Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 years and my mother still hates him to this day. We have a 3yr old together.
Does anyone have any suggestions on this issue or is it true about in-laws? Please help!!!!
2006-09-10 00:27:50 · 8 answers · asked by wantsomefun279 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just concentrate on your relationship with your bf and child.. continue to allow it to grow. Hopefully in time they will see what amazing person he is, what he means to you and your child and will eventually accept him. Needless to say, I have the same fate but my in laws don't really accept me because I was married prior and have a child from another marriage. But we don't allow their opinions to be apart of our relationship, we move forward hand to hand.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-10 00:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to be really supportive of you…
until I read your previous question !!!
Do you question your love for the father of your child?
In your previous question, you asked if there is such a thing as ‘true love’ anymore?
I got the impression that you are beginning to have regrets !!!
You have stated that your mum still hates your boyfriend.
Perhaps you are (going by your previous question) beginning to see your boyfriend the way your mum has always seen him.
How old are you?
Were you at school age when you had the baby?
Is there an ‘age gap’ separating you and the boyfriend?
What sort of a ‘provider’ is your boyfriend for you and the baby?
Does he have a job… pay the bills… look after you and the baby?
I’m not trying to be nosy or anything…
I’m just trying to get a better understanding of why your mum feels the way she does about your boyfriend.
“Is there such thing as true love or am I just an unlucky women?”…
Does that sound familiar to you? It is a quote from the question you asked yesterday.
You have mentioned that you and your boyfriend have been together for eight years…
Do you mean that you have been living together away from your mum for eight years?…
How old were you when you got together with your boyfriend?
You have a three year old child…. Was there much ‘intimacy’ in the relationship during the first five years?
Do you love your mum?
Can you appreciate that she loves you very much, and wants only what is best for you.
Have you asked your mum why she feels the way she does about your boyfriend?
You and your mum see your boyfriend through different eyes, OK!
And to be honest with you, I would be more inclined to put my faith in what your mother sees, more so than how you see him.
You may perhaps see your boyfriend through ‘rose coloured glasses’…
Whereas your mum sees him through the loving, caring and protective heart that nurtured you and helped you grow to who you are today !!!
Don’t hate your mum for loving you, OK !!!
Because I am beginning to think that those ‘rose coloured glasses’ are getting very dark, and you are going to need your mum to help you pick up the shattered remnants of your heart !!!
If you want your mum to see your boyfriend through loving eyes…
Show her how happy you and the baby are, and how well your boyfriend looks after you both.
If however, you continue to question the love that your boyfriend has for you, and the ‘happiness’ begins to turn to ‘hell’…
Thank your mum for being the loving, caring and protective mother that she has always been!!!
2006-09-10 07:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother should stop disliking your boyfriend and start loving him. He is the father of her adorable grandchild. This feud between your boyfriend and your mother has to come to an end for the sake of your child.
To settle this feud once and for all, ask your mother what is it about your boyfriend that she dislikes so much. Your boyfriend can't be that bad a guy to give your mother a beautiful grandchild.
2006-09-10 08:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by Louise Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something your mother sees but you cant? we're often blinded by our partners and any of there wrong doings. If this is not the case maybe you need to sit her down and explain to her that you cant handle this anymore and that you love her but you also love him and if she dosnt have anything nice to say, then not to say anything at all. She cant put that pressure on you, its not fair, especially to your 3 yr old, thats the father and when your child is old enough to understand, it will cause bigger issues.
2006-09-10 07:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother to get over it or you'll get over her! More importantly though, think about this- does she have good reason to dislike this guy? Like maybe he is not the best for you? If that is not the case, then she's just being a beyotch and who needs her anyway?
2006-09-10 07:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by confusius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u truely loves him u wouldn't mind watever ur mother tells u, i know u respect her and her reasons but that doesn't mean u should stop loving him.. and she should learn to like him a lil at least
2006-09-10 07:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life with your bf and get away from your mom....each one of us has the right to get a life,bf, and everything they want whethere it is bad or good they learn from it.
2006-09-10 07:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in-laws should be out-lawed
2006-09-10 07:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋