With all the STD's out there it seems there's no reason to have SEX.?

Question

I just discovered I have HPV. I wasn't promiscuous, I've only had three girlfriends. We've always got check ups before having sex, and tested healthy. I'm 28. We used condoms but they've slipped off into them a few times. One broke.

Now I'm screwed for life, yet there's people who have many partners who have no diseases. Lucky them.

With that said, it seems that the only way to avoid an STD if I could do it all over again, would be to live a sexless life and pretend sex doesn't exist.

The only other way is if you find a virgin, which is near impossible when your in your twenties, and find one who is the ONE for you, which is again pretty difficult to find. Which means you'd most likely be living without sex forever.

It seems like thats what I or anyone should do if they wish to avoid disease. What do you think?

If you agree, should doctors sever the natural desire in the brain to want sex? That way, no desire for sex, no catching grusome sex diseases.

Thoughts?

gangadharan_nair - Thanks for the info, but I know all about HPV. Also realistically speaking, as I stated above, finding a partner who doesn't have a disease (a virgin) is difficult when your in your 20's, and even more so to find one who is the ONE for you at the same time. Which means most likely you'll live a sexless life. Which, it seems like the best way to live, ingore sex completely.

PAPA62 - About the condom, it's pretty basic how to put one on. I know how it slipped off, it's when I was younger I would go too deep and thrust too hard not realizing that it would slip off. Not to mention the girls vagina would usually grip on harder through excitement which inched it off easier. My penis size is 5'1", which may be small for you if you have more than seven inches, but big enough to please women, dramatic vaginal spray and quivering for evidence every time. I didn't break that condom on purpose, I learned from my girlfriend at the time that it was old, and she said it would be find. Perhaps she sabotaged it, but unlikely, she wasn't the shadey type, she was perhaps young and just as oblivious about old condoms as I was. And I trusted her judgement which was a mistake.

I apologise in advance for what I'm about to say, but if your much older than me, it's hard to believe. You sound like you still have a lot of growing up to do based on your immature comments.

Deridre - Finding a virgin is easier if your younger. the older you are, the less possible it is to find one. I have a wife by the way, when I mentioned about how difficult it would be to find a virgin, I was talking about if I had to do this all over again. I didn't really start dating until I was in my twenties, where finding a virgin is near impossible. If you do find one, their usually a vigin because their extremely Christian, etc, which most like that don't date you seriously unless your very or somewhat Christian as well.

Alli - I am married, which makes it worse because I have to worry about her condition as well. I am learning to deal with it, which is one reason I created this question here. What bothers me is that I don't like making mistakes. Even if I didn't have much control over it, I feel like a retard when ever I don't do something exacctly perfect, and this HPV problem is the one that is most furious to me. Which is why I analyze what I could have done to not be in this situation, and that would have been to avoid the existance of sex period.

Sex is worth it if you are careful, only if careful meant a sure way of not getting a disease and still having sex. But thats not the case. Careful isn't enough, and it's not guarenteed. No sex is guarenteed.

Regretting having sex does change something. It changes how I will raise my children...to forget about sex entirely unless they are willing to deal with getting an STD, because it's pretty much russian roulette.

Moving on is right though.

BH - There could have only been two people who passed it to me, my first girlfriend, and my second. Not sure which one. You can only find a partner who is disease free if they are a virgin. Sometimes pepsmeers (bad spelling) won't show anything because it's too early to diagnose, and if you have sex, you can get it then thinking you were both disease free. So virgin would be the only way to go, which again is near impossible when you in your 20's when I started really dating. Since I'm married, I only have sex with my wife, but I haven't been in the mood because I feel destroyed by this. Not to mention I'm on treatment.

angel74 - It's interesting to me when people like you who are disease free put themselves on a high horse, saying things like "thats why you always use protection" knowing full well that you can protect yourself all the time and still contract an STD because at some point, skin may touch on some level, or a condom mishap, and you will get a disease and sing a different tune.

My point is that there is no full proof protection, and anyone who thinks they are safe and smart because they have sex but haven't gotten a disease yet, is like a guy who thinks he's the ultimate military soldier because he's one of the few who was lucky enough not to get shot to death, when he could have been killed at any time. His false pride. The only protection against sexual disease in no sex. If you have sex, you may get it regardless of how you protect yourself. So for those of you who think lowly of me for having this, if your having sex, your may join me, and fall right off your high horse

Answer 1

Sex is worth it if you are careful, which sometimes doesn't happen, and it's not your fault. Millions of people have STDs.

I personally got two incurable STDs when I was 17 years old, HPV and genital herpes. I had sex with a guy ONE time and got both of those STDs which I now have to live with the rest of my life. It happens. Many people get them because, the condom broke, slipped, that one time it was unprotected, etc. It's the same with pregnancy, it just takes that one time, that it was unprotected or the condom broke, etc.

Avoiding sex may seem like the only thing to do to not get an STD, but there are ways around it, and I'm sure you know them. Using condoms every time, limiting the number of partners, etc. Sometimes this doesn't always happen though.

Don't feel like it's the end of the world. Like I said, millions of people have STDs. The only thing you can do is to learn to deal with it and be careful to not spread it to any other future partners. I know that's not the best thing to hear "deal with it", but there really is nothing else you can do. You can regret all the times you have had sex, but that's not going to change anything. All you can do is move on.

Answer 2

Sex is definitely a risk nowadays, probably moreso than it's ever been...however I don't think many would agree that people should be 'deprogrammed' to desire it.

I'm sorry you have HPV. Are you sure you acquired it from sexual activity? Do you know who passed it to you? Although there doesn't seem tdo be hard evidence that it is possible, it seems the medical community won't yet discount that it can be transmitted non sexually. Although, for someone who has it, that is likely not much of a comfort.

You may not be screwed for life, if effective treatments and/or cures are developed. Who knows what may lie down the road?

As for anyone truly fearing they may contract a sexually transmitted disease, about the only way to do that is to not engage in sex...that's true...or to only ever have sex with a partner you know is disease free...which pretty much elimimates casual sex...

STDs are risks we take as sexual beings...anyone who chooses to have sex, is choosing to take the risk (although they often have absolutely no idea what the risk is or how it will affect them if they've made a poor choice).

I haven't read a whole lot on hpv...what are your sexual options? Are you potentially limited now to only having sex with someone else with hpv, so that you know you won't pass it to someone who doesn't have it?

Answer 3

The virus that causes genital warts is spread by skin-skin contact. Condoms do not adequately protect against genital warts, because the infected spot may not be covered by a condom. The only reliable prevention is to have no skin contact with potentially infected tissue.
Total abstinence is the only fullproof way of avoiding genital warts and other STDs. You can also avoid STDs by having a monogamous sexual relationship with a partner known to be disease-free.
Please see the webages for more details on Genital warts (Human papilloma virus).

Answer 4

Finding a virgin isn't impossible, me and my best friend have decided to be virgins until marriage, and we're 19. You just have to look in the right places...It's so horrible that there are so many STD'S around, and many of the people who only have sex with people whom they love tend to catch them and suffer. Anyway, sorry that you're going through this pain, and good luck finding a woman! I'm sure you'll find that special someone. :)

Answer 5

Much of what you say is true. If you had a condom on and it slipped off, you either didn't put it on properly or you have a super small penis! As far as one breaking= You broke it on purpose or accidental! I am a lot older than you, a lot of guys and myself know that we broke them ourselves, it is either done on purpose or accidental, my vote is on purpose! When you put a condom on properly, it don't just fall off nor will it break. There by I must say, yep your life is screwed, but you did it buddy! So get real!

Answer 6

Dr's, do treat child molester with medication to kill
their sex drive. But you're not one of those creeps.
You would need to be into a very trusting relationship.
No cheating for either partner.
People put their lives at such a great risk for alittle
pleasure. Sad.

Answer 7

I'm asexual, so I have no desire for sex. That's good for me!

Answer 8

thats why you should always be prorectef!!!!!!