Should I go? Its a sex thing, nothing more, chemistry you know. 9 years younger than me. Totally out of character for me but I so want to. By the way, he is so up for it too!
2006-08-14 22:52:36 · 43 answers · asked by Andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have only ever been I two long term, totally faithful relationships, I am 41....he is 32. Its sex, chemistry, I will meet him before jumping into bed! I have never done anything like this before.....give me a break you guys!!
2006-08-14 23:12:38 · update #1
I admire your willingness to explore.
The obvious issue is your safety here, but I will give you the benefit of the doubt. Your 41 and probably not a dumb woman.
I'm 43, and have found in recent years a desire to explore certain aspects of my sexuality. Thus far it has not included any partners aside from my wife. (I most likely will remain faithful to her).
That said, I regret not having been more opportunistic in my single years. Regret may be a strong word, but I have an appreciation for what I may have missed out on.
Your not going to get any younger. Go have some fun. Let yourself be the lustful woman you obviously are, and feel free to send me the details!
good luck.
2006-08-15 04:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by scott_v1963 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am not going to judge you. What I would say is do what you want to but make sure you are safe. Tell a friend where you are going, you dont have to say why you are going. Leave a note in your house to say where you went. Call the person from you mobile. (If you have a contract it will show on the bill should anything happen). Let the guy know that your friends know where he is. Get a friend to call you while you are there.
Remember to protect yourself. Take condoms with you, and tell the guy beforehand that you will not have sex without one.
Whatever you do have fun but be safe!!
2006-08-14 23:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before taking action, ask yourself:
1. What if he turns out to be an ax murderer?
2. What if he turns out to be a stalker?
3. What if he turns out to have an STD?
4. What will happen if you get pregnant?
5. What will happen if you get emotionally attached and then break up?
6. What does it say about your ability to love and give yourself to another person if sex produces no emotional attachment?
What I am aiming at here is that doing this could have a lot of destructive effects on your life, while not doing it could have a lot of good effects:
1. You safeguard your life
2. You safeguard your personal safety
3. You safeguard your health
4. You retain control over your body
5. You retain the possibility of getting emotionally attached only in circumstances where the relationship is going to last
6. You retain the ability to love and give yourself to another.
That sounds like the better deal to me...
2006-08-15 00:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of women, who have done what you have, then found out that he was a minor. That can get you 20 years.
There is also that chance, that he may be some sort of sexual deviant, who preys on women on line. I would think long and hard, before putting myself in harms way like that.
If you have to ask here, that means that you have doubts yourself. When in doubt, don't do it. You are far more likely to be glad at not doing it, then indulging in what could be a very dangerous situation.
2006-08-14 23:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by virgiinia r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How odd is the human personality? You don't know the guy, you've never met him, he's 9 years younger than you and it's purely about sex ... but you still want to do it? Of course he's up for it ... he's a randy guy!
Sit down and give yourself a good talking to! You could be letting yourself in for all kinds of dangers and/or problems, not least of which is a nasty STI.
Stay away!
2006-08-14 23:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
See it depends on you. if there is no chemistry than you both should not waste time, but sometime it's good to do things just for fun. just see what do u really want.
but you have to make sure that it's safe for you. If ou don't know the person that well than it's better not to go, you can be in trouble. It's yopr responsibility to keep yourself safe.
2006-08-14 23:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course he's up to it - he's a boy!! You only live once, so if you really want to, then do it. Hopefully you'll feel the same chemistry in person that you felt on-line! Just know that if you don't, it's not a crime to back out.
2006-08-14 23:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,, you are really so lucky girl..
go and its okay , its just a sex nothing more ,,
enjoy your desire and get a great making with him ..
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love you , and i am happy to be with you ...
love you , even when you are so faraway from me ...
love you , in spite of this long distant..
love you , even when you not do ...
love you , even when you got bad thoughts about me ...
love you , even when you left me and bye you didn`t say ...
love you , and sure one day you will know ...
love you , that all what i can do ...
love you , and never to stop loving you ..
love you .............
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2006-08-14 23:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like a great idea to me. Give it a miss. Until you can maybe meet in an environment that is in your control and get to know him better
2006-08-14 23:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it girl. i did it once and because there were no strings attached it was the best sex i have ever had. ( don't tell my hubby!!!)
meet in a hotel where there will be other people if you have any reservations but hey have a real good time.
2006-08-14 23:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by welshwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋