Why is it that over the summer when I couldn't see my boyfriend for 3.5 months, I missed him SO MUCH that it hurt... and yet now that I'm back in college, I don't find myself missing my family? Is there something wrong with that? Please help.
2006-09-10 03:32:56 · 25 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honestly? I just think it's nature's way of helping you to move forward independently. Imagine if we still felt the way we did about our parents when we were very young. We'd never leave home! At least this is how I try to understand why my son has distance himself from me now that he's in college. It used to be that I could never go anywhere without him getting upset. Now I'm lucky if he sends me an e-mail note. Sigh. I miss him terribly. But I'm just his mom. And, more importantly, I know that he's happy, productive, and doing very well. I have no doubt that he's got a great future ahead of him. So I guess I did my job. And I'm sure your parents did their job when it came to raising you too. Try not to feel so guilty. Just do the best you can and that alone will make them proud. And, hey, call your mom every once and awhile, ok? :-)
2006-09-10 03:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that at all. You know your parents are there for you when you need them. They have spent the last 18 or 19 years raising you to be a self sufficient adult human being, sounds like they have succeeded. The emotional tie you have with your boyfriend is still new. I bet when you were a year old and seperated from your parents you cried as most children do. Don't worry, you are perfectly normal, no need to feel guilt.
2006-09-10 03:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you grew up with your family, you know they will always be there so why would you miss them when they're only a phone call away?
Your boyfriend, on the other hand, is someone newer and it's natural to want to spend lots of time with him.
2006-09-10 03:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong. I see you growing and maturing. I see new interests coming into your life. Don't forget your family, but don't cling to them either. You will learn, as you get older, to adjust your feelings. It is natural to wonder. My daughters felt the same way. They are both in their late 30's now, professional women with their own families but still time for the old man.
2006-09-10 03:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Probably because your boy friend and school are occupying your time and thoughts. There will be a time though when you wish you could be with your family and it doesn't hurt to give them a call once in a while to let them know your thinking about them which you are right now since your asking this
2006-09-10 03:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. You're normal. Actually, you missed your parents too but not as bad as you miss your boyfriend.
2006-09-10 03:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will miss them later don't worry nothing is wrong with you.
2006-09-10 04:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your fine listen you feel secure with your relationship with your parents in your subconscious you know they are completely there for you even now thinking of you all the time and you are growing up and going in to a new section of life really(they are missing you that much) but for you, you are good. you are confident with the relationship and know that you are loved. some day when you are Married and have ea healthy (healthy the key word here) your husband will go on a trip and you feel confident in knowing that he will be back in two days with no anxiety. Enjoy college and have fun just not too much fun. I used to feel that way about my boyfriend now after 12 years and 2 kids I am good he goes and comes back no worries..
2006-09-10 03:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by Florida Dawn 13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a perfectly normal part of growing up. Your attachment to your parents are changing. You no longer rely on them for the majority of your love and emotional support, you now turn to your boyfriend for this. If we did not make and reform these bonds then children would never leave their parents home and society would not continue.
You will always love you rparents, and throughout your life you will find times when you need them especially bad, but your emotional needs are now mostly met by others. It is completely normal.
2006-09-10 03:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're growing up. It's good to call them out of respect and love and appreciation though.
2006-09-10 03:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋