Move far away (best - another country)
Divorce
Death
2006-08-29 20:14:00
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answer #1
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answered by protos2222222 6
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My fiance and dad have the same problem. I found out that both just want whats best for you. You hubby should be the #1 man in your life right now and your dad second, if you always side with your dad you and your hubby will have problems. Sit down with them and let them both know how much their disagreement bothers you, if they are mature they will understand and be more understanding of each other.
2006-08-30 03:20:38
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answer #2
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answered by Anonymous
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Do you mean "THEY NEVER COME TO TERMS ON ANYTHING?" Perhaps its a competition for you're attention or love. Tell them in no uncertain terms if this is what it is, how badly it affects you. Let them know that it HAS TO STOP.
IF THAT'S NOT IT, then, they don't have to agree on everything. Your married to your husband, you left your family and became "one" with your husband (hey, you straights are the ones screaming about sanctity of marriage) so make it SO! Do what your Christ and God says and side with your husband unless he's morally wrong and going against the dictates of your God, if he's NOT doing that, then side WITH HIM.
You love your father, but he's just your father. Your husband is half of you, so you belong "with him" morally and spiritually, and you need to let your father know this.
Sad, 1/2 of marriage ends in divorce, yet WE are considered a threat to it!
2006-08-30 03:19:54
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answered by AdamKadmon 7
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They never will. My hubby and mom haven't gotten along for 14 yrs. I think maybe we chose the wrong "soul mate". I realize now my parents were always right about my hubby. I was just too stubborn to listen. Prayer is your best option.
2006-08-30 08:30:44
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answered by Anonymous
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I feel we shld always give in to the elders as much as possible. If the elder demands are not over the limits, try to satisfy them. To put it plainly, (sorry), he dosen't have much time to spend with u 2. Y not let him live happily together with u 2. U can do it by giving it to him. Ask your hubby to give in more to him. Always talk in a peaceful manner, politely. Remember, he's your father, your elder afterall. Think abt it, he gave birth to u. Any disagreement have to come to a compromise... Speak more to your father, let him know your views.. Everything can be settled.. You r his daughter afterall..
2006-08-30 03:46:41
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answer #5
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answered by monokye 3
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The only way you can handle it is to not let anything come between you and your husband or you and your dad. If either of them try to talk to you about it cor complain, let them know that you do not want to get involved.
2006-08-30 03:33:00
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answer #6
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answered by Patti C 7
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Ignore what you can and don't get involved with what you can't. Your husband will always be competing with your father and your father will always be finding fault with your husband. Both are trying to prove that they are more worthy of your love than the other. It's a male thing and best left for them to sort out.
2006-08-30 03:15:16
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answer #7
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answered by Lynn K 5
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Have them write down on a piece of paper what they agree and disagree about something. And then talk about what they disagree about and ask them Why they disagree about it. Make sure there is someone their to mediate between them. It is ok to agree to disagree. And then talk about the ones you do agree. Sometimes talking about the points you do agree on, helps you to see what you disagree on, and why you disagree on, though not always.
If they still can't agree I would suggest counseling depending on the situation or if you attend a church maybe a pastor or someone you know their.
2006-08-30 19:25:03
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answer #8
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answered by jrealitytv 6
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First of all, they aren't required to agree on anything. If they are all out arguing, you could let them know you won't be a part of it and leave if they continue. If you have to drive separately, then do it. Your point will be taken.
2006-09-02 18:23:31
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answer #9
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answered by rebecca r 4
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Do they not have anything in common besides you? Try to find some common interests - or make sure that they don't communicate besides the hellos - sorry!@
2006-08-30 10:56:33
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answer #10
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answered by nswblue 6
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Stay out of it. Just that simple. Let them work it out. They are big boys and they have to work out their differences, they are going to play in the same sandbox.
2006-08-30 03:18:17
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answer #11
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answered by NIck N 5
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