Before I get the bashing of my life for even considering getting involved with a married woman, let me give you a little background. I met this woman 7 months ago... after talking for awhile I realized that she had some marital (physical) abuse and she had only been married for a little over a month. The day I met her she said she was getting a uhaul truck and leaving before her husband returned home from a trip. She also mentioned that her husband was fired from his job for having a female co-worker in his hotel room and he was charged with sexual harrassment. She said she was very unhappy and wanted to leave but was scared he might do something to her or himself. She has continued to see me and claim's she hates her life when she is not with me. She tells me she loves me more than anyone in her life and she is not "in love" with her husband anymore and feels her family would disown her if she got divorced. It's hard to walk away from her...what should WE do? do I walk away?
2006-09-10 03:18:56 · 30 answers · asked by Buddy E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel you and i know you're in a big ****. You have to cool down. I think the decision is in the hands of the woman. She has to decide if she still wants her husband or wants to divorce him. You don't have to decide for her cos she still belongs to someone else. Keep your love to yourself for now and if it turns out that you guys are meant for each other, then go for it. She might be using you for her comfort since her husband is f-ing up. To stop these assumptions, just be cool and continue living your life. Don't make any commission ie don't be in any involvement.
2006-09-10 03:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by genipabu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don’t just walk away, RUN AWAY! If and when she is clear of the marriage, THEN get involved with her. Otherwise, you’re asking for a whole lot of trouble. Something about her story just doesn't sound right. She claims her husband had another woman in his room & got fired, but he's returning form a trip? He was cheating on her, but she was cheating on him (with you)? Forget running away, DRIVE AWAY. Even if she is having these problems, you don't want to become a factor. Tell her as soon as she gets moved away and starts proceedings for divorce or anulment you can start seeing her again, but until then FLY AWAY!
2006-09-10 10:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by R_SHARP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be straight with you. You can't help who you fall in
love with cause it doesn't work that way. You feel in love with a married person I don't condone it but it happens.
At this point if she was going to leave her husband she would have. In her own way she loves you too because she wouldn'trisk everything to see you.
If she is staying in a shitty relationship then that means she is not
planning on leaving. It would hurt that my family disowned me that is so sad but what is sad is a women staying with an abusive man. You need to move on even if it is so hard.
2006-09-10 10:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to bash you but when it's all said and done she's a married woman and it doesn't matter why she's unhappy with husband,she has not or will not divorce him.I believe you know your wrong for being with her although you did try to help at first.Just move on before you get hurt.
2006-09-10 10:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a poor scuze of a man ! Out of all the single women in this world, why would u screw with a married woman? Why do u like to break up marriages? I used to be like u & i learned the hard lesson. What goes around comes around . u will get ur share one day, when someone screws the wife u love.
2006-09-10 10:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like her life sucks and that she needs to get out of there. If that includes you in the picture then so be it. And she needs to forget about that loser and his loser family if they would look down on her for not staying with an abusing piece of garbage. Find out what she wants and maybe she would hit the road if she knew you were around to support her. And don't take the bashing as word. They aren't in that position and are the first to voice their opinion from their tiny protected world
2006-09-10 10:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why walk away? She can choose between being up for the rest of her life and having her husband gives her AIDS from whatever floozy he happens to tap on that week or let her family know that she chooses "life"
That part has nothing to do with you. If she values her family opinion more than she values her own life, well then she values their opinion more than she cares about you.
Plain and simple.
2006-09-10 10:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the you just got sucked into the oldest game in the book. Poor Me!!!!
Listen yhe lady is sick in the head and you are getting into a very seriuos situation. If she is worried he will hurt her or himself why would he not come after you?
She is not going to divorce him so why waste your time. You need to do some serious thinking.
2006-09-10 10:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes just walk away she is were she wants to be. she is the one cheating and blaming her husband for her cheating. she is using you. Think about it if she was your wife would you trust her or would she be telling some other man that you abuse her and having an affair with another man. How would you feel if you knew
2006-09-10 10:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, the fact that her hubby's a swine doesn't justify your treachery in the marriage bed. Think about this when the two of you get married. Who can you trust?
Everything's peaches and cream in the beginning. The hangover's in the post though.
2006-09-10 10:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by corpuscollossus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋