i have been grieving for while over a lost love. i have been grieving for my friend who died awhile ago,and i know the depression goes in the process: denial,anger,shock,depression,bargaining,acceptance,and finally,the grief it self. can anyone answer that for me? i don't think one needs to go on medication for a normal process of life!
2006-09-10 03:44:35 · 10 answers · asked by Dragonflygirl 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
don't confuse the natural feelings associated with loss and bereavement with the actual illness, depression, they are very different.
I have been diagnosed with clinical depression for over nine years now, and during that time experienced several losses as well. I do know that the feelings I experienced during the period of grief and mourning were strong and that I felt lonely and sad and often 'hopeless' but I also knew that I could separate these feelings as being a natural part of the loss I was dealing with and so I was able to manage them. usually there are other people in your immediate circle also sharing the loss of the person, it is good to seek them out and talk about the feelings together. in time this sadness decreases and while it still hurts, it is manageable. You can find ways to handle bereavement and loss simply by acknowledging why you feel the way you do, accepting it is part of a grieving process, processing it and eventually letting it go in order to move on.
With clinical depression there is no 'closure' there is no way of knowing how long you will feel this way and often the only sensible way forward is to accept that the depression is too big for one person to manage and seek medical help.
2006-09-10 03:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by Eden* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a specialist of this issue, I would say that if you lost that loved-on 6-8 months ago, it is normal. You are grieving. This is what a death does to someone. What is your perception of death? Do you see it as part of life, or as a different entity? How did your loved-on die? Was it from natural causes, an accident, or was he killed? All those may help you define what is really going on.
Since this is such a tricky issue, and I don't know you personally, you should start looking at some support groups. Antidepressants are not always necessary, since that kind of depression comes with the grief that you allow to feel within yourself However, if you have been going through this for a year or more, I would probably call upon a counselor or other professional help, because complicated grief can be dangerous for your own sanity.
Are you void of all emotions? Are you crying? Are people telling you, or do you sense that your feelings may be out of proportion? Do you feel that you have an obsessive preoccupation with the passing of your loved-one? Do you feel you cannot go on living with that loved on? If you have answered yes to any of those questions, I would probably seek help. This being said, medications may not always be part of the equation.
Also, find a support group! http://www.griefshare.org/
2006-09-10 04:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by fabmaster6 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's okay to cry. The loss of a loved one is difficult. At the time it seems overwhelming and "It's never going to end". This a natural reaction and a healthy result is the grieving or "healing" process. Think about this. How would the people who passed on want you to be? Sad? I don't think so. They would want you to continue with your life because don't forget, they loved you too. You will never forget them, but your life will move on. If you are afraid of what's happening to you, by all means consult your GP for a referral to a trained counsellor, or a psychologist. Don't be afraid, you will recover and the hurt will subside. You just need to give it time, and, you need to get out of the house and interact with people. Keep busy, that always helps to restore things. I wish you well. All of us have been there and understand your grief.
2006-09-10 04:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
being depressed over a lost love is normal, i would seek treatment in the form of meds ONLY if you are have thoughts of suicide yourself.This could be a sign of something more serious then a grieve depression(like clinical depression & that is different the depression from grieve) I would look into a support group for loss to help you work through you feelings
2006-09-10 07:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by A. IDE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im very sorry about your loss. Depression is a step in the grieving process, but you shouldn't have to take medication to get over it, it will come naturally!! Something happened to me over 4 years ago and im still kind of depressed/angry about it but it doesn't take over my life, I just do something that makes me happy( like singing) or playing music and it makes me not think of it anymore, or maybe you need a good friend to talk to!! Im a good listner and my yahoo IM is the same as the name on here aka voic3_0f_an_ang3l, well I hope this helps
2006-09-10 03:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by voic3_0f_an_ang3l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Medicine is only necessary in the case of grief when it becomes unbearable and won't go away. Sometimes when your brain gets knocked down into depression and all of your neurotransmitters retard it's just too much for them and they need a little boost to get you out of the depression just enough so that you can deal with the grief itself. But no, it certainly isn't necessary all the time or even most of the time. Depression is a part of life, it's just when it won't go away no matter what when you need help the same way a diabetic needs insulin.
2006-09-10 03:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. I think it is up to the person doing the grieving whether they get meds or not. However if you start having suicidal thoughts or just keep getting lower and lower you may need to seek help. Remember depression due to this kind of situation is normal but relatively short lived. If it gets worse please seek help!
Hang in there:)
2006-09-10 05:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by niaflower 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe you need meds for this situation. There is a reason you feel this way and its a good reason. I think you need to go through the stages naturally to really heal from this situation. Meds will only cover it up and then when you stop taking them you will need to face your losses once again. I believe meds are to be used for people that have no real reason to be depressed they just are depressed and cant get out of it without the help of meds. I definitely think you can get through this without them. You need supportive people and possibly talk therapy.
2006-09-10 05:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by jenn87 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it can. see a doctor and maybe he/she can prescribe something temporarily or until you feel that the grieving process is over.
2006-09-10 03:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would think, they might suggest zoloft.
2006-09-10 03:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by debbigeri 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋