I am in relationship since last 1 year however we were friends before that for 8-9 months however i had proposed in our 3rd meeting and we were in love with each other very much. I m a student yet and on job search. however in some past days or say in last month or 2 the gap between started increasing as i was not able to give her as much time as i used to give her. i had joined a project training in .NET then now i m joining another company on training and conract basis so i m busy and also pursuing my studies harder now so that i cud complete all my studies on time and could get a decent job so that i can ask for her marrige from her parents. but in some past days she was getting angry more then b4 and today she messeges me that she wasn a break for some days as she dont feel as much attracted like b4 and she is not able to look me with love and she can only look me as a friend like b4. and plz guys this is a sensitive question so plz gibe sensible answers no nonsence please.
2006-09-06 08:05:05 · 12 answers · asked by Vijay Agarwal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she was saying that she wants a break for 2-3 weeks and she wants us boith to think over everything. I never ever objected her for anything like if she ever got angry on me or for something i never objected i always apologized and if i ever felt bad or wrong i never let her know that i felt bad or angry. i loved her more then anything and still now this is going nowhere. i never ever minded her looks and my looks as i knew she is goo dat heart and i never minded my looks as i dont look so bad atleast. and more over i never ever said her anything. she said v meet that day i met her that day many times she refused me to meet but i never refused her to meet. Any ways and plz forgive my spelling mistakes its all just coz of the situation and plz dont send any nonsense messeges plz send some sense atleast and i know i have the option to break up or anything.
2006-09-06 08:11:16 · update #1
Ok guys. and i thank u all for your valuable suggestions. and tell u waht the problem is solved. thanks to u all guys !!
2006-09-10 18:12:49 · update #2
Hi Vijay.. I guess it is very sad dear.... i know that you love her a lot as you told me .. I guess you call her or meet her ... and us tarah rahne ki koshish karo ki jis tarah vo aapko dekhna chahti hain... use samjane ki koshish karo ko aap use kitna pyyar karte ho... i know ki pyaar kio dikhaane ki chezze nahi hain .. use mehsoos kiya jata hain... lekin i think yahi right time hain ki aap use bata sakte hain ki aap use kitna pyaar karte ho..
i wish ki aap dono ek sath ho jaye phirse.... usi tarah ki pehle the..
i want you to see you guys again toghether...
agar uske dil me aapke liye sachha pyaar hoga to i m sure vo aapke har ek problem ko samje gi...
vese bhi aap use dur karna to nahi chahte the ... vo bat hum log jante hain.. ... lekin yah ek bat hain ki... itna bhi work n study hard mat karo ki aap use bhul jaye.. take her out for dinner or some romentic places... use vo sare pal yaad karavo jo aap logone sath mein pehle bitaye the...
try to give her some beautiful surprises... ki vo sari surprises dekh kar vo khush ho jaye...
try to attrack her ....
let me know also whats going on so fAR...
i m worried about u.... i hope all thing willl go alright...
taka care and god bless you
2006-09-07 11:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where there is love in a relationship, there is also support. If anyone between the two becomes demanding and urgently at that, then the relationship is awry. There is no future prospect for such a transaction since the "long-view" is not mutually shared.
You don't even have to bother explaining why you are doing what you are doing now, all you needed to do was say it supposed to be for the future and she is part of it. That she would fail to appreciate it, that she would demand so much of your time and attention right now when you're struggling (instead of strengthening you further with even moral support), you have one self-centered partner there.
Look at your relationship from this angle: If you can't help, then do no further harm.
2006-09-06 15:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi bhai,friend,first of all its really sad that a person like u is facing such a situation,now what i think is that she mite be feeling insecure as u r not giving her proper attention,so she mite hve decided that by asking u for a break,u will feel or realize that how imp she is in ur life,becoz mostly gals do it,n by saying so u will only care for her much more than before,which will gve her satisfaction. but d other part can be this also, that ki she now feels that u r not her rite man,as u said ki just in 3 months u both felt that u both love each other n i think it was a fast decision.becoz as i know that she was previously involved with some one else so this mite may also be d reason that,when u meet her she was in need of someone who care for her n the care u showed to her attracted her towards u,n without thinking much she said yes to u.but now as time passes she mite have realized that now to be frnds again ,ok now i l sujest u ki tum ussae abhi ph karo n say her how much u love her n say her that why she is saying so that she need a break talk to her properly abt the matter ,it would be better u talk to her face to face,n then if ur inner concise says that ki she not responding as she was before then tum wahi karo what she asked u to do, as she is telling u to gve her a break,give it, n see that ki when does she call u or talk to u next ,if she cals in a day or2 that mens she need u she love u but if she call in 2 months or so then better u forget her.
2006-09-07 22:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by gehana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a long talk with her. If you aren't able to give her as much attention, she may have found someone else. This engagement isn't official, and she sounds like it's over. I would listen to her, be understanding, and then count it as a blessing. You need a woman who wants to marry you, and will support your need to find suitable employment. After all, this tendency to get out when one doesn't get one's way, it's unattractive and immature. You don't want a wife who will divorce you every time you have a lot of work to do. And, maybe you should not look for a serious relationship until you've got this job hunt resolved. Just date around and take it slow. You sound like a principled young man, you need a wife who will feel blessed to have you.
2006-09-06 15:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are trying to pursue your career and that this is only temporary that you have very little time. I cant see why she's giving you a hard time, i would be impressed if a guy was doing this just so he can marry me. Well if she still does not understand what you are going through than she is being selfish and is not the right person for you.
2006-09-06 15:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lorrane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As I see she is not supporting you as it should be. I think you have to talk to her and share your problems with her, asking ehr for support and not leaving you, as you said you both are in love, but it´s sounds like a INTEREST love in her part.... If she loved you for real she should have take this way leaving you just because you don´t have so much time for her. It all depend by time, you are still young and taking a lot of knowledge time, it´s normal at this age you have a busy life. You are searching for the best job also a job that let´s you have fun with your family, so sheneeds to understand it. I passed in this situation before, but at my turned I understood my husband as well, he was fully day busy for months but it didnt broke my love in him. Now he is working at part time and also we got married . That it should be.
2006-09-06 15:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Trilochan Kaur 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds shallow. If she won't stick around now, then what will she be like later when it counts more. Accept favors and find a better woman. Like let this one choke on her choices.
Best of luck.
2006-09-06 15:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Valeria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her her break....and also let her know about your all the commitments towards her...n life!
by the same time prepare your self for whatever the result may come..(+ or -)..if both of you are damn serious for oneother,then you'll definatelly get the 'love'...
my wishes are with you...'god bless....n have Faith'
2006-09-07 01:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by piyukh p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jst let her have the brake n think over.if she dosent want u le her go.i mean shes nt being understanding 2 u wen u r under so much pressure..then think of ur long term relationship.u sure itll work?
2006-09-08 12:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her the break but also letting her know you love her and whatever you can do your there for her!!
2006-09-06 15:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋