I have been divorced for a year now and have been seeing a man for about 5 months. He has never said that he loves me and he has said that he doesn't know if he will ever get married again. He has been hurt in the past, as have I. He is very loving and affectionate. He plans and takes me on alot of trips and outings. We are together almost every day and he calls me often. He stocks food in his house that he knows I like and has given he a key to his house which I use sparingly. We have a great time together and are very compatible. I think he knows how I feel about him, but he has never told me how he feels about me. I know he wants to take things slowly and I agree, but after 5 months, I would like to know how he feels. I don't want to push him. Should I stay, be patient and for how long, or should I find someone else? We are both in our early 50's and dating is fairly new to me. Thanks in advance.
2006-08-14 23:43:34 · 8 answers · asked by ButterflyB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me as though you have a very good relationship with this man and why do you want to ruin it?
He has made it clear that he wants to be more than friends but less than marrieds and you need to respect that.
Maybe someday he will decide differently but for now you should be happy with the way things stand between you.
Five months is not enough time to fall in love or at least not the kind of love that will take you through your lifetime.
Date him, share meals with him, take a few trips with him but do not push him or you will be the one losing out here.
Keep in mind you dont need a ring on your finger to be a whole person. Marriage isn't the be all end all of life, why tie yourself down when you've only been free to enjoy who you are for a year?
2006-08-14 23:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm happy to hear that you are getting over your divorce, and having this "new love" is a great thing.
Well, from what you say, it sounds to me that he REALLY cares about you. I don't know if I can go that far and say "he loves you", but the most important thing is that he sounds happy with you.
I think that you should be patient. You should not push him, cause pressure may scare him.
Maybe when you are in his arms in a special moment, you may just ask him (make it sound like smth that crossed ur mind at that moment), ask him if he loves you and smile.
I think that you should wait for the things to mature with the passing of time. Let him have his time to think over this relationship. If after 1 year or 1 year and half you still do not have the answers you are looking for, then it's better not to push this thing any further.
Wish you the best of luck.
2006-08-15 00:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that you should sit him and reassess your relationship. Ask what is his feelings for you and tell him how you feel about him. Don't be too pushy as these things take time, tell him that you are willing to take things real slow because of him but if he is taking things too slowly and getting nowhere then you are going to leave as you are wasting your time. So sit him down and talk to him. That is the only way to clear things up. Best of luck amigo and let me know how it goes.
2006-08-14 23:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and wait for the time he will tell you that he really love you.. At your age now you gotta find someone who will accompany you in your adulthood.... As you say that you two are compatible then why find somaone else!
2006-08-14 23:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you're having a good time. So, don't push him because he'll propably get frustrated and just wait. However, if you wait far too long and you realise that this is not how you want it to be,then walk out of this relationship.
2006-08-14 23:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jalena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that you guys get along great. but maybe he is scared to get too wrapped up becuase of his heart being broken before. he must have thought you were something specail to take a chance on you like he has, also, giving a key to you, the outings and trips. he might be confused himself on how he feels. if i were you id stick with him!! things will work out hun, good luck!
2006-08-14 23:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me that i have a same case ,,
but its a past for me ,, and we should always try a new thing..
well go on ..
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love you , even when you are so faraway from me ...
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love you , even when you got bad thoughts about me ...
love you , even when you left me and bye you didn`t say ...
love you , and sure one day you will know ...
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2006-08-14 23:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay in this realtionship. Ask him how he feels about you. Tell him you have a right to know. He sounds nice and you really like him, so stay with him.
2006-08-14 23:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋