Is it polite to call to people who did not RSVP to get a correct quest count?

Question

I am throwing my mother a surprise birthday party and sent out RSVP invitiations, but a couple of people I talked to said they did not realize it was RSVP. Would it be appropriate to call the people on the guest list to confirm?

Answer 1

Nah, their name goes on the list you give to the bouncer.
And not the good list.

Answer 2

I have this problem for every birthday party or get together I have. No one RSVPs. They all play stupid. No one comes on time either. For your surprise party I agree with everyone else to do a follow up call because if no comes on time or if you don't know if they are coming are not it won't be much of a surprise party. That will suck!!! I wish you a great celebration turnout.

Answer 3

Absolutely! The RSVP is important to know how many to plan for - so if they have not answered you in an appropriate time period - by all means call them. Good luck with the party!

Answer 4

I would call them just to give them an extra opportunity to let you know. It would be better than turning them away at the door or finding that insufficient arrangements had been made, or even that perhaps that the invitation got lost or never arrived.

It may not be the most polite option, according to Emily Post or Miss Manners ( depending on one's era). That perfection would have been for all to have gone perfectly in the receipt and reply to the invitation. But I am sure that your goal is to have as many of your Mother's friends as possible come and help her celebrate, to do this, I vote for an extra phone call.

Answer 5

If you're paying by the head -- YES YES YES!!! just don't accuse them - i need to know if you're coming, you never replied LOL do the, gracious aunt sophie, something happened to my list and i don't recall your RSVP asnwer, were you able to make it for mom's party? if they saw no, don't ask why just say thanks. otherwise, remind them of the time - but push it up 15 -30 minutes because if they couldn't RSVP they'll probably be late (tee hee hee)
if it's a buffet -- and it's only a few people don't bother -- just undercut by 5-7% and you should be fine a the rule of thumb is 10%.

Answer 6

I would call them. It could not be any ruder (is that a word?) of you to call and ask than it was of them not to send the RSVP. Besides maybe they lost the card in the Huge stack of mail!

Answer 7

wait until you really have to know, and then those who didn't RSVP in time, give them a call. It is really best to have too much food anyway, so don't worry if you don't get an exact head count

Answer 8

Hi It may have been your fault, So ask the people you did talk to for the reason they didn't respond. Then go from there. You may have to send some out again but this time write out in big letters you have to have a responds .OK. have a great party.

Answer 9

Of course it is appropriate, cos you need to know the numbers for a few reasons. They could have sent them and they got lost in the mail

Answer 10

Well yes in your situation. If u had R.S.V.P. on the invitation, and it was clear, then you should wait till the last minute (or couple hours). even then, anyone who cant come would call anyway, and any1 that didnt call at all, assume that they are coming, and you'll be fine. Unless your in the position that you're in. Then as i said, you should call.

Answer 11

Yes, that is totally correct. If they don't like it, that's just too damn bad. If they give you any grief, just tell themyou have your priorities and they have theirs and at that time, yours are simply more important to you. Make sure you include the to you part. After all, you wouldn't want to be rude about it.