divorce rates, hyperindividualism, not wanting to get hurt, cybersex, death of romance, pop culture, playing games, dating, no redemption for failure, ego, hypocritical equal rights (i.e. paying for dates), statements like: "all women/men are ___", ugly/stupid people having more sex than goodlooking/smart people, lack of substance in people, using, lying, cheating, simultaneous antithesis of polygamy and monogamy, bitterness, resentiment, people who have never suffered, selfishness, lack of emotional fullfillment, professional sluts, women who are practically sluts, internet porn, and so on...
2006-09-09 23:42:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
^ Those are symptoms not the cause of the problem.
This is one of the best questions in this category, it hasn't been asked before because my generation doesn't care about it.
2006-09-10 04:33:46 · update #1
pretty much society tells you its okay to have all those symptoms. you can look from presidents to rap stars and actors and actresses... pretty much portraying on the younger, developing generation that GAME matters, mutiple partners suppose to make you look better - it shows "skills" (whatever that means), people get married only to separate.
What's wrong is... I think those celebrity icons today... is like going thru a phase. One moment their in love and the next day they want a divorce simply because they can't seem to overcome their obstacles they must go through together as each other's significant others. I think that's weak. Besides they have money to throw weddings left and right. With the money they have they should have just bought retail therapy.
Also, throught life a lot of people get hurt by putting in a whole lot more then their getting and they know it. Some people pick up pieces better then others.... others just move on trying to seek revenge on the opposite sex with lies, games, cheating simply so they can feel better about themselves and making sure others know their pain. Others just give up too easily.
Here's a poem my friend found, I think it makes sense. Sorry if i wasn't any help.
...Irony of Love....
The greatest irony of love;
loving the right person at the wrong time,
having the wrong person when the time is right
and finding out you love someone right after
that person walks out of your life...
and sometimes, you think you're already over a person,
but when you see them smile at you,
you'll suddenly realize that you're just pretending
to be over them just to ease the pain of knowing that
they will never be yours again...
for some, they think that letting go is one way
of expressing how much they love that person...
in my opinion, some are afraid to see the one they love
being held by someone else...
most relationships tend to fail not because
the absence of love. love is always present.
it's just that one was being loved too much and the
other was being loved too little...
as we all know that the heart is the center of the body
but it beats on the left. maybe that's the reason
why the heart is not always right...
most often we fall in love with the person we think we love
but to only discover that for them
we are just for passing time. while the one who truly
loves us remains either a friend or a stranger...
so here's a piece of advice;
let go when you're hurting too much.
give up when love isn't enough.
and move on when things are not like before...
For sure there is someone out there
who will love you even more...
2006-09-10 08:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie T 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not all relationships are shallow .. I have amazing relationship and marriage that includes romance, honesty, trust, commitment .. we are both not selfish when it comes to each other needs, wants or desires. We fill each others fullfillments .. we cheer each other for our dreams and our career decisions. There is no lying, no cheating and no emotional or physical abuse.
Simply you just need to find the right person and don't give up hope - because its not always shallow.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-09 23:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because people of today live in a society where looks is what matters not the individual we get bombarded with ways of how not to age remedies, take a pill to lose that fat, bombard us with absoulte crap on T.V. like: Laguna Beach, a reality show of a bunch of rich, ruthless and immature kids. Then we have Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie with the dumb show they had. oh and let's not forget all the sororities and fraternities that only choose people that look like them and act like them and turn away those not up to their standards and feel nothing as they pretty much let them know that they are not good enough to join their stupid tree club. We watch as CEO's make millions to the point of destroying companies running off with peoples lifetime savings and who sleep just fine with themselves. We live in a society where there is no accountability it's everyone else's fault of why they made a mistake, mother did not hug them enough, father beat him silly. I could go on and on. The only thing we can do is bring up our kids responsibly by teaching them morals, ethics and self respect and honesty.
2006-09-09 23:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by Y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are messed up
its very sad. personally Im in the process of getting divorced. Its not anything I ever saw myself having to do or even considered.
I think society has placed so much pressure on being successful at a job and being someone that it wears on people to the point that they are constantly in competition with each other. It wrecks families and friendships it is ever rare for people to have good friends now.
I don't like any of it at all a job and being "successful" isnt worth being lonely or abusive to someone you claim to love.
I am a bit bitter if you are senseing that.
2006-09-09 23:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by knowitall 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I call that the evolution of our society,as men's role change from hunter and defender to be less of significant,because brain power is much more needed today than before and women are as capable as men.Therefor women can gamble more with their mariage and men are not so important any more except for mating.
2006-09-09 23:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
because the world is a selfish and superficial place and that's what we learn when we grow up... unless we redefine what we really want from life and what we are prepared to do for it, we will continue floating around like empty barrels in a sea full of waste...
2006-09-09 23:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by julesloveslife 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that a lot of it has to do with publicity and the "Game". Its not right and for those of us that seek the long term seriousness... it sucks.
2006-09-09 23:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by ashley65@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW... good summary of the 21st century. I don't know what to say, other than that people are stupid. VERY STUPID.
2006-09-09 23:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because you can only get out of a relationship what you are willing to put in-
2006-09-09 23:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Not in my life.
2016-03-27 05:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋