I have always got exceptionally good grades at school (I recently took two major sets of exams and got straight As) but I never got on well with the people at my school. I felt I didn't understand people as well as I did my lessons, and this led to me wondering if I was normal. I went through a phase of thinking that maybe I was mentally abnormal somehow - I did well in my lessons but, behind my back, everyone knew that there was something wrong with me, that I couldn't deal with people and didn't understand what they were saying half the time.
Luckily I changed schools a year ago and have matured a lot since then and stopped having these thoughts, made some new friends. I am just wondering if this is a normal phase to go through or what are people's thoughts on it.
2006-09-09 19:40:20 · 16 answers · asked by rissaofthesaiyajin 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm 17, by the way - just to give you a frame of reference.
2006-09-09 19:40:48 · update #1
Some people have mentioned socialisation. As a very small child (6 or 7) I was recognised as gifted and - wait for it - REMOVED from my school class, because it was moving too slowly for me. I was working outside in the corridor, alone. My father found out and raised hell, got me put back, but I don't think I really recovered until now. When I left primary school one of the lunchtime supervisors gave me a "We'll miss you" card because I used to talk to her instead of children my own age!
2006-09-10 09:24:26 · update #2
I'm 24 and still go through this. I just started a new job and had 2 weeks training. I picked things up very quickly. I'm naturally very inquisitive and asked lots of questions to better my understanding. I also got on very well with the trainer. Toward the end of the first week, I noticed people becoming off with me and this got worse and worse... I still think that it was my fault, that if I'd
2006-09-09 19:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by Taioma 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are trying too hard to please other people, and also a little paranoid. Just go out there and be yourself and don't care about what other people think. There is always going to be people who do not like you for one reason or another, but there are those that admire you for who you are and not always licking others boots to be popular. How do you know they were thinking anything behind your back? Stand on your own ideas and be proud, The ones that like you for this, will come team up with you, the ones that don't, are not worth it anyway. The are probably not like you anyway and you would not hit it off with them. Forget them and go on. This is how you become and leader and not a follower. Just do your thing and don't worry about what other people think.
2006-09-09 21:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face it, people do talk about others behind their backs; they're deceitful and sometimes cruel, but too cowardly to say the same thing to your face.
Especially if you're academically bright. And you sound to me like you haven't had a great amount of socialisation and learned the social skills many take for granted - like me at your age.
I'm glad it's better at your new school.
Remember - just because I'm paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get me!
2006-09-10 02:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal, most of us think people are talking behind our backs, its part of how society has twisted our minds.
We are a competetive breed by nature and that spills over into everything we do. We need to prove ourselves and be liked and noticed for it. The level of this varies between individuals and I think this is due to the level of self confidence they have.
It has a dramatic affect on our lives as those with low self esteem will restrict the things that they do through out their lives in case they make a fool of themselves or upset some one.
The biggest extroverts are often fronting the biggest fears and talk about others more to draw attention away form themselves.
It is mainly a case of keeping your fears in perspective to be successful and happy
2006-09-09 20:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clearly it was jealousy and it's not you it was them making you feel less capable because they were jealous. There is nothing wrong with suceeding at school, when you are a high executive of a company they will be sweeping floors at mcdonalds so I wouldn't worry about it.
Now that you have a circle of new friends the true ones will congratulate you, support you and be there for you when you need them. Give yourself a pat on the back for being bright.
2006-09-09 20:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is entirely normal my friend. Some people are shy and introvert and get easily conscious of what others are thinking about them, while some are so carefree and social that they just do not seem to bother. I myself have gone through this sea-change. Do not worry. Just be urself and love urself. Be positive and confident about your unique persona.Everyone is unique and it is not at all necessary that you match up with people around you! Maybe no one could understand you at that time. Maybe you are special and only meet some special few!
2006-09-09 19:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mooch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that I can relate to what you went through, but I do believe a lot of intelligent people have a hard time because they think and evaluate things more. I was lucky to be born just thick enough. Lots just went over my head - it can be a blessing.
Don't worry - it's quite normal to be a bit abnormal.
2006-09-09 19:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by fatface 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you are so smart, people are going to talk about you. But remember that in the most part, people are so cruel. And the better you do at things, the more you will stand out from the crowd, the more you will attract hateful people (and good people too!) as they cannot do the things that you can.
Rise above them all. Don't let them get you down, as later in life, you intelligence will server you much better that their gossipping.
Peace out...
2006-09-09 19:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They probably just found you different to be around, just because you had different interests than they did. They would have been anxious when you were around just because they were afraid of being associated with you. When people find someone who is not like them, I think it can be intimidating for them, so they do the easy thing which is to alienate you. You had nothing wrong with you other than being unable to mix with a narrow minded group.
2006-09-09 20:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by Princess415 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you shine academically like that...it goes along with it that you usually are more sensitive to others also..a trait many bright people have, because of their vivid imaginations...So yes, it is quite possible for a lot of people to think that way, especially when others almost shame you for being do darn smart...Great that you changed schools and went forward!
2006-09-10 00:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋