How hard is it to live with a Diabetic or have a relationship with one.?

Question

My boyfriend has Diabetesand he doesn't take good care of himself. He doesn't check his blood on a regular basis and he drinks regular pop and has all the wrong things. Mood swings are a problem and he acts different day to day. I guess I want to know how to handle someone like that. He is good to me but sometimes crabby!

Answer 1

I have type 1 diabete and i understant what you mean with all this. I rarely check my sugar level in blood because i feel fine. i check it when i fell weird. mood swings are usually happening during hypoglycemia (not enough sugar in blood). maybe his insulin is too high and he has to get his dosis adjusted. i highly suggest you to tell your bf to see an endocrinologist. i saw one lately and im going to change medication very soon. they invented new types of insulins which are better cause they are more stable in the body. if your bf travels a lot or work on shifts or skips meals, its the best thing. but remember, diabetes is not only about eating sweets or not. people think that but they are not well informed. diabetes control is about FOOD, MEDICATION and EXERCISES. its all about balance.

make sure that when your boyfriend comes over you have something to eat for him (fruits, yugourt ,or fruit juices are the best cause their sugar will last longer than chocolate, which gets high sugar fast but doesnt stay long enough). learn to use his glucometer and how to give im a shoot (always usefull). when the sugar is low DONT give an insulin shoot. ask him to explain all this to you and tell him that you are.. humm.. not worry but that you want him to have the best of health. understanding how he feels and why he does it is better than having only heard rumors about diabetes. each diabetic is different, but to a non diabetic person, it might sound... weird. but try to be in our skin, we have to give ourselves shoots 2-4 times a day. and checking blood sugar levels 4 times a day as well! no way! if you do it too often, you finger tips get all scratchy after a while and its annoying. if your bf check is sugar once a day at different times of the day, its a VERY GOOD START. he just has to note them on a calender, and then a doctor can adjust his insulin for optimal results. but i highly suggest those new insulins on that is stable during 24 hours and another that u give at every meal and is effective in the 5 minutes following the shoot.

well good luck with all that. i know living with a diabetic can be really hard at time but, dont judge us just because of our disease. get well informed and you should do fine and understand lots of things.

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Answer 5

If this guy does not want to take care of himself, then it's time to find a new boyfriend. Diabetes is not a disease where you can be on again and off again. It's a struggle to be in control of it or it controls you. Anyone tell you different, they lie.

No body, as yet, dies of diabetes. They die of all the complications diabetes causes. Mood swings are one one complication. Blindness, high blood pressure, nerve damage, heart disease are others to name a few. If he's not in control now, either he's newly diagnosed and in denial or simply does not want to do the right thing. If this is something new, maybe you can work with him to get in control and do what's proper. If this is not new, then I would say that you would be better off with someone else. There are simply too many things that will go seriously wrong with him - no one of them will be nice!

Answer 6

It's hard to live with a diabetic. I'm a diabetic and my second marriage ended because he couldn't handle my moodiest, my low blood sugars and have to take me to the hospital all the time for that reason. Now my diabetes is under control with an insulin pump and I check my blood sugars 6 or more times a day. I'm in a great relationship with a man that helps me with my diabetes. Like reminds me to check my blood sugars, help me decide how much insulin to take with a meal and not take too much to prevent low blood sugars. Plus he goes to my doctor's appoinment and ask questions that I can't answer. takes walk with me when he can. He's my support person and a Diabetic needs one. Your boyfriend needs to make a decession on helping himself and you need to be his support person. It's all up to him. But if he doesn't want to help himself then you need to deal with that or let him go!

Answer 7

Your boyfriend is in denial and prefers to ignore the disease. You can live like that as a diabetic for awhile, but he will, for sure, have failing kidneys, go blind, develop cardio-vascular disease, neuropathy (which is the death of nerves, usually affecting the penis early on, causing impotence (can't get it up)). So, he can start treating the disease or look forward to a short and miserable life. Your choice is whether or not you want to be part of such a relationship. Will he see an endocrinologist, a Dr who specializes in diabetes? Will he seek counseling? He is on a slippery slope to an early death.

Answer 8

Diabetes is an easy disease to let go if you don't have complications yet, as it doesn't hurt otherwise. If he doesn't take better care, he will have those complications, and they can be hard (or impossible) to reverse.

If you want to stay with him, encourage him to take better care of himself, starting with diet and exercise. Set a good example with food and pop, and suggest active things to do together (exercise brings high blood sugars down.)

It might also help to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with him about how his taking poor care of his diabetes concerns you. Ask him how you can help.

Answer 9

Me personally....I wouldn't have a relationship with someone who disregards his own safety like that. His behavior IS dangerous. Diabetes is nothing to fool around with. I had a niece who did that when she was younger....would eat what she wanted and just take more insulin. She went into a diabetic coma twice. She barely recovered from the second time. Your BF has no respect for himself....and if you don't respect yourself, then you really cannot respect others.

Answer 10

If he doesn't take care of himself, and control his disease, it is controlling him, and will eventually kill him. Along the way to the cemetary, it can cause kidney failure, blindness, sensory nerve damage and heart disease. If he doesn't care about himself, how much can he possibly care about you? I'd simply tell him if he doesn't take care of himself, then it shows he has no concern for the feelings of those who care about him, and find another boyfriend. You see, Diabetes is completely controllable, and one can live a totally normal life with it, but you have to take responsibility and control the disease, not let it control you. If he is so irresponsible toward his own needs, how responsible is he going to be towards yours over the long run? Leave the guy before he breaks your heart, if he won't take care of himself.