what do i do?

Question

how can i ask him out? me and this guy have been talking for about 4 months now. i really really really like him and well i really dont know about him. we talk on the phone and we have gone out but with friends. and well the other day he made me a drawing of my nome without me asking him. i dont know if i should ask him out or if i should wait for him!?! he's really shy so i have half of our friends telling me to ask him and the other half telling me that he would of asked me already, so for me to wait until he has the balls so that he wont feel like i'm too agresive! what do i do?

okay i did ask him to see a movie with me and he said sure. we saw the movie and like always we flirted alot! then the girls planed a party at the park and asked me to call him, when i did he said he was busy but he would try to make if! and as for who calls who well sometimes he calls me and other times i call him. we talk almost every night. the only days we dont talk is when i have practice after school and get home around 9:00 and even then i sometimes have missed calls from him or he calls just in time! i've been on the line when one of my friends calls him and he's asleep. he just says he'll call her back later, but when i call and ask if he wants me to let him sleep he says no!!!! today he didnt even come say hi to me during lunch which he always does!

Answer 1

For starters, don't go completely on what your friends say. It's YOUR potential relationship, not theirs. I'm not saying it's bad to get their imput on the situation, but don't go completely on what they're saying. I personally would wait until you're almost entirely sure that he likes you, but you might feel differently.

Anyway, this guy is shy. You're not likely to have him walk up to you and say that he likes you and wants to ask you out. Besides, it's hard to ask people out. Which is what you're probably going to have to do if you want to see this relationship go anywhere. If you want to take my advice and be sure that he likes you, see how he acts around you. Are you the one that goes up to him to talk all the time or does he feel comfortable approaching you? You said that you talk on the phone too. Are you the one that calls him or does he call you? Also, does he seem genuinely interested in the conversation or does he always want to end it? Remember that he is shy. Even if he doesn't go up to you to talk that much, it could just be in his nature. If it seems to you that he enjoys spending time with you and talking to you, then I would go for it.

When you ask him out, don't say, "So, want to go out sometime?" This is a bad, bad, bad, BAD question. If you say that to someone, they have no option but to say "Sure" or "Sorry, I don't like you that way". If it turns out that he doesn't like you, then you'll have to hear it exactly like that. Instead, ask him "Want to see a movie tomorrow night?" This way he can either say "Sure" or "Sorry, I'm busy tomorrow night". Not only is this easier on you, but he won't feel nearly as bad saying it if he made that up as an excuse. If he does like you, he might say "Sorry, I'm busy tomorrow night, but I'm free all weekend". This shows you that he really is busy, but likes you enough to want to go out with you another time instead. However, don't think that just because he said he was busy that night doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Try again sometime. If you ask him to places again and again and he gives you that same answer again and again, you've got your answer as to whether he likes you or not.

Oh, and if he didn't like you as at least a friend, then he would have shook you off way before four months went by.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Just ask him out. If he is shy like you said then perhaps he is afraid you will say no and he can't handle the rejection. Just ask him if he would like to go see a movie or something with you. Start small and go from there.

Answer 3

I believe the only relationships that really work are the ones where the girl picks the man. Note!!! I didnt say to sleep with him on the first date! Good luck!

Answer 4

LoL..that is true advice, for someone who is a typical guy. if he really liked u, he would've done something about it. however, u said he is really shy. and the same advice goes for You: if u really like him, u would ask him out! if not u'd let it go...

here's what happened to me.. i was introduced to a guy thru a friend, and we went out to dinner. it wasn't a date, but it wasn't "not" a date...it was to see how we get along, and see where it would go. So, he had the chance to get to know me, and see if he liked me, and ask me out, or just be friends. that is the typical way a relationship works...it's the guy's duty right? ;). however, after the 2nd time we hung out, i gave him a hug goodnight, and later he told me he liked me as a FRIEND. so ever since then, i never gave him a second thought! we hung out all the time, talked a lot, and i thought of him as a best guy friend. a year and a half later, he blurts out that the WHOLE time he liked me! and i was shocked...because i had no idea. and i had no feelings towards him that way. especially after knowing him for 1 1/2 years!!

i told him, if i liked you, I would've said it a LONG time ago. so, sometimes girls do have to be the agressor in the beginning...if the guy is so shy like this!

so u have to decide wehter or not u like him enough. do u want to try a relationship w/ him? then theres' nothing wrong w/ asking him out.. just make sure u encourage him to be more "aggressive" as u continue going out, if u like guys who know what they want and go for it (i know that's what i like!).

another story: my first boyfriend... we hung out a lot at the dorms in college, and he wrote me poems...and i started liking him... but he didnt' ask me out! so finally i wrote him a letter, and i said i liked him!! and then he called me and asked me to be his girlfriend. so he needed that reassurance that i liked him back. so ur little drawing reminds me of the little poems my 1st bf gave me.

LONG story short, theres' nothing wrong w/ asking the guy out. u gave him a chance to..and he 's too shy. someone has to ask someone out!! do it!! just remember he needs a push, and to encourage him to become more outgoing and go for what he wants..as his girlfriend, u want to support and encourage positive, healthy behavior from him! :)

Answer 5

Make it look like you are just going to hang out. say like"hey lets go hang out at the mall together" or something of the like and just don't tell nobody and maybe he won't and then you two are alone.Then if he show's up go to a movie or something,but if he brings friends it just means he's really not interested.

Answer 6

Ask him how he feels about dating, and maybe he'll get the picture.

I myself would feel akward if a girl asked me out, not to be sexist, but thats just how I am I guess...

Answer 7

Go head and ask him out, but be prepared if he decides not to have anything to do with you afterward.

Answer 8

its not the 1990's any more if you like him then tell him how you feel and if he feels the same way then ask him out!!

Answer 9

Go for it! If you never ask him, you may never know what could of been. Tell him how you feel and ask him! good luck! XOXO

Answer 10

You sound really young.4 months is not enough for you????Do not waste a second go and find him