My bf still talks to his first love who he was with before me. I know she is still in love with him and wants to get back together. He says he doesn't and that he loves me.
I'm friends with my ex's. But there's no feelings there..unlike with them. Thats why I have a problem with it.
Why does he make it a point to talk to her if he's truly over her and doesn't want anything to do with her---and then lie to me and says he doesnt even talk to her?
2006-09-10 03:54:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's hiding something if he;s lieing , get rid of his *** , you're the rebound girl
2006-09-10 03:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a very jealous person,this may help
explain why he lied,but because I don't know
how you treat each other,one on one,all I can
tell you is this,: If you want to stay with him and
can put up with this behavior then do it,and drop
it before he leaves you and has a great excuse
to do it,or don't put up with it and leave him!!!
You know you have these choices,so make a
choice so you won't nagg him like crazy and
anyone else who will listen to you!!!
Let him go,or keep taking it,one of the two!!!!
I think all men should be allowed to have friends
with males and females if they like,but it is only
a problem when they choose to take things to
a different level. If you don't trust your boyfriend
then let him go because it will get alot worse.
One of you is wrong,so make your choice!!!!!
2006-09-10 04:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you to know, or he wouldn't lie. Tell him why you have a problem with it. How long have you 2 been together? How often does he talk to her?
If it really bothers you that much tell him...if he truly loves you and he will stop. Give him the chance to stop and if he doesn't tell him you don't think this relationship is going to work.
He shouldn't lie to about talking to someone. I f lies to you about that..then what else would he lie about.
But if you love him and want to try and make it work give him the chance and make your choice by what he does.
2006-09-10 04:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by Just another day 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he lies about it warning bells should be ringing.
He may be stringing you both along. If he respected her and didnt want to get back together with her he would not have contact with her so that she would get the message and get on with her life.
If he still needs to talk to her and misses her than he is not over her.
You deserve a boyfriend who doesnt lie to you and is over his ex. If he isn't no matter what you do he won't be good boyfriend material.
2006-09-10 03:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Bebe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 01:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we lie in a relationship, reasons are pretty common.
1. We do not want to hurt the other
2. Avoid arguments or quarrels
3. Do not want to jeopardise the relationship
I believe he doesn't want to lose you. Have faith in him but send out your insecurities. Ask him to be truthful at least.
Good Luck!
2006-09-10 04:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by Laetishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still has fellings for her but doesnt want you to know and is prolly confused at witch one he honestly wants to be with id say tht is y he is lying to you now if he just came out and told you then id say he wants you to kno so tht you a assured tht he wants you and not her if i wuz you id talk to her behind his back and find out what he is saying to her bcuz for all you kno he could still be telling her he loves her ive been there and yup tht is wht he wuz doing wuz tellin her he missed her and loved her so if i wuz you id be sneaky and make buddy with her
2006-09-10 03:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by chas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He lies about it because he doesn't want you to freak out about it. I think it's wrong for him to be still talking to her if he knows that she still has feelings for him. He should respect you and not put the relationship in that sort of danger if he really loves you and truely doesn't have feelings for his ex.
2006-09-10 03:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause he doesn't have the nerve to tell himself the truth about his last relationship.Deep down he may want her back or back enough to have sex with her and you at the same time.If he can't tell you the truth let him go before he hurts you and move on.If he's lying to you now he'll be cheating on you soon.(if he hasn't already,may be lying about that too!)
2006-09-10 04:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt want to not be friends with her anymore since she did used to be an important part of his life. He doesnt wanna hurt her feelings by complelty ignoring her. But he also doesnt want you to think that he still has feelings for her so thats why hes lyeing to you. its because he doesnt want to worry you.
2006-09-10 04:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by Sasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, buoy....water buoy.......that's bad. He should not even bring it up. I would let him be for awhile until he makes up his mind what he wants. He's fickled. and that puts you in a very bad compromising position that you don't need to be in.
As much as it will hurt...you need to let that bed get cold and save yourself the headache and pain that will folopow you on your days with him if he doesn't get his act together.
2006-09-10 03:59:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋