Can suicide be justified? Is there ever a circumstance where it can be a moral chioce? Can it be right? I would love to have your views on this subject. ( Please, nothing hateful or mean, this is a serious question, given to you by a sad gay man seriously in need of advice. Thanks.)
2006-09-04 18:09:39 · 54 answers · asked by urbania05 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's very hard to choose the best answer for me. Thank you all for your kindness and compassion. In times like these, it's only easy to see all of the bad. One tends to forget that therte are good people like you all in our world. Yesterday, on the 11th, I tried to remember that. I guess some things are just bigger than me. If those who survived terrorism can still make it, what's stopping me? It's ashame that it takes terrible events to put things like this into prospective. And I would also want to thank everyone who shared their own experiences with suicide. You are all angels, and in our hearts, minds, and prayers. I don't know what's going to happen to me.... but I do know that whatever happens, I won't forget you guys, ever.Perfect strangers who reached out. Thank you all.
2006-09-11 19:41:42 · update #1
I really don't feel that suicide is the answer to anything. I mean, I have felt like suicide for a long time now, haven't told anyone and I still could not bring myself to do it. I think that sometimes, even if we don't think we love ourselves, deep down inside, we do. I'v often wondered, so many times, why I don't just get it over-with. I mean, people are jerks everywhere. Just when you try to make a friend you get dumped on. A person can't even go to a mcdonalds without getting a dirty look from someone on the way or there. Its terrible. But, maybe people like you and I are essential to the emotional development of others. I feel used but I know that by you and I still being here, we're stronger people than most. Those jerks with dirty looks would'nt know how to deal with my life and most likely, yours neither. Don't be sad kiddo. It'll be alright. I've been here for years now....surrounded by a bunch of inconsiderate idiots....still breathing.
2006-09-04 18:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by adam f 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've written this article a number of times trying to put 2+2 to equal 5... But here's some general advice...
Because you are having thoughts of suicide, you should seek professional help without question. No other alternatives there. You aren't crazy. Depression is an illness like any other.
There are many gay psychiatrists out there -- I know as my wife is in psychiatry and every male psychiatrist she works with is gay (at least three and one extra who possibly hasen't realised he's gay yet).
I think it may be a pre-requisist for being a male psychiatrist!
Look to your own "family" (gay community). They'll help you find a good counselor that meets YOUR needs.
There are too many wonderful things on this planet. Drink up life every day you can. There are wonders around every corner. You need only open you eyes, your ears and your heart.
Find help. It's out there.
2006-09-04 21:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Moose 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hard as this may seem, Suicide isn't the answer, everything happens for a reason, you may not understand it right now, but in time you will. It could be so horrible wrong right now, but later in time, you could think $hit, that's the best thing that ever happened, it could be a whole safety net without your knowledge, and it just may seem bad. God never closes a door without opening a new one.
It's life, we all have our up's with our down's, some may seem more fortunate than other's, but that's not the case, we all have our good days and bad, that's a part of life, it's not a choice, you got the good and the bad.
Best thing to do is try to change the situation, I lost my job, my fiance, and it's just a really bad time, but the key thing, is try not to let it get you down, life will be a challenge, but your not the only one going through hardtimes, thing's will get better, you just got to have faith =)
2006-09-04 18:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
so many GREAT answers here - hard to pick which is the best of them.
i have a friend whos son committed suicide about 4 years ago; left notes for the family .It has continued to be difficult for the family to come to terms with his passing as he was only 26 .
Generally I believe suicide to be a very selfish act by the individual- as it may get rid of their problems but creates more for their families.but when people get to the point they are not thinking clearly. sometimes the person hasn't necessarily wanted to die - but just to go to sleep & have all the problems dissappear.
in my friends situation I could actually see some sense in their sons decision- as he had been ill for many years & the medications he was on did not seem to be helping his situation.he had been on many different ones over the years. he was fearful of losing his mind or going blind. Also the condition was deteriorating so he would not have had any quality of life.
If you or anyone you know is contemplating this step it is VITAL they seek help immediatley
2006-09-09 13:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Suicide= giving up. So many people fight for life and would love to come back for a second chance. Even people in poor physical condition end up finding joy at least for a couple of seconds a day. That makes it worth while. Mental, that changes for the most part, not even close to a good reason. Certain death in the near future without the opportunity to relieve pain, well that can be argued.
2006-09-04 18:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Stan the answer Man 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Suicide can feel like a compelling solution, and when some people are suicidal, they cannot think of anything but that. Don't confuse that with the idea that there is no other solution to your problem. You just cannot think of them. That is why having a therapist who can help you find reasons that suicide is not the best option is necessary.
Suicidal thoughts cloud out so many other rational choices. Beware of them.
2006-09-10 05:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think suicide is never the right choice!
Life gets rough and bumpy sometimes but better days are around the corner. I've experienced with suicides last year and i realize that even though you think it is for the best it really isn't because you hurt all your loved ones. I tried to commit suicide when i was younger and i am glad i didn't go completely through with it because i now have a wonderful life.
2006-09-04 18:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by froggie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jesus will take your problems away. You need to surrender your heart and stop fighting God. You have been searching for answers. But your answers have all lead to unhappiness. Surrender and give your pain to Jesus. You are a child of God. God does not make mistakes people do.If you want to end it all, why not kill your old life and become reborn. That's what happens when you get baptized. The old creature is no more and the new man is revealed. That's what Christan's call being born again. Go to your nearest Calvary Chapel in the morning there will be some people there that can and will talk to you.
2006-09-04 18:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First if you need to talk email me. Here is my beliefs on suicide: when you take away your chance to learn and grow you take something that is more valuable than words can say. I'm sure you heard "this to will pass" will it does pass. It passes when things are great and when things are bad.
To live we must fight for every breath we can have. I too have had very down times. 8 yrs ago I spent more time in a mental hospital than out. Now I came to a spot that life is good. So it will be for you. I will send out to the universe healing energy for you. I would be honored to do a healing spell for you if you don't mind.
2006-09-04 18:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by Tedi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think suicide is mainly a personal choice. It's generally an incredibly immature and selfish choice, but at the end of the day, it's your life, your choice. Just realize that your loved ones will only be saddened for the initial shock. The anger comes later and lasts much longer.
2006-09-04 18:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋