My ex boyfriend and I met 10 yrs ago, had a wonderful relationship for a yr and then he moved away. We remained really good friends over this period of time, but 2 yrs ago he came back out here on my birthday and asked me to marry him, but I said no. We are still friends and now my feelings are changing, I really think that I do want to marry him now. We had an open relationship when we were together before, but I don't want that now, I would want it to be just us. What should I do?
2006-08-14 22:49:42 · 15 answers · asked by caramel_angelkiss 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would say no only because it has never been just the 2 of you and you dont know how its gone b once hes tied down will he get tired of it than stray i think you just think youll be happier if your married it may b ok for a little while but than what im sure you want to be married 1 time and 1 time only you need to take things alot slower but in the end the desicion is yours to make i hope you choose whats best for you and your life
2006-08-14 23:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mm tough call and yes only you can really answer that - but why did he go away? I would suggest that you take things slowly again as it seems like he has just come back into your life. Maybe you should consider moving in together first to see how that works. I am not sure that marrying him is necessarily the right thing to do at this moment but if he is comitted to you then see how it goes - explain your feelings to him as you might be confused by his seemingly sudden proposal.
Good luck and i am sure if you love each other then it will work out.
2006-08-14 22:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by 1919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorta thinking, if you have to ask, than the answer probably should be no. Get back into a monogamous relationship with him before you jump into marriage - its a life long commitment and you need to make sure your making the right choice.
2006-08-14 23:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by kjay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. Dont rush into anything serious...especially marriage. Even though you remain really good friends, it doesnt tell you much about how he is as a relationship partner now. Open-relationships? doesnt sound like a commitement type ordeal...So talk to him, tell him what you want, and listen to see what he wants...Communication is gold!
2006-08-14 22:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you love him and want to marry him then sit down and talk to him explain that you said no because of whatever reason and that now that you have had time to think it over that you what to be with him and only him. I am sure he will be happy and you two will be happy together, goodluck
2006-08-14 23:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite him again! for a dinner or a lunch!
and be charming,if u felt he isn't gonna talk about it show him ur worm feelings...
simply tell him how much u miss him!
i think he still wants u!
tell him that u started to think differently in life.... give him only hints!
dont start talking directly about what u have in mind!
he will get ur point!
2006-08-14 22:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he asked u to marry him...that means he ants just the 2 of u also.this is something u need to take time and think about and talk to HIM about.
good luck though
2006-08-14 22:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him as soon as you can. I hope you do not plan to have an open relationship and marriage, make sure he understands what you desire.
2006-08-14 22:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow just your heart.we can all say soething but just your heart knows what you should do.listen to it.if he's a good man and there is love the answer shouldn't b that difficult.good luck!
2006-08-14 23:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him to resolve how you are feeling. Communication is always the best way.
2006-08-14 22:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋