me with my next door neighbor. when he begged me not to leave i unpacked my things and stayed thinking things would change. it didn't everytime i went anywhere or to work i worried about what he was doing and of course i was right he was at her house. if he really cared about you he wouldnt have cheated on you.i know how u feel and i promise things will get better but u definatly need to move on. hey if you ever just want someone to talk to email me at babygirl_27_jc@yahoo.com
2006-09-10 11:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to move on , and so would I, but sometimes the other side of you, (that wants to hear him out) will get the most of you and you'll give in to hear it anyway after all the stressing to avoid it. It IS easier to move on once you have closure, and I don't think you have full closure on him yet b/c of hte lack of the entire truth. Someone told you their view of the cheating, but you haven't heard his. If he's known for lying though, then you could hear him out and just be done. If he's honest, well I dunno, he's not worhty of a relationship, but maybe in time, you guys could be just friends again. So, I'm guessing you should just hear him out and go from there.
2006-09-10 11:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
He has already proven to you that he cannot be trusted, he dosent care about anything except his own gratification, if you want to stay friends, ok, but you have already betrayed me and I will never trust you as a one on one relationship again. if you cheated once you will do it again. by betraying me you have decreased the value of our friendship, and that cant be undone there wii always be the thought of will you betray me again?
2006-09-10 11:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Chico 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen baby u should of never gave him another chance but he slept with the enemy go out with his best friend or his enemy
2006-09-10 11:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl...move one....don't let him think for one minute he can treat you that way....you don't need friends like that in your life....you are better than that!!!!!!!
I also wanted to share a quote i heard one time; "the best predictor of future behavior is past history."
people don't change...sorry to tell you that.
2006-09-10 11:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by kalie s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋