it's 1 in 4 so how do you really feel about GENITAL HERPES???

Question

that's a high statistic so you either know someone (including yourself) or have been around someone with it, but what do you really think about the disease? also, how do you feel about dating someone with it...especially if you don't have it yourself? and if you love someone, do you think it's worth the risk?

Answer 1

I have had genital herpes for over 5 years now, my fiance has had it about 9 months.

Honestly, I would have to say if someone HAD to have an STD this would probably be the best one to have. It doesn't cause any health problems at all. I mean, the sores are painful don't get me wrong, but that's about the only complication a person with genital herpes has. And, the longer they have the virus the less outbreaks they have and the less severe they are. I personally have not had an outbreak in almost 2 years. Not only do I have genital herpes but I also have HPV (from the same guy unfortunately). I developed cervical cancer when I was 17 years old from HPV. That is horrible STD! I went through so much physical and emotional pain during that time in my life, genital herpes is NOTHING compared to HPV.

Genital herpes does not cause a person to become infertile or sterile like most bacterial STDs can do, like gonorrhea, syphilis, and chlamydia. It's not deadly like AIDS or syphilis can be. Genital herpes does not cause cancer or warts like HPV does. The only real bad thing about genital herpes is that it can be passed to a baby during birth which can be fatal. I've read that this is a less than 1% chance though, so it's pretty rare.

A lot of people say they would never date a woman who has genital herpes, but I don't think that's necessarily true. Since 1 in 4 women have the virus chances are at some point in a mans life he will meet or even date someone who has the virus. Every single guy I have dated has always chose to still date me after I told them I had the virus. That doesn't mean that's the case for everyone though. Some people can be really nasty to other people when they tell them they have genital herpes. Maybe I've been lucky with that. Through my years of dating I even met and dated a guy who had genital herpes. It's pretty common if you think about it.

Right now I'm in a great relationship with my fiance. I told him in the beginning of our relationship and before we had sex of course that I had genital herpes. He still chose to date me because he cared about me and loved me. Of course he wanted to know everything he could about the virus and if he could get it or not. I sat down with him and explained to him everything I knew about the virus, how it was transmitted, etc. He knew the risks and decided to stay with me. He eventually did end up getting the virus from me but he doesn't mind. He never even mentions it to me. The only time we really talk about it, is if we hear or see a commercial about Valtrex or something. Other than that I never think of having genital herpes. People can live normal healthy happy lives having genital herpes.

Answer 2

I just wonder how old the 1 in 4 statistic is... I'm guessing it's higher now. I contracted genital HSV1 (from oral sex) from my current boyfriend who "gets a cold sore every once in a while". I had no idea I could contract it genitally. After all, he never went down on me any time even close to when he had a cold sore. I'm guessing he was kissing his kids more than he was kissing my *#!%^. I would bet that they have it too.

Herpes is not a disease, it's a virus. We don't tell our potential partners that we have the cold or flu virus, do we? Why not? They are both viruses... Someday the herpes virus will be viewed the same way. I think I'd rather have a herpes outbreak than the flu (you won't ever die from herpes and it's usually less painful).

Most people that have herpes don't even know it. If you think for a second that you want to cast a stone... get tested, you may just have it yourself. Just because you don't know, doesn't mean you don't have it.

As far as if it's worth the risk... When you love someone, you love them for who they are not what they have. Education is the key. It really isn't a big deal.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I have Genital herpes and I got it from my fiance who didn't even know he had it. Because he got it from an ex who was showing no symptoms, and he never developed any. I on the other hand am not as lucky, but I live life like everyone else. After I was diagnosed at 18...I was devastated. He never wanted to talk about it, I didn't have anyone to talk to. But I learned the statistics. I studied the virus religiously. I personally believe that I would have a hard time getting into another relationship if this one were to ever fail. I just couldn't do it. I know how people look down on the virus, and dont want anything to do with anyone who has it. There aren't that many people willing to risk it if you were to be honest and tell them outright. But if you are in a relationship and love someone, it's not something to break up about. Make sure you are protected. Wear a condom every time whether there are symptoms or not. You can still get it. There are more people that have it than you would think. And most dont even know it, so the statistics aren't that acurate.

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Answer 6

RE: genital herpes 4 months later? omg.. im scared.. so i was raped a few months ago..was tested negative for stds/hiv even genital herpes..but positive for hsv 1 cold sores.. which i used to have a long time ago! but im having another worry.. im scared i might have contracted genital herpes from the rape.. it started off as a yeast infection due to the meds i was taking for a minor surgery of a skin infection. then it was from yeast infection to some bumps under the skin..i recalled FEELING 3.. i dont see anything.. i just felt itching.. well the bump under the skin went away, but i see 1 paper cut at the very top of the labia.. so i dont feel any burning when i pee bc i dont have any down there/no sores/no lesions, i just see a paper cut that was bleeding on top of labia.. i did shave and the hair is itchy when it grows back..but a paper cut?? wut the ! is this genital herpes 4 months later?

Answer 7

Terrible. And sex is pointless because of it, unless you have sex with a virgin, which is near impossible the older you get.

Further more, if I were single and met the perfect woman but she had Herpes, I'd love her stay with her and support her with her dealing with this and getting medication, but no sex. Not until doctors get off their butts and makes a cure, If we can create the atom bomb, we can create a cure for STD's.

It's rediculous that there's still no cure. It's emotional torture.

Maybe one day, I would have sex with her. A passionate moment after waiting for so long. Maybe there are days with higher or lower riskes of catching it from her, especially with medications, and the lowest day would be that day for sex.

Answer 8

I am absolutely terrified and I feel so alone. I just found out last week that I tested positive for hsv1 and 2. I have been with the same man for the past 10 years and within the last year found out that he has cheated on me with numerous women. I am so scared that I can give it to my children by kissing them and them eating with me...I feel like my whole life has changed. And even though the nurses, my doctor, and websites say that a lot of people have it I still feel like I am by myself. My self esteem has dropped and I feel like I have been used up. But now, My life is very happy.

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Answer 9

Hi there I've had this,and believe me it was not through going with anyone,you don't catch it with having sex,at first this what i thought until my Dr told me otherwise,because i was panicking as i knew it was not through sex,so there you go,hope this has helped put you on the right track

Answer 10

not worth the nasty thing..