me and my boyfriend are on the verge of splitting up. he speaks to me like i'm nothing etc. my family is moving away and if we do break up then i want to go with them, i asked him to consider coming with me and he said that there is nothing to consider. we have a 2 year old son and i am taking him with me. yet he doesn't think that there is anything to consider. i'm only moving 40 mins away and he can drive so don't think that i am taking his son away from him. i live in a council house he has asked me to put it in his name and leave it for him when i move. i don't want to do this. when we were happy we dreamed of buying the house extending it etc, and now me and my son are going i don't want it to turn into a pimp pad. hes already said that he will move in another girl. am i being unreasonable if i say no? after all he has the option of coming and i want to leave the house with the memories that i have from here rather than him live out my dream with some other girl. am i unreasonable
2006-08-31 14:19:01 · 12 answers · asked by confused 3 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
Girl don't give him ****! Forget that, go with your parents to have a support system. The most important thing is that ur Son is in a good place. He can drive his *** 40 minutes away to visit. Good Luck! Don't let a man take advantage of you and make u feel bad and selfish. If the two of you are no longer together then all that matters is u and your son...
2006-08-31 14:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by AUDREY H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No of course you aren't. You're supposed to give a man a hand up or a hook up but never a hand OUT. Let him get his own house. The lowlife already said he's going to be with another WOMAN and you said he treats you like nothing. Thank GOD you are getting away from him, now you can have a good life. Let him be a man, don't allow him to be "made" by you, girl. You already KNOW what to do. I see a lot of good sense in your details. Enjoy life without a loser, I know I have.
2006-08-31 14:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you boyfriend is being soo difficult. No, you are not being unreasonable either.
It's a good thing that you are moving because you may have never seen this side of him and never new what kinds of things he can do to you and your son.
It's tough but I think you need to cut all ties with him and move on to better opportunities.
I had to make similar decisions, but I had to divorce my ex and now I'm happily married for 10+ years and a new Grandma!
Good Luck with your son and his future...remember family will always be there for you!!!
2006-08-31 15:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Susan §@¿@§ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First be strong. Women have all the cards in their favor most of the time in legal matters. Don't leave the boyfriend anything cause if what you say is true, he doesn't care what happens to you. Sometimes when you stand up to someone like him, he will come to his senses and grow up. Be strong, do whats best for you and your son. There are to many good men out there to be tied to one lemon.
2006-08-31 14:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by child_of_the_lion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be confused... this is the Food & Drink > Entertaining catagory.
But, about your problem...
What ever decision you make, make it from your heart. You will always have yourself and your child even if the father decides not to be part of your life. You have to make choices that will be best for you and baby. The boyfriend is going to make his own choices too.
It isn't selfish to give your child the best life possible.
2006-08-31 14:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by beckabee74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are very reasonable. You've answered all your own questions and your plan sounds good. Now all you have to do is pluck up the courage to do what you have planned. Your son is better off with you.
2006-09-01 00:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by HumbleOpinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definently not being selfish. If he really does treat you like nothing and has another girl then he shouldn't be around.
2006-08-31 14:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you like you're nothing, then leave him with nothing. Obviously he cares more about his living arrangements than about you and your son. Move on........
2006-08-31 14:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by littlebear2232 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no honey you are not being selfish he is move and let him work it out on his own Good luck and God bless
2006-08-31 15:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want him and you to live with your parents? Forget it.
2006-08-31 14:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋