why would someone dump a nice person whohas made an effort? what explanation can you give yourself?
2006-09-10 01:28:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They are not good enough for you. Move on, forget them and let someone more worthwhile find you.
Good luck!
2006-09-10 01:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Alzebub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is in the wording of your question. You said "someone you love" not "someone who also loves you". Love is not so cut and dried, or a mathematical problem. The world is full to bursting with kind, generous, available, sensitive men and women who are regularly dumped for any number of reasons, including timing, chemistry or just personal circumstances of one party or the other.
Maybe she just knows you're not the right man for her. You, being the gentleman you undoubtedly are, have no option but to accept that. This will be a difficult time for you, but you are in good company as most people of both sexes have to go through this. I know a 46 year old woman who has been hopelessly in love with the same man for over 20 years, but he has no interest whatsoever in her, even though they are really good friends - she suffers terribly when he as much as talks to another woman, including me, I've seen her almost break down and cry. Don't be like her and fixate on this person who has dumped you - what a waste of time, energy and emotion that would be - forget her and move on.
2006-09-10 08:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was dumped a few year ago by someone i adored, i made myself ill tryin to understand why they didnt want me. in the end i found out they had been infaithful and couldnt live with the guilt. sometimes the more you try the less people appreciate you. next time your in a relationship just treat the person the way they treat you and certainly dont get too involved unless you know they are for real.
2006-09-10 08:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't, happens all the time.
Spometimes people are just chicken, can't deal with tellin gyou reasons, often silly reasons anyway..commitment phobia, bored, because they keep breaking prmises and feel guilty, they are users.
Just got to accept it and move on, only get bitter and twisted otherwise.
I only ever wanted my last ex to be honest with me/tell truth, but couldn't do it, kept leaving the country and screwing me over. Just rember the good times, generally no real malice, just weakness of character, or external factors they don;t fel able to explain,and above.
you gain something from every relationship, mine was good sex and made nights, many laughs, and a real good summer.
right person will come along if you don;t make it the be all and end all
chill with your mates in the meanwhile, fault probably with them, not you.sometimes the chemistry/trust/interests etc just aint there....at least he didn't run off with yoru best friend/brother/soister/boss.parent/your money or something worse!!
Life is for living, live itl
2006-09-10 08:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
It is also pointless trying to figure out the how,when & why`s.
I actually had the rare opportunity to speak with my ex after we`d broken up, and ask what I wanted to ask.
Even after I got my answers I wasn`t sure it was the truth.
So, the only thing you can be sure of, is that you can`t be sure.
Move on, it`s for the best.
2006-09-10 08:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by grafixo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from my own experiences in relationships and i think that when with a partner we can be to nice and helpful and do anything for them so when we offer this to them the relationship becomes easy for them and therefore they don't have that challenge of making you happy as a result of the unconditional love you give them and then the relationship becomes easy and they get bored and look for a more challenging relationship so just tone down and remember to have your nights apart and give each other space.hope that helps
2006-09-10 08:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by sherminator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just dont feel right in relationships...the person may be nice but the other person may not have feelings like the other one does...it happens, move on
2006-09-10 08:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by shellysnapz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, the only person who can answer this is the person who dumped you. you can ask everyone, including yourself...but you'd just drive yourself crazy wondering why. stop asking. stop blaming yourself. it might have been you, it might have been them..so if i were you, stop wondering and concentrate on yourself :)
2006-09-10 08:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by vicci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. Just move on and find someone who deserves you and values you. Happy times ahead mate, happy times ahead :)
2006-09-10 08:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just suck. There are crazy, mean people who have nothing better to do than play games with other people's feelings.
2006-09-10 08:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Nc Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋