I am absolutely, knocked on my butt, sick as a dog. To top it off, my husband and I invited six friends for lunch at our house today and we are packing to move in two weeks. BUT. . . The kicker. . .I had to cancel last week as my nephew stayed with us and I couldn't get him going fast enough. 5 of the 6 friends would understand. The sixth would have his feelings hurt and think that because of my manic depression, I am cancelling, which isn't true.
2006-09-10 03:20:34 · 15 answers · asked by jsimon 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would cancel it. The 6th friend will just have to understand that you are very ill, and that this has nothing to do with him. If you really feel that you must press forward with the lunch, turn it into a pot luck. Call them all, explain the situation and say "If you all really want to come, go ahead...but sally, I need you to bring drinks...ted, I need you to bring a side dish....." Make a point to call the 6th friend and tell him the same. Hopefully he'll get the point and understand that you are ill, but still trying. With any luck they'll tell you to reschedule.
2006-09-10 03:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it all in your last words - they would think it was because of your manic depression. Cancelling for the second time suggests that you really didn't want to have the lunch party at all. Yet, your husband and you invited six friends.
Can your husband host the party (he can go to the local grocery and buy sandwich meats and a vegetable platter)? Is it for him or for you that you invited these friends?
If you are making commitments for things that others want you to do or that you think you "should" be doing, then your inner self will find ways to sabotage those attempts.
Your first priority is to yourself. Don't offer to reschedule. If your husband can't take over for you (and I would question why, even if he is busy at work), then just let the whole thing drop. Do something nice just for yourself - something fun that YOU would like to do to have a good day. Something that you might be tempted to feel guilty about, but that you won't feel guilty about because you know it is good for you. And you are important, and you need it, and you really, really deserve it.
2006-09-10 03:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Travlin' Grama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancel anyway. Take care of yourself because no one else will. If the sixth one thinks it's because of your manic depression he/she should even more understand what you are going through, not misunderstand or blame you for cancelling.
2006-09-10 04:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could cancel for your five understanding friends, but ask your non understanding friend if she wouldn't mind coming over and maybe fix lunch for you??? If she is a true friend, she will accept the offer. If she doesn't accept, I wouldn't even bother asking her to the next one and I certainly wouldn't give her the new address! I hope you feel better soon.
Cheers.
Helen :-)
ps, good luck with the move.
2006-09-10 03:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Wonder_Mum_006! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, common sense would dictate that a party you get sick at is not a party at all.
So don't invite friends to a party and make them sick, physically or emotionally.
Why would you mention manic depression, this is why women use 8 to 10 thousand words a day when men only use 2500. They truely like to hear themselves talk.....lmao
2006-09-10 03:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really is probable an fairly complicated time on your ex and right this moment you're the in worry-free words man or woman he can seek for suggestion from from about his situation and which will be why he ought to be certain you. on the different hand it may well be that he needs to initiate seeing you back, besides as attempting to reconcile mutually with his spouse. From what you assert, i don't think of you should tolerate that. i'd pass for the lunch and locate out what his interest is.Is he a lost soul in desire of steerage or is this a romantic date? In both case, i'd have one objective - to lead him remote from me and back in direction of reconciliation mutually with his spouse.
2016-10-15 23:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would cancel because of illness. Maybe they will come anyway and help you pack. Thats what friends are for. And the sixth would see you arent lying.
2006-09-10 04:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the 6th friend if her would rather you pass on to him the illness YOU now have? Also consider this....if you really ARE that sick, the smell of the food might cause you to throw up at the table? Didn't think of THAT, did you?
2006-09-10 05:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just not feeling up to it, you should certainly cancel, and just explain the situation. Why put yourself under additional stress when you're sick? Stay home, rest up, and take care of yourself.
2006-09-10 03:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by oceansoflight777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 out of 6 is not a bed percentage! C'mon, you got to take care of yourself. There will be other occasions for lunch with your friends. Feel better!
2006-09-10 03:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋