How can i help my step sister get over her ex.He is still living with her at the moment whilst they are selling the house but he has another girlfreind who he seems quite serious about.She just doesnt seem to be able to except that its over.What can i do or say without being horrible but to help her face up to the fact that it really is over?
2006-08-14 23:38:20 · 30 answers · asked by jo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has very low self asteem since putting on some weight and does not drink so clubbing is very hard work.
2006-08-14 23:44:32 · update #1
Could she not move out to somewhere else while the house is being sold? She's only fuelling her misery staying there with him.
2006-08-14 23:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes you have to be a bit cruel to be kind i don't mean be really horrible but making her go out and enjoy herself away from the house will definitely help even though she probably doesn't feel like it. Also maybe try talking to the ex explain that she is very upset still and ask him to try and be a bit sensitive. Maybe she could move in with you for a bit? often when you have broken up with someone and you are still seeing them everyday it can be very difficult to let go she probably needs an extended time away from him. If she can't move in with you try to keep her occupied everywhere but the house make sure she sees her friends even ones that are mutual because that can also be a problem. But at the end of the day it takes time to get over anything and all you can do is support her and sit and wait until its over
2006-08-15 06:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps, she has nowhere else to go? or she feels ashamed to ask her friends or you for a shelter, after all, her marriage failed and her fairy tale did not end in happy ending, and she might be feeling that her pride is all she got left now... why not approach her and ask her solemnly and insist that she lives with you for a while or at least until the house is already sold, tell her you miss her company, and you need time to be with her and bond with her once more, make her feel that you are the one who needs her and not the other way around, so her self esteem may increase. Have a nice night out in a quiet place and have a heart to heart talk with her, perhaps after a bottle of wine, so she may let go of her all the pains she have not released yet. Best of all, pray for her and your Gudance. God bless
2006-08-15 06:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by blue_raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i found that its not things like clubbing and the old night outs what helped me i just found it easyer when i was with mates and family on long walks or like in your case your sisters so go shopping and talk show her that theres more fish in this big sea and that we have all had it done to us shes not the first and wont be the last but show her shes not alone because at that kind of time we are at out most low thinking we are on our own and that alone upsets people this goes for lads also just make her see its his loss and this should boost her confidance
2006-08-15 06:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by gstoat27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to matter what you say or what you do, she will get over it when she does and not a moment to soon.
What you can do is be there for her as she falls apart and to help pick up the pieces when she breaks.
It's to bad they are still in the same house, it only makes things worse when she sees him going out with this other lady.
2006-08-15 06:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all take her out of the house. That situation is unhealthy. They need distance between them. Hit the town if she feels like it. Other than that there is nothing u can do. Remember we all go thru the greiving period when we lose something we love, even lousy b/friends. Give her time. I have been there and back!
2006-08-15 06:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by coolcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you let her stay with you until,every things finalized and while shes there take her out get her to see life in a different light rather than the way shes use to living it. make a new future and forget the past. shes going to dwell on this and end up getting hurt or hurting someone else.
2006-08-15 06:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your job to make your sister have to get over her boyfriend, sweetie, since she does not want to. If she is still letting this looser live with her while he has another girlfriend.....she is beyond help. Buzz off and stay out of it......don't add to her problems. She is not done wanting to be beat up by this guy.
2006-08-15 06:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her on a night out. Hit the clubs and show her that there are other guys willing to get to know her.
2006-08-15 06:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a sister, Let her know that you care with out going overboard. I know that coming to facts with a relationship being over is the hardest thing ever. Just let her know that you love her because soon enough she is going to see that its over with out you telling her, and sees going to need your support!
2006-08-15 06:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by unitylife3105 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋