i told him it'sonly a "fling" as far as i'm concerned so i'm not going to change for him
2006-09-10 01:48:42 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your just using each other... he's using you as a trophy girl... and your using him period... your both wasting your time with each other....
2006-09-10 03:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could look at this from 2 points of view, firstly he might be the type of person who expects alot from someone and if he doesnt get the feedback or feel the connection then he may think you treat him badly. Personally i think if you have told him its only a fling then its obvious he wants more and you shouldnt mess him around, not all guys can take rejection easily and you saying this although your being honest may still come as a kick in the teeth. Personally it sounds like you dont want any commitment and for that reason it doesnt sound like things are gonna go far, ask yourself this, if roles were reversed how would you honestly feel and then maybe you can see things in perspective.
The best thing you both can do is sit and talk and lay your cards on the table. Dont mess each other around as that just makes things worse and dont string each other along, life is way too short!!!
2006-09-10 02:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Tom1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know flings way to well. Girl, if that is all you want him for, you can find a better boy to hang out with then him. I think there are both things that you could change, but he shouldn't be in a relationship for someone who don't like him like that, and you should try to figure out what exactly he thinks you are doing to say you are treating him like dirt so that the next guy you really do come across and like won't hate you for your personality.
2006-09-10 01:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he admits that he uses you for sex with no attachments by basically saying "I'm not happy with your personality, just your physical features", and you tell him you're using him for sex by basically saying "You're just a fling, I'll throw you away when I'm done with you". Yeah, I feel the love in this relationship.
So if it's understood that you're mutually "using" each other and your happy with that - what's the problem?
My friend, don't sell yourself short. If a relationship is down to that point, you need to look for something better because otherwise you'll both remain miserable.
2006-09-10 01:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is the idiot for staying - I wouldnt stay with someone I thought treated me like dirt - as for your "its just a fling" if he isnt happy just move on and live your life the way you want to live it.
2006-09-10 01:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very much as though nether one of you are ready for a meaningful relationship. If he stays only because you are beautiful and you think that is something on which to base a life, keep doing what you are doing.
2006-09-10 02:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not willing to change, you're not willing to change. End of story. You'll just stay beautiful and treating him badly and he'll either accept it or leave you for a girl who treats him nicer (though he might like to be treated like dirt...men don't always make sense)
2006-09-10 01:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by nevermind_my_id 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we cannot make people change...they have to change themselves....if you love your boyfriend you'll stop treating him like dirt...beauty is in the eye of the beholder...you may look beautiful to him, but seems to me your an ugly person inside...get your face out of the mirror and find someone who really suits you..this guy needs a nice girl
2006-09-10 02:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by shellysnapz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's only a fling, and he only likes you for your looks, keep on being a ***** who is beautiful on the outside but not on the inside, you have that right. If you like being a *****, by all means, keep it up.
2006-09-10 01:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its only a fling and your not goin to change then why have you asked what we think you should do. if you really dont care about him then finish it. he deserves to be happy as much as you do. if you are happy with him and you dont want the relationship to end then change. if he is worth it you will do it. only you can deside x
2006-09-10 01:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? Well, it sounds like you're far too conceited to do anything at all about it.
More to the point, what should he do? I'd suggest he puts you across his knee, gives you the spanking of your life, then dumps you and finds someone better.
2006-09-10 02:20:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋