About 2 months ago, ON OUR 2YEAR ANIVERSARY, she left me, only saying that she's young and want 2 concentrate on her career. I was devistated and am still struggeling to accept it. now, a week ago, I found out that she's already kissed another boy, which is killing more that anything I have ever encountered. I've had a panic attack and am using medication now to help me handle things. Ive spoke to her, and she's confirmed that she's kiss the dude (Who is her age) but that she's not keen for a relationship with him or anyone. He is moving away very soon, but I just can't believe that she's already kissed someone else. I want her back so badly, but she's said that she doesnt want to get back together with me, or not right now. I cant stand waiting untill that day or wondering when it will come. I love her so much and can offer her so much more. I'm killing myself with thoughts and making myself paranoid. I dont want to become a stalker ex, but just be there for her. I love her so much.
2006-09-10 01:17:01 · 15 answers · asked by toodead2bury 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
while she is concerntrating on her carreer and abviously her life,why dont u try to focus on urs too.if she had feelings for u she would have felt the same as u feel now!!
do u imagine urself kissing another girl??offcourse no bec u still have feeling for ur ex...obviously she doesnt share with u that type of feeling.
if she tells u she cant b with u right now..plz dont live in a lie thinking that one day the time will come to get back together..she maybe saying that not to hurt u or a polite way to say goodbye.
life goes on faster than u think.focus on urself and whatever comes..comes
stop using medication they only make u weaker
2006-09-10 01:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by selina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 20:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Vonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sort of relate to you right now. Two months ago my ex's mother butted into our relationship and everything went down hill. So it's over now. I was so depressed and I just wanted him back. I still love him and it's hard now to stop thinking of all the good memories. What I started to realize is that how he treated me was disrespectful. Someone who says they love me should treat me as though they love me. Obviously your ex didn't love you enough to stay in the relationship. Don't hold onto the fact that she might come back. Your just holding on to false hopes. You deserve someone who will love you and stick around with you. It sounds like you have a lot of love to give why waste it on someone who takes it for granted?
I suggest doing things for yourself to help cheer you up. For me I love nature and taking pictures so I've been taking walks and taking pictures. My ex and I had been saving our money for engagement rings. So with some of that money I went and bought myself something I really wanted. I've also been working on things to better myself so that I can be more positive about myself. Instead of putting all my energy and emotions into a guy I'm putting them into myself for a change.
I'm not saying it will be easy because it is hard when you love someone so much. But you need to love yourself and take care of yourself too. You deserve to be happy :o)
2006-09-10 02:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As tough as it is you do need to move on maybe as well as medication try some grief and loss counselling don't worry you probably won't become a stalker if you keep to the boundaries of not being involved in her life or the circle she is moving in perhaps a new hobby will assit you good luck
2006-09-10 01:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The harsh reality of love is that sometimes you have to let go.
You can tie yourself into a knot over this and the outcome will be the same.
What she chooses to do with her life is her choice; you at least acknowledge those choices and make the conscious decision to move on.
2006-09-10 01:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry man, but it takes two to make a relationship work, and if she doesn't want to date you anymore, there's nothing you can do about it.
And really, why would you even want her back after what she did? Even if she decided, on a whim, to date you again, it wouldn't be long before she changed her mind again randomly. She sounds immature. You can do better.
2006-09-10 01:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by night_trekker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since i got deeper into spirituality
i found myself gettin less jealous,not any kind of
organizd religion, just knowin we'r
all one in spirit,why care so much about who goes w whom?
u should try it, sounds like ur gettin dangerosly close
to the edge---its a place u dont wanna be in
2006-09-10 03:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by use 2b light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to move on. She's not that in to you. You can't sit around waiting for someone that is not going to come back.
Talk to your therapist about ways to handle this.
2006-09-10 01:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we have to be ourselves and accept life as is easy it up and relax i like to have a woman and nothing is happening big deal when you alone u are king of the road first to be happy alone rhen u ready for somebody else giv e her some space to breath and she will call you bless u i like have to have mnillion dollars who knows
2006-09-10 01:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for her best friend....Don't be a weakling...just go for the sex part...Or do you think that she gave the best blow...wait til you try many from a few more...take care,it's not the end of the world.
2006-09-10 01:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋