I dated this girl until a few days ago.She was nice loving and caring,i reflected the love back she even once told me that she wishes i could be her husband in future.But then she started to bring confusion saying her church does not permit our situation because of different religious churches.I brushed it off coz of what i felt for her.Still it bothered her coz i couldnt be part of her church.I never asked her to join me.She decided that we couldnt be and so we broke up.she hurts when i call her.I am so calm yet feel so betrayed and upset.I like to keep good friendly ties but this person did the worst to me.I wonder whether it is necessary for me to still talk to her,does she need me?i wonder where she has taken her heart.any advice...?
2006-08-14 23:28:56 · 13 answers · asked by ntaz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she is going throught a rough time and that she did not want to involve you afraid that you might leave her when you found out. So she took up the option to leave you instead. I think that she is crying out for help, go to her and let her know that you are there for her no matter what. It also sounds like there are other factors involved that she is not telling you about to protect you. Tell her that nomatter what you will always be by her side and that she can count on you to be there. The trick is to tell her this in person and you have to be genuine about it or she will never trust another person again. Be sure to tell her that the Church thingies should not be an issue now as you guys are still learning to know each other. If everything is meant to be then that little factor will work itself out. Best of luck amigo and let me know how it goes.
2006-08-14 23:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes i think you should still be her friend...Jesus never befreinded anyone just because of a different religion. if it is you two are to be together in the future then maybe you will just have to wait and see patient does take a part and some people change religions because they want to be with that person and still believe in God. either way you should still be her friend no matter what... sometimes it take time. another thing is to pray about it. only one person knows what is best for you..have faith !!!
2006-08-15 06:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by QC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... it would really take some time, you both need to heal first and both accept your situation, then, when you have done this and learned to respect and trust each other, despite of, then of course, you can still be friends. inter religious marriages are accepted in many parts of the world though... you need to talk to her, and make her understand that even though you are of different religion, you have just one God, and that God is a God of love, and He wouldn't like that a true love be destroyed because of Him will He?
2006-08-15 06:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by blue_raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.She broke up with you,she obviously decided that you were not important enough to her to make a compromise on religion, i know it hurts but to be friends is just going to continue to hurt you,you need to go on with your life.If you see her you can say hello and be friendly but do not go out of your way to call or see her.Good Luck.
2006-08-15 06:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny thing about life and living. We get old! These people you are growing up with will still be in your community decades from now. I know we don't think about that whee we are young. This lady will be your friend for the rest of your life. Be humble!
2006-08-15 06:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs u a lot at this moment but if she has already decided to tie a knot with some1 else then don't try bothering her.trust me everthing will go fine wid u & her also.jst console urself by thinking that this was the way it was supposed to end.
2006-08-15 06:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by junky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is a personal matter. I don't think she likes you if she said that. There are always way around it. Move on and don't get obsessed, they like to see you weak. Stay up, pimpin'!
2006-08-15 06:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by Matt Beezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what has happend to you. Maybe you shouldn't date her if she thinks the church is an unbreakable difficulty, which destroys your relationship.
2006-08-15 06:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a matter of whether she needs u or not. its whether u stil think its worth being her friend. perhaps u should talk to her about the religious issues.
2006-08-15 06:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by shereenchn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to this girl and tel her what you feel. it may make you feel better and maybe you two could work on your friendship.
2006-08-15 06:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋